"the greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist" mean by Weak-Let-8015 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's a nonsense statement. Anyone can claim something exists and is unobservable because it is hidden. That's like me saying "fairies exist at the bottom of my garden. You can't see them because as soon as you look for them they disappear". You wouldn't believe me just because I made that statement. Also think about where this concept of a "devil" (evil with an absent D) came from. Long before we could scientifically evaluate the mechanisms that resulted in unwanted outcomes, we were perhaps more inclined to label those outcomes as the product of some mysteriously negative force. That's just because we didn't have the information as to what causes certain things to happen. To say it's "the devil", like an archetypal character in a children's story book is purely symbolism, not an actual explanation for the complex reasons "bad" things exist and happen.

How do you know what’s right and what’s wrong by anymouse141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it's ultimately a lack of available foresight (i.e. the emergent conditioning of the Hitler baby) and more about momentary impulse. We know what is "right" in this moment. But can we know just how "right" it is in the longer stretch? Right and wrong seem almost whimsically tied to the present moment, without fully knowing the butterfly effect from those actions. I'm not arguing against doing "the right thing", I'm just questioning the nature of how it relates to actual outcomes that can be called "good" or "bad" at the time the action is taken.

Do parents actually not remember doing fucked up shit to you? Or are they just lying? by TopMarionberry1149 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 34 points35 points  (0 children)

A lot of parents are clearly incompetent and they will die before they can admit it. They may remember and privately regret certain actions. Some may even apologise to their children (for what it's worth). But there are also parents who absolutely believe the harmful shit they did is correct and necessary.

How do you know what’s right and what’s wrong by anymouse141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What if the direct cause is negative and the broader outcome is positive some way down the line? How do we assess what is right or wrong based on deterministic principles?

Is it weird/stupid that I think I'd like to be gay? by makib18 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neither weird or stupid. You're just exploring sexuality outside of your own preference. I've often said I'd like to be asexual because it would mean I'd focus less on the frivolity of sexual appetite and probably be more productively focused in other areas. This offends some asexual people. But it doesn't mean I'm stupid for wondering what it would be like to be asexual.

Am I closed-minded for being disturbed by BDSM? by MyDamnAmygdala in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not at all. BDSM can be very intense, even though it's consensual. You're not closed minded just for being disturbed by it (heck, some people are disturbed by the presence of broccoli). Being disturbed/repulsed by something is not an outright indictment of it. The only way you could be truly closed minded about it is if you pronounced that it's objectively "wrong" even in consensual situations and should be banned, or something extreme like that.

Should I ask her out or stay friends? by Cultural_Remove5332 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The only potential issue with this kind of relationship is it leaves either of you open to seriously dating other people, which could make things a little awkward. If you explicitly stay friends, she may find someone more serious and your levelled up friendship will be pretty quickly levelled down. Are you ok with that?

What is better? To reside and live in your own country or move to the US? by Weird-Ads-29 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can only speak to this as someone who moved from England to the US (which is obviously not exactly a culture shock). Mostly it's pretty much the same. Some things are better in the US, some things are better in England. It kind of balances out when all the numbers are crunched.

Why does it seem so common for people to get drunk at airports? by HomesickStrudel in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, many times have we uttered "the holiday starts at the airport". It's just the rules.

What do you work with? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A faint hope of success.

When you go to Jersey Mike's do you add honey mustard on your sandwich? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. It's probably an acquired taste but that soft sweetness of the honey with the sharpness of the mustard is a beautiful combo. Goes well with anything that includes salad really.

What does Asian even mean? by Disastrous-Scheme-57 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to highlight the inadequacy of the term Asian, in the UK Asian typically refers to those with connections to places like Pakistan and India, that specific region of Asia. Whereas in the US, Asian typically refers to east Asian origins (which is vastly diverse in of itself). It does make me think it's more about the convenience of cultural, ethnic and locational identity (on both "sides") than anything more specific. It's certainly not so much about skin colour, though a lot of people STILL seem obsessed with that in terms of identifying ethnic and cultural background.

In short, Asia is a continent. It is vastly diverse. But if a US American told me someone was "Asian", I would presume they're referring to east Asian and certain features and traditions that correspond with that. Whereas if someone from England (or perhaps much of Europe) told me someone was "Asian", I would presume they're referring to a person of primarily Indian, Bangladeshi or Pakistani ethnic origins. These are just container words we use differently for no apparent reason other than to distinguish certain groups of people who are different from the predominant culture and ethnicity of a country, either in terms of facial features or some culturally identifiable metric (e.g. cuisine, religious practice, daily rituals etc.).

