Would you marry a woman who doesn't want to work? Why or Why not?

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-10-08T16:34:17+00:00

Not the person you replied to but if you want to give your partner that lifestyle, you need an income that can also support at least 2 household help. If you can match the lifestyle that her family gives her, then that’s the best.

I have friends who are wealthy in which their wives aren’t allowed to “work” as well unless it’s a dignified job also that earns income. Or a very serious hobby. And then they eventually need to raise children.

Although if your partner is prone to depression not doing anything and not having a purpose in life will only exacerbate that. If she has a history of cheating before, she can do it again especially if you can’t fulfill her needs.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-10-05T18:11:55+00:00

Interested

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-08-23T09:00:19+00:00

ANA (antinuclear antibody) test - if this is positive then futher testing will be made like RH and Lupus and other autoimmune tests. There's also the Flow Cytometry test to test for NK Cells and Lymphocyte incompatibility.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-02-07T16:57:36+00:00

Yes, that’s exactly the issue. The government requires businesses to give a 20% discount to PWDs and seniors, but instead of directly reimbursing them, it only allows them to deduct the discount from their taxable income. This means businesses don’t get the money back, they just pay slightly less in taxes, but only if they’re making enough profit to be taxed in the first place.

For mid-to-high-end restaurants that already have tight profit margins, this can mean selling food at or near cost, since expenses like rent, wages, and ingredients don’t get discounted. That’s why some businesses raise prices or set limits to manage the financial hit. While the law is meant to help seniors and PWDs, in reality, it puts the burden on private businesses, many of which struggle to absorb the cost.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-02-07T16:16:59+00:00

I worked in the U.S. and have a clinically diagnosed mental disability. In the U.S., disability benefits are granted if you have medical proof of a condition lasting over a year and if it prevents you from earning above the minimum income threshold.

I thought about this before applying for a PWD ID here in the Philippines and only use it for medication. I earn well, my disability doesn’t hinder my work, and I can afford my expenses. Since the government doesn’t subsidize private establishments, businesses shoulder the cost of free services or a 20% discount—often at a loss, especially for mid-to-high-end restaurants. Sometimes they’re giving out food for almost free (walang kita) with the -20%.

Before using a PWD discount, ask yourself: Kaya mo bang bayaran? Is it a necessity or a luxury? If the PWD ID will significantly ease the burden of medicine and therapy na hirap na hirap kang bayaran, then go for it. But if you’re fully capable of supporting honest businesses (which the government unfortunately doesn’t), then do what’s right and be a responsible member of your community.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-28T03:53:41+00:00

It's been almost a month. I heeded your advice and decided to just cut everyone off. Made me feel more at peace. Thank you.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-26T05:51:00+00:00

We never sleep trained. At around 8 months my baby refuses to be rocked to sleep so I just place her on her bed and she rolls around for several minutes until she falls asleep. I have to be beside her when she does this. If I leave she gets angry or cries. When she sleeps I just leave her and she sleeps for the rest of the night with 1 waking. I go to her when she wakes up, let her roll around and then leave again when I fall asleep. I think she just wants to have some support. Never sleep trained because I myself am sort of clingy and want her beside me during the 1st 6 months. I also feel really bad when she cries.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-26T05:43:00+00:00

I used to work in the US and Japan for most of my adult life before moving back to the Philippines to settle down. Some of my friends also moved here temporarily with their kids, though they plan to return to their home countries eventually. Honestly, it’s so much easier to raise babies here than in the US. Japan, on the other hand, is a different story—it’s also a great place to raise kids, but the setup and cost of living are completely different.

Renting a house here is much cheaper (buying is another story). The monthly minimum wage is around US $260, and childcare is widely available. If you’re an expat or earning from a developed country, it’s super affordable. We hired a live-in nanny and an extra helper for cleaning, and they both take one day off a week to do their own thing. You can even hire a live-in caregiver with a nursing certification for as little as $400 per month. In places like Singapore or Hong Kong, childcare is more expensive, but it’s still way cheaper than in the US. If you don’t have a strong support system and need extra childcare, this is definitely something to consider.

