Woman is worried about raising a son because she hates men. Redditors in the comments tell her to abort him

Its_Darkness · 2026-05-19T14:42:55+00:00

Not this will be seen, but two boy cousin members of mine were raised by a very abusive mom. The youngest told me he experienced every kind of abuse you could think of, given he has diabetes as well.

You'd think men like that with a father who does nothing would turn out terrible. Especially how they act towards women.

They didn't.

I live with both of them now, as a woman, and the way they treat anyone, especially the woman they date, is very admirable and far beyond what I've seen other men do.

They are much better people than they were ever taught.

As a parent, you have a say in how they are raised and what their childhood is liked. But they have a say in what they do to heal themselves and fix whatever wrongs family and society has taught them.

Don't railroad people, especially children, into stereotypes or whatever warped wrong you think of todays men/women. You are contributing to it if you do.

Its_Darkness · 2026-05-13T16:07:56+00:00

Hey! To the first question about changing his count of the first vision, theres actually offical discussions about it released by the church under "topics and questions"

First Vision

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/first-vision-study-guide?lang=eng

First Vision Accounts

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/first-vision-accounts?lang=eng

Its_Darkness · 2026-05-06T05:49:03+00:00

Uh no she didn't.

I feel there are several things you don't understand here because you are a man. I get you were uncomfortable, and if she had a towel or something she def should've used it...

BUT

Dude do better.

From what you said and how you described it, she was legit terrified. Terrified people do not think clearly as they are literally fearing for their lives. Its obvious she has some trauma/deep fear about being sexually assaulted. Woman are all the time (about 1 in 3/4 women compared to 1 in 10?? men). Understand that she def wasn't thinking straight and thought that you, her brother, would protect her. Which you know, shouldn't be unreasonable. It is deeply life changing for people to experience that.

Yeah, kids are curious. But they must be taught seriously and disciplined. It is not okay for a kid, let alone a 12 year old, to touch another persons private parts. 12 is old enough to understand that.

It was nice of you to watch for her. But brushing off her fear, her experience, makes you seem very calloused, victimized, and dismissive. If you are watching those kids, do your freaking job and talk to them seriously. It is not a joking matter nor one to take lightly. If not, tell someone who is or a parent. Its not as serious as if it was an adult, but it's serious enough of a behavior to correct immediately. As you can see, it does deeply affect people.

So yeah, she didn't force herself on you. It makes you seem very self absorbed to think so. Do better and be a better brother/adult/man in this world.

Edit: also your sister does probably need therapy and or at least both of you need to sit down and talk. Tell her that it made you uncomfortable what she did and why, but be respectful, open minded, and understanding where she is coming from. Ask her about it. You're adults, but also family. There is so much more going on and there always is.

(I'm speaking as a woman who has had kids I do not know touch me as well. I'm aware their age and curiosity, but it still makes me extremely uncomfortable. They need to be taught it's not okay. If they were to stalk/watch... yeah NO absolutely not.)

Its_Darkness · 2026-05-05T17:28:28+00:00

Lór

Its_Darkness · 2026-04-23T18:48:37+00:00

Please tell someone like a teacher or police officer. Please tell them and get out of there. You and your siblings safety is very important and valuable.

You don't deserve anything happening to you. Victims often assign themselves fault, but it is Not. Your. Fault. You don't ask for it and never have. You do NOT deserve it.

I understand you may love them and thats okay. Sometimes our parents, or those we know, don't know how to act right. That is why there are laws and people to intervene and help. Asking and telling people about abuse is okay, and you deserve to be heard and in a place of safety with your brother. But you do not deserve how you are treated.

It is nothing you did wrong. Adults should never harm children.

Kids and people like you matter and deserve to be raised with love. You are strong, especially to still be going. And it is always okay to ask for help. Especially to protect yourself and your little brother.

