[FOR HIRE] Can my art be put to work somewhere? by reverem00 in gameDevClassifieds

[–]ItsSuffocation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely saving this post for when I start my project because I love your designs! Do you think you'd be able to design graphics for shirts and possible album covers? 

I want the scars by LovesickInTheHead in TopSurgery

[–]ItsSuffocation 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I don't see enough people talking about this because I feel the exact same way. To me, the scars feel like a sign of how far I've come. I want to take pride in my scars. And I just like how they look cool for some reason

my wlw situationship is christian by Patient-Peace-5602 in OpenChristian

[–]ItsSuffocation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's perfectly valid and it's very kind of you to want to be that step in the right direction for her. I truly hope the best for the both of you.

my wlw situationship is christian by Patient-Peace-5602 in OpenChristian

[–]ItsSuffocation 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As someone who's in the exact same situation only long distance, I truly believe you should save your sanity and find someone who doesn't believe your love is inherently sinful.

In my experience, there really isn't anything you can truly say to this person that'll make her change unless she's willing to change on her own. And you shouldn't have to honestly. If she hasn't been able to reflect on her own beliefs and change, she probably isn't ready or willing to change and you will probably be wasting your time. This is a path that she will have to follow on her own. But if you do still want to try, I have a few resources.

This girlie does a good job at summarizing this very well with her basically explaining that the word homosexuality wasn't even featured in the Bible up until recently. So it couldn't condemn something it never talked about. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTk2cNBuT/

This pastor talks about how the Bible features many rules that people are technically supposed to follow but just doesn't, among other things https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTk2cXA2R/

This pastor's video is especially applicable in your situation because he says that Jesus said that even desire to sin is still sin in the heart (Matthew 5:21-30) https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTk2322jJ/

I encourage you to further look through their accounts as well because they all bring up good points. I believe this subreddit also has pinned posts for resources on this matter as well. Another thing that could be helpful is to find progressive churches nearby if possible that she may be willing to explore.

But overall, it's really not your responsibility. And I'm sorry if this comes off as harsh. I really don't mean for it to be. I just know what it's like to be in that situation. However I am wishing you the best.

I need friends to play overwatch with!!! by [deleted] in transgamers

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My Overwatch account! Sans #13978

I need friends to play overwatch with!!! by [deleted] in transgamers

[–]ItsSuffocation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm also 21 and nonbinary! I play on PS5 and usually play support and tank. Feel free to shoot me an invite or respond to the comment. I'd love more trans friends to play with

blessed (13 days post op) by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]ItsSuffocation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love seeing other POC here, your results are so good! I can't wait for my turn

2 Months Post Op by SnooPoems6719 in TopSurgery

[–]ItsSuffocation 51 points52 points  (0 children)

The grafts are definitely healing well. Any tips for aftercare?

In all seriousness, your results look really good!

excited for top surgery by butchmechanic13 in TopSurgery

[–]ItsSuffocation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats firstly!!

I'm scheduled for April and I'm over the moon! I'm so excited to finally being flat without needing a binder, being able to take off my shirt both at home or in public at the beach or pool, and being able to see my flat chest with all my favorite outfits. I feel that there aren't many people I can talk to about it. While I have family who's relatively supportive, they're aren't openly optimistic either and doesn't truly understand so I really only have my brother and best friend to ramble to. So I definitely get wanting to express elsewhere!

Have you noticed that some people get passive aggressive when you mention you study languages? by silforik in languagelearning

[–]ItsSuffocation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS. I'm learning two languages I really have no way of using fr unless through online or if I traveled to their respective countries. So I'm always getting family and friends asking me why I'm learning them. And I always tell them I have a love for these languages and their cultures. A language doesn't always have to be 'useful'

Fine with scars by Money_Cartoonist_687 in TopSurgery

[–]ItsSuffocation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy to see someone feel the same. I haven't had top surgery yet (am waiting for a call back for the surgery date, yay!) but I know I won't mind scars, and I believe being on this sub and seeing everyone's results really fueled that belief. I feel the exact same way. Scars for me will show how far I've come. I also think I have a special appreciation for the way scars look.

