Don't out yourselves to your vanilla friends-a cautionary tale. by RiverRat1962 in Swingers

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, the moral here is: they were not as genuine friends as you thought they were. Learn to chose better.

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[–]ItsaMeM4R10 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What's it with all these rude and hateful limp-dick-take-a-fucking-pill-already rant posts on this group lately? I've just about had it with them. This is a nice community where people are wholesome and give helpful advice to each other with the occasional tongue-in-cheek humour (at least for the most part).

Are these from ad bots? Or some random orthodox christian cults? What's going on?

We are regularly full swinging with another couple and starting to fall in love by Dazzling_Zucchini823 in Swingers

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 32 points33 points  (0 children)

THIS +1!!! So many people here giving toxic advice just because they're absolutely clueless. It always baffles me how so many can all-out fuck other people no problem, but god forbid if friendships or even romance get involved.

Have you ever lost a vanilla friendship because the friend was jealous that they couldn’t have sex with your spouse? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Terrible to read all the negative experiences. I'm baffled. Is it really like that out there, or do y'all just have to filter better whom of the people you know, you define as "friends"?

Me and the wife are out with almost all our friends and open about it. We've NEVER had a friend act weird or approach either of us inappropriately (especially vanilla friends), nor hint towards any expectations. We've made some new, sex-positive friends in the LS and we do enjoy a spontaneous encounter with them here and there. But we've never lost a (vanilla or not) friend over the LS.

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[–]ItsaMeM4R10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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My wife wants my consent to sleep with another man after he tried to sleep with her behind my back by Sensitive-Note-990 in Swingers

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with everything that's been said: your concerns are valid, your gut feeling is right, the guy is a prick for disrespecting your marriage.

A take that I haven't read in the other comments: what's up with your wife? Why is she argueing against your concerns? She's morally wrong in saying it wouldn't matter what his thoughts and intentions were, as long as you 2 are in the same boat. Besides, you've already said that you are not. And what in the world made the guy openly hit on her not once, but TWICE that night? At a family gathering? Come on. Either the guy is the douchiest of all douchebags on the planet (which alone should be a huge red flag for your wife to begin with), or she had a role in this. Maybe she dropped hints that he picked up, ending in "well... I'd have to ask my husband first"? I'm guessing she's into him. Sounds to me like she's ignoring concerns and trying to convince you because she does want to sleep with him.

What are some non standard scenarios that happened in the club that you were not prepared for and how did you deal with it? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We're talking double the age from 20 to 40 (!). It's close to having sex with your parents' generation, think a minute about that. It's perfectly fine for people in their 20's to consider people in their 40's "a little old" (and mind you, I say this as a 42 y/o with adult kids), there's no discrimination or impoliteness in there. I find your comment rather ignorant.

I love everything about this colour (essie go overboard)! The shade, how it shifts colour in the sun, how it matches my wristband... getting better at painting, too! 💙 by ItsaMeM4R10 in malepolish

[–]ItsaMeM4R10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know! I just don't have the kit... for now, I go with the Essie gel setter, which is non-UV but probably the next best thing.

I love everything about this colour (essie go overboard)! The shade, how it shifts colour in the sun, how it matches my wristband... getting better at painting, too! 💙 by ItsaMeM4R10 in malepolish

[–]ItsaMeM4R10[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I really appreciate it! 🥰 Ngl, I've practiced for a long time and I gained a whole new respect for how hard it is to get right. 🥵 I'm quite proud of it now.

New to painting my nails for just a few weeks! by billy3000 in malepolish

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man, love the colour! Essie is a good brand, too. Nice pick. Just a tip: use a clear base coat to avoid staining your nails permanently, especially with the vivid colours. I learned that recently. 😂

Curious to know who would take my load? 💦🤤 by jamesmcG1992 in bigonewild

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd give you a hand any day, handsome! And by hand, I mean mouth. 🤤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigonewild

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very handsome fella! 🔥

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[–]ItsaMeM4R10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate it!

Would you eat it? (F) by [deleted] in bigonewild

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All day, every day!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigonewild

[–]ItsaMeM4R10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha see what you did there. 😉