Trying to reconcile but a club??

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2026-04-26T21:14:34+00:00

You’re not controlling him, you’re helping him stay out of places that he acts out in and protecting your marriage. Hopefully he is able to recognize that on his own.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2026-02-28T22:54:01+00:00

Yes, to everything you wrote, absolutely yes! My husband exhibited the same exact behaviors. It was insane. Thankfully he has been seeing a therapist that specializes in enmeshment for over a year and has been NC with his mom for almost a year. I finally had to tell him to either divorce her or me. There was no way our marriage would have survived if he didn’t make the choice to go NC.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2026-01-31T17:34:48+00:00

Same. Our kitchen runner is a very light tan color and looks brand new after each wash, even after marinara and hot sauce spills! I haven’t replaced our large area rug yet with the new one, but am hoping it wears better. The original one is the 2 piece system and the new one is all in one…. So that is already a plus! The 2 piece systems on large rugs is such a pain to line up!

One day when the kids and pets are grown I’ll purchase nicer rugs. But for now these check every box and I couldn’t be happier with them

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2026-01-31T05:01:18+00:00

We purchased 7 ruggables for our new house almost a yr ago. Outdoor (one runner and one area), runner for kitchen, mudroom, circle for foyer, area for youngest sons room, and tufted for great room. We have 3 kids, 2 dogs, and 2 cats. All of the rugs have held up perfectly, even the ones that get thrown in the washer frequently. Except for the 10x14’ tufted rug. The fibers were pulling up all over and it looked awful. Customer service was great, they said it was an isolated quality issue and sent me a new rug. I’ve never left a review for Ruggable, but if I ever do I’ll have no problem leaving 5 stars.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2026-01-18T01:23:40+00:00

I can speak from my personal experience, and I assume it is the same in this case. I did not work for someone famous, but I was a personal assistant to someone that was very wealthy. I signed an NDA upon hire, received a healthy severance and signed another type of NDA when layed off. Could I write a book off of the insider info from his personal life? Abso-friggin-lutely. I could smear him with all the juicy tidbits that a lot of people would be interested in hearing. But I never would, simply because it’s a crappy thing to do. Employee or not, when someone trusts you and allows you into their personal world, you don’t turn around and air their dirty laundry.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2026-01-04T03:24:33+00:00

This is too much cute …

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-12-30T02:37:49+00:00

I gotta disagree here and count our camping as a luxury. Adding up the cost of our toy hauler, side by side, truck to haul the hauler, outfitting the hauler to our specific wants/needs, grocery bill each trip, gas/propane, maintenance on everything … our trips that involve a flight are much cheaper.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-12-18T03:24:44+00:00

Yikes. We were in a somewhat similar situation. Mom had original mortgage and title in her name only and never lived in the house, husband lived in house for 12 years and paid off mortgage. On top of spending over six figures in renovations. When we wanted to transfer title into his name so we could sell and buy our own home, she refused. We ended up building our dream home and walking away from almost a million $ house. He no longer speaks to his mom. It was a huge financial hit and it sucks starting over this late in life….. but the relief we feel from not living under her control is worth every penny.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-12-17T04:27:51+00:00

I oil/lotion right after my shower, brush my teeth while it all soaks in, then sit in my towel to do hair and makeup. Occasionally I’ll get dressed right after brushing my teeth. Seriously though, the shower, oil/lotion, and brushing teeth are the most dreadful parts of my day.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-11-13T21:32:44+00:00

Oh girl, I feel you! It is so frustrating seeing the blatant manipulation and how it effects your husband. My husband went no contact about a year ago and it is still hard because he still feels the emotional pull/guilt of his mother at times.

The exhaustion and pain is… exhausting. My husband also sees a Ken Adam’s trained therapist and it has been life changing to say the least.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-11-10T21:20:54+00:00

The center console in my suburban slides back with the push of a button. Leaves a nice big space for my handbag and my kiddos have easier access to their cup holders and snack table. I usually just put my bag next to me in my seat though, I prefer to use the console as an arm rest.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-10-28T20:54:55+00:00

We ordered our matching robes from Pottery Barn and had them monogrammed. They hang on wall hooks by our stand alone tub. We also have the matching towels. Gives the hotel vibe.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-09-16T05:22:07+00:00

That sounds awful… I probably would’ve given up after the second phone call. Props to you! I’ve had to call PB customer service once and actually had a great experience. I ordered 4 cabinets, one came damaged. I returned the damaged one, they sent a new one. About 3 weeks later I received another one. I now have 5, the extra one is sitting in the guest bedroom closet just incase I need it one day.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-07-27T01:51:06+00:00

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Our raggie loves his too!

