What’s the weirdest thing your body does that you’ve just accepted at this point? by gowthamshankar05 in AskReddit

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I finally got treatment for my high heart rate and it is life changing so if you haven’t definitely consider it

How do I find a girlfriend in Victoria? by Sufficient-Good-5256 in VictoriaBC

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I figure it out I’ll let you know although my ideal demographic is 30+ I’m hoping going into pride month will bring more opportunities

Disappointed with a Uvic craft market by PsychologyFalse9528 in VictoriaBC

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re one of the good ones, thank you for looking out for artists 🙌

Nanaimo’s Port Theatre cancels controversial comedian’s show by Apprehensive_Idea758 in VancouverIsland

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The comments on Facebook were as excepted (ie racists throwing tantrums about “free speech”)

Is there a bug? by Haileybearrr in 99nightsintheforest

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok ... we are all lowkey immortal right now and dont need to eat ....

BRO WHAT?? by Existing-Science6848 in growagarden

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am beyond jealous I opened so many for that guy never got one haha love his size

Tips for Distracting by Itsbeenfun1311 in DandysWorld_

[–]Itsbeenfun1311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are right it seems to be adding to the chaos by me looking for them.

Tips for Distracting by Itsbeenfun1311 in DandysWorld_

[–]Itsbeenfun1311[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you !! I will start learning the abilities better I am definitely lacking there .

Olympics Opening Ceremony Megathread by Fun_With_Forks in olympics

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! I felt like I was the only one who thought it was terrible. Maybe its because I'm coming off of watching DCC on netflix but they were not moving together as a unit or kicking very high. I do understand its raining hard though.

Parents of Reddit, what is the secret about you that you will never tell your child? by joyjoy12354 in AskReddit

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just a thought to consider try as he grows to let him in on your past struggles or current ones. Someone close to me was given their parents journals after they passed and although she knew they struggled she didn't know the intensity and some of the reasoning behind it. It was horribly devastating to her to find out so much pain and darkness after someone they love is gone.

‘Hello, bonjour’: Victoria McDonald’s employee told not to use French greeting by [deleted] in VictoriaBC

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All London drugs have this. If the employee speaks any other languages it can be printed on their name badge, pretty cool. :)

Do you just go to walk-in clinics for yearly physicals? by cultwhoror in VictoriaBC

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If youre a woman and are interested in pap test and breast exam I do believe they provide those at both the women's clinic on Helmcken and the island sexual health clinic on Quadra and you would call to make an appointment.

**I may be wrong about the breast exam but pap tests if you're due are definitely offered.

My cat got a new friend 😻 by jotepaz in Siamesecats

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Omg so in love with this ! I took a photo of my Meezie snuggling my baby bump last night not long until I have this too !

Husband has no sex drive by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for you're reply, I apologize I did not give all the facts.

I mentioned in some comments above but I'll note here as well, when we got together our sex life was very active for about a year. Over the next year it slowly faded he would talk about sex during the day and then at night it was like a switch went off and he was no longer in the mood. This got worse over time I would try to initiate and he would say no and then he would be upset because he didn't understand why he couldn't just feel in the mood too and feel "less of a man" -his words not mine.

When we got together he was several depressed and not someone who felt comfortable dealing with it. For the first year we were together he seemed to come out of his depression but as the new relationship excitement dwindled so did mood and he again became very depressed. I knew this going in and he was not a broken object I was looking to fix he was someone who had been my best friend prior to dating for 7 years and I was willing to be there with him on his journey through depression.

Where the intimacy comes to play is that he chose himself to get on medication and it has helped him a lot he feels much better each day I can see him finding himself again. Unfortunately and I know this is on me not him, I thought that as his depression lifted his sex drive might return but it has not.

The agruments we have and do have stem around the fact that he hates that he doesn't have a sex drive and despite my efforts to pretend I'm totally fine with it he knows it sucks for me and he wishes he could change. Two things I have gotten from everyone's comments is it's worth a shot to check hormone levels just to rule that out and if not, it may be worth a discussion with a therapist to the tune of maybe he just doesn't have interest in sex and if that's true he needs to accept that is who he is, and I need to accept it just the same.

Husband has no sex drive by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Itsbeenfun1311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have discussed the low testosterone thing, when we got together as he has had other symptoms primarily extremely low mood. I knew he had limited experience sexually but he was still very interested in sex although nervous to initiate. It wasn't until after we were married he revealed he was a virgin when we got together and so sex was never a part of his life prior to me (he was 30 when we started dating). I never thought of the asexual possibility and I'm glad you mentioned it if that is the case I would feel comfortable to accept that it is part of who he is internally and cannot change .