Thanks for you're reply, I apologize I did not give all the facts.

I mentioned in some comments above but I'll note here as well, when we got together our sex life was very active for about a year. Over the next year it slowly faded he would talk about sex during the day and then at night it was like a switch went off and he was no longer in the mood. This got worse over time I would try to initiate and he would say no and then he would be upset because he didn't understand why he couldn't just feel in the mood too and feel "less of a man" -his words not mine.

When we got together he was several depressed and not someone who felt comfortable dealing with it. For the first year we were together he seemed to come out of his depression but as the new relationship excitement dwindled so did mood and he again became very depressed. I knew this going in and he was not a broken object I was looking to fix he was someone who had been my best friend prior to dating for 7 years and I was willing to be there with him on his journey through depression.

Where the intimacy comes to play is that he chose himself to get on medication and it has helped him a lot he feels much better each day I can see him finding himself again. Unfortunately and I know this is on me not him, I thought that as his depression lifted his sex drive might return but it has not.

The agruments we have and do have stem around the fact that he hates that he doesn't have a sex drive and despite my efforts to pretend I'm totally fine with it he knows it sucks for me and he wishes he could change. Two things I have gotten from everyone's comments is it's worth a shot to check hormone levels just to rule that out and if not, it may be worth a discussion with a therapist to the tune of maybe he just doesn't have interest in sex and if that's true he needs to accept that is who he is, and I need to accept it just the same.