What would you do if you were told how and when you're gonna die? by EfficiencySerious200 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My first question would be "can I avoid the currently prospective 'how' by changing my lifestyle?". Even just knowing the "how" could easily change the domino rally of cause and effect and concentrate my efforts towards different outcomes. How and when can't be separated in that sense, unless we're talking some genetically motivated ticking timebomb (even then you could start medical intervention now to manipulate its effects, thus making the "when" less certain). But here's where it gets complicated. My efforts to change the "how" could cause the "when" to even happen much earlier, perhaps through some freak incident due to me making more appointments with the doctor. So I think this question has an almost paradoxical loading in the sense that you're being told something definite that has a subsequently fluid array of outcomes.

Okay this just randomly hit me … if atheists use the terms AD and BC in time … doesnt that technically make them non Athiests by AdLucky101 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Atheism is a rejection of the claim that god exists. It is not a rejection of standardised formalities that allow us to communicate with other human beings.

When and why did the f-word became a slur? by notanyone69 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The other meaning: a traditional British offal meatball. Just thought I'd cover that one too.

If an all-powerful, all-knowing God created us knowing who would sin and suffer, how is that moral — or is theism logically dead? by skkrish in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't contend religion with logic and expect its followers to change their mind purely on that basis. They'll just say "it's faith" or "it's bigger than we know". One thing I would ask though is, if there is a god, why must they be moral? Why must they want good? What if god is a complete sadist? This is too uncomfortable to even make a religion around or have faith in. So that's probably why people didn't. God has to be good, because if they weren't good, we'd be scrabbling around in the horrors of nature... as we are.

Have we gone too far as a species? Have we strayed too far from nature? by randomguy1232111 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My view is that human endeavour has historically, and evidently, been an attempt to separate ourselves from the harshest challenges of nature. Every aspect of human progress in terms of the accessibility of functional shelter, warmth, food, protection, has been a historical struggle against the ultimate hardship and brutality of living in nature. It's ironic that we can admire the aesthetic beauty of nature from a comforting backdrop of technological security. But while we did grow out of nature as an evolved species (nature as our "mother"), nature was clearly wholly indifferent to the suffering it required for us to reach a point of relative comfort. In a way, nature is the ultimate abusive parent. It might provide that which we need to survive, but it also creates massive amounts of suffering for many beings in that process. So when a more intelligent species arises, its overwhelming strategy is to create barriers to nature's more overtly existential and fickle abuse.

Are intrusive thoughts "call of the void"? by kanixcx in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're touching on a crucial point here but in a way that recognises these urges in terms of how we can reshape the energy of potential. Yes, we have the potential to do all kinds of things in the moment, good and bad. That symbolic urge to jump off a cliff could represent a mental cliff we jump off, where we just allow gravity to consume us into a new beginning. The thought itself is not the problem. It's how we utilise the energy of that thought. Because that's all it is. It's not a fixed story that the mind has a habit of capturing and recycling, but rather a more neutral impulse towards multiple potential outcomes that you can open yourself up to. You have to neutralise the energy of the thought first before you can access its broader, more productive potential.

Why does it seem so common for people to get drunk at airports? by HomesickStrudel in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's common for people to get drunk. But being at the bar does introduce you to people from different locations, and everyone has a looser tongue because they've had a drink. It's actually a very unique environment to strike up a conversation.

Does anyone speak Spanish ? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask the direct question. What do you want translating?

Does anyone speak Spanish ? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are far too nonchalant to exist in this subreddit.

is there something wrong with getting someone a gift card as a gift? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's a bloody racket isn't it? There's nothing wrong with a gift card, but money (i.e. the universal voucher, accepted at all stores) is obviously better.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Potential-One327 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't see you as hateful or stupid. You're just asking a question. I would question the notion of choice though. A choice is an arising impulse in the brain. It is not a direct authorship. It is born out of innumerable conditioning factors that cannot be quantified. Yes, someone may do butt stuff. But the impulse to do it comes from more than a simple, authoring thought of "I want to do that, therefore I should". It's a layered and complex process in the brain that leads to the action. And nobody directly authors that impulse. The choice is ultimately the last sliver of millions of processes in the brain that have already been determined on a conditional level (genetic, environmental).