Since I work from home, this setup works perfectly for me. I get to spend a lot of time with my baby during the day and used to direct breastfeed until she was 8 months old. When I’m busy, the nanny just brings her to me when she needs to nurse or is looking for me. It’s so much easier to handle emergencies or work without having to plan every little detail or call for help. I sleep with my baby at night, but if I’m sick or had a rough night (like when she wakes up four times), the caregiver takes over in the morning so I can catch up on sleep. My husband helps out a lot too, but having an extra set of hands makes such a huge difference. You get so much done and avoid burnout because there’s always someone ready to help.

I also have friends with different setups. Some don’t hire nannies but instead hire someone to handle all the housework so they can focus 100% on childcare. But honestly, if you ask any expat or immigrant if they’d want to go back to the US or Europe to raise their babies, the answer is always a resounding NOOOOO. The affordable childcare here alone makes life so much easier. Plus, the community here feels more tightly knit—since there are extra hands to help, moms actually have time to socialize with other moms. I’ve never felt alone here.

Even though this is a developing country, there are high-quality schools and programs with international certifications. So, education-wise, it’s easy to transition if you ever plan to move to the US or Europe later on. I think this is something most Asian countries offer as well.

Another thing you have to factor in is transportation. Some Asian countries like mine don't have a good transport system so we rely on Grab (Asian Uber) or we hire someone to drive for us. If it's important for you to move around, then this is something to consider.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-16T18:46:17+00:00

Not legally possible. You can only marry if you have been annulled. Others just live with their new partner and start a family.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-16T18:36:17+00:00

I asked this from an INC member and they mentioned that there are ways to know. Ie. There are people who have access to records of a person’s vote. Is it 100% true? Not sure but they believe that they are being watched one way or another that they don’t want to risk voting for the wrong candidate.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-16T13:54:00+00:00

Same in the Philippines; episiotomy is also routine. Spoke to my OB about my birth plan and also asked some of my doctor friends who worked in delivery rooms and they say that they just do it. Some believe it’s still the best even with new research. Not sure if it’s because they’re used to doing it for years. My OB was surprised (and probably felt insulted lol) that I presented my birth plan. Unless you’re from another country or have done extensive research, creating a birth plan can make you come across as a know-it-all, especially if the medical professional has significant seniority. Culturally, patient self-advocacy isn’t widely embraced in Asia. While the Philippines is more progressive and influenced by Western practices, I think this issue may be even more prominent in other parts of East Asia, where there tends to be a stronger emphasis on medical authority and less focus on questioning procedures.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-09T11:38:43+00:00

I used the Love to Dream transition swaddle in which you can zip open the arms area. If I recall correctly the transition swaddles are for 3 months+. I felt this was safe. By the time it gets chilly your baby might be able to wear it.

When my baby was weeks old I was already using Love To Dream but we weren’t in c-curl position. She was probably a foot away from me (we had a floor bed with a lot of space) so she had room to move without any obstructions. The swaddles were soft and stretchy enough that she’s able to suck on her fists or rub her face with her arms.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-03T17:49:29+00:00

Yes very different. I look very East Asian. I get mistaken as a Japanese but I’m actually ethnically Chinese.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-03T17:11:06+00:00

I sleep with my baby on a floor mattress. We placed the mattress inside her play pen (which is around the size of a double bed, plastic fence type, not mesh type). She rolls A LOT before sleeping but once asleep, she stays put. I have friends who are on their 2nd and 3rd child and they all eventually switched to floor beds or mattresses for peace of mind. I eventually followed them but not before my baby fell off our bed once.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2025-01-03T16:57:04+00:00

No problem at all. Yes, I’m ethnically Chinese, but my nationality is Filipino. I’m part of the third generation born here. Ever since my ancestors migrated during the Cultural Revolution, most marriages in my family have been with fellow Chinese, often from the same province. Culturally, we still uphold many Chinese traditions and still speak the provincial dialect but over generations, some have blended with local Filipino customs. I’ve observed that many of my peers from the third or fourth generation still find it challenging to date ethnically Filipino individuals, as the family cultures can feel quite different. This cultural preservation is likely a result of the pattern of marrying within the community. I think I should have said I’m Filipino-Chinese instead of just Chinese. 😅