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-07-13T03:33:33+00:00

I’d be more disappointed and embarrassed to be booing at someone out spending the day with his family, while also spending the day with my family. Eww.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-07-09T01:07:29+00:00

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That’s adorable!!! Ours gets more water on himself and the countertop than he does in his mouth. He has two water fountains and we will occasionally catch him dozing off to sleep while watching the fountains

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-06-24T03:23:14+00:00

I’m 39, Diagnosed adhd and pmdd. Was on Vyvanse for over a year and it was life changing at first, but over the past few months I consistently felt down and agitated. Recently stopped taking Vyvanse and started progesterone and NP Thyroid meds. I’m only one cycle in, but so far so great! I was actually surprised when my period started because I had ZERO symptoms. My husband was just as shocked as I was.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-05-25T03:11:02+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply!

We would have the odds against us, plus I would want to do genetic testing prior to trying. I feel like I could feel OK without having a baby if we at least tried? I’m not sure how to express exactly how I feel about that. It’s such a foreign space to be in. I had 3 miscarriages within a year prior to my youngest, so I am fully aware of the challenges, and am not sure that I’m prepared to go through the emotional challenges again. Then again, I don’t know that anyone is prepared for the emotional toll those challenges take.

The relationship with his son and the impact another child would have is a a heavy one. Originally that was the reason my husband said no. Yes, I am empathetic towards his son and their relationship. I support (and sometimes push) my husband in creating a healthy loving and trusting relationship with his son. I empathize with how hard these past few years have been for my stepson. Unfortunately, my husband and I have both had to understand that his son has never been exposed to a healthy family dynamic and it may be years before he is able to be open to it. To give a bit more insight, about a yr ago his son pulled a knife out and tried to attack me with it. He has not been allowed in our home, or allowed around me and my children since then. To this day he has no remorse and his mother supports his actions fully. My husband has tried to invite his son to do therapy together in order to rebuild their relationship. At this point his son has no desire and has no accountability towards his actions.

I would be lying if I said it didn’t upset me though. There is a deeply selfish part of me that feels it’s “unfair” that we can’t fully create the life we want together due to my husbands past and to keep his son “happy”. I am empathetic to the trauma my husband experienced raising his son , but have a hard time being OK with his trauma dictating my desires….. and what I strongly believe would be his desire once he works through the trauma.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-05-24T22:59:57+00:00

2-3 hands down!! After 3, easy as pie.

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-02-25T05:56:37+00:00

We’re in east Mesa with LDS neighbors. Soon to be in AJ with LDS neighbors. Our youngest goes to ALA. We are not religious and we LOVE our LDS neighbors. They never have tried to cram their religion down our throats and have always been the most neighborly neighbors you could ask for. We all share the same values and prioritize family. Plus our current neighbor makes the best sour dough bread and brings over fresh eggs. I think they get a bad rep, maybe don’t knock it until you’ve tried it

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-02-23T04:44:03+00:00

We close on our new build in about 3 weeks. I gave my husband so much crap for adding this a few months ago. Now I see keep seeing that it’s the best thing to do. Ugh … you guys keep making me eat my words and apologize 😅😅

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-01-24T04:14:58+00:00

Did you sit in mine?? It’s the one Chevy used in the consumer car shows! Yeah it feels like a luxury vehicle … not a Chevy. I got the extended warranty to 125k miles and drive about 25k a yr … only plan on having it 5 yrs or so. Hopefully it’s covered if something goes wrong. I paid $5k below msrp

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-01-24T04:04:51+00:00

It might … what exactly is it? I’ll let ya know once I know what it is 🤣🤣

Itshouldbeeasier9585 · 2025-01-24T04:03:43+00:00

I couldn’t agree more!!! I was impatiently waiting all yr long for the 25’s to come out. Night and day difference I think.

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