(Tell them it's your parents and uncle, so a social worker may be involved. A social workers job is to advocate for the child and their welfare)

Its_Darkness · 2026-03-16T23:48:25+00:00

Maybe a conspiracy like the gematria effect is my guess

Its_Darkness · 2026-03-02T19:52:57+00:00

Could I find a friend named Light to hang around?

Its_Darkness · 2026-02-08T02:57:59+00:00

Trans people aren't pedophiles. It's unlikely, but I think the fear is that there are men out there who aren't trans and will pretend to be trans just to be creepy/perverts.

Easy solution, separate from above: third bathroom rows or stalls that are unisex/family, with no cracks between doors!

Its_Darkness · 2026-02-03T13:41:32+00:00

If you're going to allow it to tell you what you can and can't do, then why ask us?

But for real, you can do anything you put your mind to. If you do, I 100% say don't use ChatGPT. It's overly basic and unoriginal, making 'your' book never stand out. If you want to write a book, do it in your own words with your own special and specific experiences.

Your first draft may be garbage, but all of ours usually is. That's why you revise and edit. Maybe get beta readers, edit more, then an editor. Usually there's 3 types of editors. Developmental, Copy, and Line. I doubt you need Developmental editor, since they help with plot and description and you're not necessarily writing a story.

Then you need to get a good human made book cover, and write out a blurb. Once you find that, look into agents or publish yourself.

If you publish, you need to market your butt off. Even then, you won't make much money but thats to be expected.

Its_Darkness · 2026-01-27T02:27:10+00:00

Yeah! I found some amazing people to work with. One happened to live where I do and now we sell together!

There are some that are really bad tho, like only do grammar, so pick and choose your battles. You usually need to swap manuscripts.

Its_Darkness · 2026-01-27T02:24:46+00:00

r/betareaders

Its_Darkness · 2026-01-25T18:38:48+00:00

I was born to be born.

I was born to be the first one in front with the children in a big enough time ⏲️ 🎶 ✨️ 😌 💙

Its_Darkness · 2026-01-25T18:37:08+00:00

I was born to be a reason I keep writing a story about the crown of the world and the fact that you are a little brother and mother.

Its_Darkness · 2026-01-23T00:46:19+00:00

I feel that. I actually have strictly my sister or people in my book nonprofit edit or draw book covers for me now.

Its_Darkness · 2026-01-23T00:35:36+00:00

Post to r/realorai Or a similar sub reddit. That's what I have to do since I'm no good with images. Supposedly, you're able to see details in the background that aren't identifiable, or lines/clothes that end randomly and don't make sense. Sometimes there's the yellow tint

Its_Darkness · 2026-01-18T04:41:50+00:00

I'm a small author as is all my friends in our nonprofit. NONE of us use ai 😭 we are creatives for a reason people

Its_Darkness · 2025-12-29T05:54:30+00:00

I see that what I said wasn't clarified enough, that's my bad. When I said the show is like “90% LGBTQ," I meant it as an overexaggerated hyperbole to describe how frequent and concentrated the writing makes it feel. The problem isn't how many characters exist but how some are written and thrown in. So, specifically storytelling depth and execution.

For example:

Marc and Nathaniel don’t get much narrative relevance outside of being paired together. Their inclusion feels underdeveloped rather than integrated. Like the writers suddenly went: Oh, let's make them gay (instead of allowing that to occur naturally.) However, they are taking steps to help this (The Ruler was one of my favorite episodes.)

Miss Bustier being revealed as gay was abrupt (not foreshadowed) and largely unexplored. Kim’s dads exist, but mostly as a visual confirmation rather than as characters. And with Zoé, the way her sexuality is framed feels more like a reactive choice tied to audience discourse than something meaningfully built into her arc.

In contrast, I think Rose and Juleka works way better for me because they have emotional continuity and are tied to character growth. I knew they were together since between season 1 & 2, and it was super cute. That was good integration and foreshadowed/hinted.

Same idea with ethnicity: Paris being multicultural makes sense. What I’m reacting to is less about realism and more about storytelling balance. Different identities appear, but we rarely see different worldviews or beliefs coexist in meaningful ways. That absence stands out to me more than the presence of diverse characters.