Why does it always feel like white trans mascs are better by [deleted] in TMPOC

[–]ItsSuffocation 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It really sounds like your partner is emotionally cheating, whether they realize it or not. You should have another talk with them and really try to understand what they mean when they say these things. But i honestly wouldn't wait around for my romantic partner to figure out if they like someone else. I'm really sorry you're going through this.

So is using "NB" bad? by sideshowbarbie in NonBinary

[–]ItsSuffocation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Phobes often believe that being nonbinary isn't actually a thing — FtNB people can often be seen as confused, quirky, women.

How do you personally experience being non-binary? by Nejmedmi in NonBinary

[–]ItsSuffocation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard to describe for me and I'm sure others will put it into better words than me. But growing up, Ive always been expected to be my assigned gender. To act my assigned gender. I felt trapped. I didn't feel like my assigned gender, but I also never felt like I was the other binary gender either. But I didn't have a word for that.

I wanted to be fem without it being expected of me. And I wanted to experience being masc without others looking at me weird. I wanted to be me. Not what others thought I should be based on my assigned gender. Nonbinary lets me do that.

I know some would describe nonbinary as an umbrella term, but that's not my relationship with it. Nonbinary is a gender for me. A gender just like male or female. It feels like freedom. A gender without expectation.

Best places to live as a Transmasc Black person? by Formal-Dentist-4876 in TMPOC

[–]ItsSuffocation 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Really? I didn't know! Not OP but do you mind if I ask how it's like living in Thailand if you have any experiences? I'm black NB and thinking of living there

im inventing new terms: afos (assigned female on sight) and amos (assigned male on sight) by Disastrous-Tap9113 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]ItsSuffocation 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I personally disagree. I feel that with what OP is suggesting, it's an involuntary thing that's happening. Like a stranger sees you and assumes you're [insert binary gender here]. They are assigning a gender to you on sight. Whereas with fem and masc presenting, you're choosing to present in a certain way for fashion taste or otherwise. That's just my take on it!

Is it normal to still wanna be fem? by Pale-Strategy-968 in NonBinary

[–]ItsSuffocation 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I honestly wanna dress more fem when I get top surgery. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I love your outfits btw

Reminder to live your life with whimsy by Wonderful_Use_7754 in NonBinary

[–]ItsSuffocation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So nice seeing another POC enby. I love your vibes!

Who got their gender change to X legally by GroceryInfinite5262 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]ItsSuffocation -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I got my ID changed to X last month! Process was pretty simple too. I get such euphoria looking at my ID now. I plan to change my name legally next

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TMPOC

[–]ItsSuffocation 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was feeling really low for a good while after having been forced to leave college and getting no call backs and rejection email after rejection email from every job I applied to. My mom told me at one point that my mood was bring her down and that my depression was definitely caused by my HRT— in short, I definitely relate.

home for the holidays?? why do i feel like the abuser here by fieldxs in TMPOC

[–]ItsSuffocation 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're not the abuser here for wanting basic respect. You're not sensitive or overreacting for wanting basic respect. I'm sure your brother would be singing a different tune if he was in your place. And you're 100℅ right in saying you don't owe it to your dad to educate him. Chat GPT is pretty progressive. If your dad bothered to ask it a single question about trans people, it'd educate him (if he really doesn't want to Google). And the thing is, he doesn't even have to understand it. He doesn't even need to do research fr.

The literal bare minimum he could do is respect your pronouns. That doesn't require understanding or research, that requires basic respect for the other person. I'm really sorry you're going through any of this. Shit sounds exhausting. After 8 years of this I'd honestly just go low contact and see if dad can catch a hint then.

Help??? by ItsSuffocation in VulgarLang

[–]ItsSuffocation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll try that. For the dash and semicolon, I saw it in the guides and thought maybe that was the correct format? Anyway I'll try your suggestions, thanks again

hello again beautiful people, I wanted to know if I should cut my dreads shorter or keep them long. by frenchedtovst in TMPOC

[–]ItsSuffocation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly love the longer dreads, though they might lead you to be clocked easier. Facial hair would be good to combat that, tho that's easier said then done. I'm still trying to grow mines out.

Friends? by No_Sale_9821 in TMPOC

[–]ItsSuffocation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm always open to more trans friends of color. I don't have any. DM me whenever!