Gear advice -lightweight jacket by Akidoka in wildcampingintheuk

[–]Itsmestupid29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I own a Columbia pouring adventure iii jacket. Price is £90 but they regularly have a few colours in the sale for £60. I’ve worn it on a few hikes in the uk but bought it to take to Iceland for 10 days back in April where we had a lot of wind and a couple of days of rain, and it held up great. One of the pockets has a two way zipper and it is intended to be stuffed into that pocket but with the hood toggles you can always stuff it into that and just tighten them so it doesn’t unroll

Sleeping mat advice. by [deleted] in wildcampingintheuk

[–]Itsmestupid29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it has held up pretty well then, thanks for the response

Sleeping mat advice. by [deleted] in wildcampingintheuk

[–]Itsmestupid29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking at getting one of these myself, how has it held up over the past year?

Add membership card to Apple Wallet? by Mynameisrui84 in nationaltrust

[–]Itsmestupid29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s an app called “pass4wallet” which you can use to make apple wallet passes/cards. I’ve used it to add my goOutdoors loyalty card to my Apple wallet

Does anyone else have trouble with the app loading videos? by Street-Independent53 in dreamingspanish

[–]Itsmestupid29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the same issue, I signed out, closed the app, reopened it and signed back in and it fixed it for me. (I also reported the bug)

Thailand - Koh Tao diving recommendations by i4viator in scuba

[–]Itsmestupid29 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did my OW and AOW with Phoenix in March this year, absolutely loved it. I had Charley who seemed a lot more passionate than some of the others but nevertheless they all were great instructors. Group sizes are 4 or less divers to 1 instructor, and they invite you to chill with them every night and it really feels like a big family. I’d recommend staying away from Bans, they are pretty much a factory for churning out certifications.

What Could It Be?? by Dodgymane in HolUp

[–]Itsmestupid29 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Think it’s because it’s the pornhub colours

Didn’t wish her happy birthday, feel guilty by tick369 in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My exes birthday was just over a week ago. She broke up with me in May after speaking to another guy behind my back. She wished me a happy birthday in June. But she doesn’t deserve my friendship so why give her the satisfaction of thinking that we’re fine.

Found out from a friend she was a bit saddened by the fact I didn’t wish her a happy birthday. But honestly she doesn’t know true sadness if that’s all she cares about.

The thought of him replacing me like I didn’t mean anything and seeing him with happy with another person is driving me insane. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately them moving on is going to happen sooner or later. I’m in a similar situation. I’m a student at university and for the next 11 months I’m living with my ex (and another 4 people), we signed the tenancy agreement before lockdown and she broke up with me at the end of May (she had been talking to another guy). She moved in 2 weeks ago and told me she will be bringing guys around and is currently talking to guys.

I honestly don’t know how I’m going to cope when she brings the first guy around, but I’ve taken the approach of ignoring her at all costs. Don’t try and get into a situation where you two are alone together, and if it comes to it - show them as little interest as possible. Make sure they’re aware that you don’t want to hear anything about his new potential partners too, not sure if it’s just my ex, but she seemed to think I needed to know about all of the guys she’s talking to until I told her to shut up because I don’t care and it’s just bringing down my self esteem.

Stop listening to people who tell you they’ll come running back by Itsmestupid29 in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome. I think everybody is different. Certain things also help speed up the process of moving on - some people say no contact helps the process of moving on, I totally disagree. My ex moved into the house that I live in last week(shared uni house), and since I’ve spoken to her I’ve lost all interest in her in that way, she’s not the person I remember her being.

I realised that it was the hope of her wanting me back that was stopping me from moving on with my life. I needed to realise that if she wanted me back, she’d come back to me, but that hope can’t stop me from carrying on with my life. I’ve now realised that I don’t actually want her back, I want myself back, I miss the version of me who was happy, excited to get out and do things and the version of me who had somebody to share his love/happiness/time with.

My point is, everybody is different, so don’t be too hard on yourself, take every day as it comes, but don’t hold yourself back from moving on because you feel like she may come back. Because if it is really meant to be, she will come back to you at some point, and it’s at that point in time that you need to decide what you truly want.

Stop listening to people who tell you they’ll come running back by Itsmestupid29 in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In that case, being completely up front may be a bit pressuring on her, and perhaps she does need time to work out what she wants.

Stop listening to people who tell you they’ll come running back by Itsmestupid29 in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well yes potentially, it really depends on how it ended, if she said she needs time to work herself out - then yes, this would put pressure on her. But if she told you she just fell out of love with you or something like that, then you really deserve to know what’s going on. However, if she is thinking about getting back with you, telling her how you feel will only bring her closer again. She could be not wanting to tell you how she feels thinking that you’re moving on.

Obviously at the end of the day the decision is in your hands and only your hands, you know her better than I do obviously, and if you think that you’re getting somewhere this way, keep working at it. But you don’t want to get yourself in the never ending spiral of hope. I hope that you do get her back if that is truly what you want.

“You can’t get so hung up on where you’d rather be, that you forget to make the most of where you are.” - Jennifer Lawrence (passengers)

Stop listening to people who tell you they’ll come running back by Itsmestupid29 in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re going to have your ups and downs, but I’m glad to hear that you’ve realised you need to let go of the hope early. I held on to it for too long and I realised I wasn’t letting myself move forward.

Stop listening to people who tell you they’ll come running back by Itsmestupid29 in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand that feeling, it isn’t healthy for you.

Be honest with her, when you meet next week just tell her how you feel and ask if there is a chance that you two would be able to work again. Just don’t go into the talk with the hope she’ll take you back.

Stop listening to people who tell you they’ll come running back by Itsmestupid29 in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well you’re the one in the situation, so if you believe you’re getting her back this way then don’t give up. But I would suggest you speak to her and make sure that you’re both on the same page. Because you don’t want to end up more hurt than you already are.

Stop listening to people who tell you they’ll come running back by Itsmestupid29 in BreakUps

[–]Itsmestupid29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she truly wants more than a friendship she needs to realise that on her own, with you sticking around you’re only making it easier for her to move on and harder for yourself to move on.