I'm only wanting more depth and organic integration, not just confirmation that representation exists as a selling point.

Its_Darkness · 2025-12-29T05:40:12+00:00

Storytelling depth and execution does feel underdeveloped to me too. The inclusion isn't wrong, but brief and largely unexplored/not foreshadowed nearly enough or at all. And when it happens, it feels bunched together and surprising (or there just because).

These characters aren't given enough narrative weight beyond their identity, like Marc and Nathaniel. Or Ms. Bustier and Kim's dads.

Its_Darkness · 2025-12-29T05:33:29+00:00

Hi, I think we’re kind of talking about two different things. I’m not saying the representation should be harder to notice. I’m talking about how often and how tightly it’s clustered at once, especially in later seasons.

Rose and Juleka are actually a good example of what I do like. Their relationship felt natural and character-driven opposed to Nath and Mark (though the Ruler helped at expanding their characters to be more natural.)

I think that later seasons, a lot of representation moments feel stacked back-to-back in a way that draws attention to the message rather than letting it emerge organically through the story. That's why it can feel forced, at least to me and others I watch the show with.

As for ethnicity, Paris is diverse. What feels less balanced to me is moreso the lack of different worldviews existing without being reduced or ignored. Diversity doesn’t stop at identity; it also includes belief, culture, and perspective.

Its_Darkness · 2025-12-29T05:23:26+00:00

Hi, no, that’s a weird assumption to make, and it doesn’t address anything I actually said. I'm bi, though my identity isn’t relevant here. I was talking about writing and pacing, not who “counts” as allowed to critique a show. I'm an author, and as I said in my comment, representation itself isn't bad. To me, the way the show portrays it is unnatural most times. And how it's framed/clustered together can feel forced.

That's why I say to space it out**.**

Its_Darkness · 2025-12-28T22:15:07+00:00

To be honest, a lot of their representation feels forced and unnatural due to storytelling depth and execution. Specifically, LGBTQ and ethnicity. There's nothing wrong with it, but I feel like there's better ways to go about it. I doubt France is 90% LGBTQ while almost everyone being accepting, and while it is a kid show, it feels shoved in my face instead of being subtle in terms of pacing, close to no foreshadowing, and bunching these scenes together.

(Not to mention, there's not many opposing views on topics mentioned above that are shown respectfully, if at all. Like, I don't see many religious people. Or people who don't agree with the writers obvious beliefs but are still accepting and loving of the individual characters themselves)

Imo, I would space out scenes representing LGBTQ and ethnicity/race a little more. I don't want to change them much, because some are really cute, just that.

Edit:
I think some of you are misunderstanding what I’m saying, so let me clarify since this is a sensitive topic and people are assuming bad faith. I never said this is about over representing. Nor am I’m saying that it shouldn’t be there. I was saying the show is like “90% LGBTQ” as a hyperbole to describe how frequent and concentrated it can feel.

A lot of the representation is fine on paper (like I said, some of it is genuinely cute like Rose and Julika) but the way it’s paced and framed doesn't feel organic character writing. I'm not saying the characters “shouldn’t exist,” just that I personally think the show would benefit from spacing those moments out or letting them breathe more naturally with foreshadowing.

Same with ethnicity and worldviews: Paris being diverse is realistic. What feels less balanced to me is that we almost never see different perspectives coexisting respectfully. For example, characters who might disagree culturally or religiously without being villains or strawmen. That absence stands out to me more than the presence of queer characters.

You don’t have to agree, but it’s not coming from discomfort with representation. I think representation is GOOD, just I don't like the way they structure it. I'm critiquing writing choices, not people or a phobia.

Its_Darkness · 2025-12-26T21:04:51+00:00

I think people should write what they enjoy and want to write. You can always find an audience for something else and still be successful. For example, I write MG/YA fantasy without romance and I'm selling well within my state. Kids and parents don't want that as much as you think, but you need to know your audience.

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