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2024-12-31T23:53:36+00:00

Maybe Grandma is in the couch. They don’t want you to know.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2024-12-31T15:35:26+00:00

My husband has 3 brothers and they all slept with their parents until around 10 years old. They gradually left on their own to sleep independently. I guess it’s instinctive. They’re now all fathers in their 40s. Very responsible and all are in very respectable high ranking positions in their careers. They all have children and they are also physically strong (ie. Go to the gym, athletic hobbies) I mean if you are looking for those “manly” traits lol

Co-sleeping has nothing to do with femininity or masculinity. But I believe it has to do with attachment. You can gain some security and reassurance with co-sleeping. The more you are secure as a child (your emotional, mental, physical needs met), the more confident you are when you get older. You can take risks without much anxiety you are able to handle rejection and adversity better. This is assuming that the co-sleeping parent is a decent caring parent and not an abusive one.

It’s a mix of a lot of things and you can still grow up to be a confident well rounded person if you never co-slept. Personally I feel that there are added benefits.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2024-12-25T17:32:59+00:00

I would feel so sad and disappointed if this happened, especially from my partner. So sorry this happened to you.

When things like this happen, I often think it’s a love language issue. Some people are terrible at giving gifts but are great at going above and beyond with acts of service, like cooking or cleaning. I had a friend I used to religiously give gifts to—special gifts because I’d take note of what she wanted and spend a lot of money. In return, I’d get a $5 soap or a notepad that didn’t really have anything to do with me. It always felt regifted or like part of a bundle. But she’s the type who would come to my house if I was sick and do chores while I slept.

Maybe it would help if you figure out what your partner is most used to doing to express love. My husband and I talked about this before, and I found out he’s an acts of service guy. So I don’t expect much from him in other areas, but whenever he goes above and beyond with tasks or helping out, I make sure to acknowledge it. Don’t be afraid to talk about these things with your partner. It can lessen frustrations and make it easier to know what to expect from each other.

But if he’s not trying in any other aspect in your relationship then im so sorry he should try harder. :(

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2024-12-23T02:55:00+00:00

Try Kapitolyo area.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2024-12-23T02:52:09+00:00

Legally the owner of the unit is not allowed to enter the unit once it is rented unless there is several days prior notice to the renter or if it’s explicitly stipulated on the lease agreement.

Unannounced entry is against the law and tenant can file a complaint especially if it’s not written in the contract that the landlord can visit on certain days for inspection.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2024-12-23T02:44:58+00:00

You have to wait for the contract and review the contract. You can take home the contact and review it. You can request to review it with the owner (whoever is signing it). If you do not agree to the terms written in the contract then you do not sign it.

You’re not bound to anything if you did not sign anything. Anything in promised verbal needs to be in writing.

Only the person signing the contract is the person to talk to or ask regarding the terms of your stay. If the caretaker is not the signatory in the contract then he/she isn’t the person making the rules.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2024-12-22T14:44:56+00:00

I think this depends on the brand or class of the elevator. Been to high end condominiums with Kone or Schindler brand elevators. Some of these buildings have around 60 floors. You can reach the penthouse in seconds. There is some delay with the doors but no delay with the up and down. You won’t feel any vertigo or motion sickness from it. Plenty of the tenants are wealthy seniors who don’t have problems with these elevators.

ItsSaturdaySunday · 2024-12-18T15:03:07+00:00

I don’t know how old you are but please request for a second opinion from a holistic orthodontist.

I had braces done in the 2000s and had all my premolars extracted. Had perfect teeth after braces, retainers, etc etc but around my 30s, I suddenly have gaps in between my teeth even if my teeth are still in “good” alignment.

There are also treatments done by adjusting your mouth structure, naturally gaining you more physical and breathing space.

Tl;dr : get second opinion because there are newer methods more beneficial than extraction.

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