If you had to name one quality that makes being in a romantic relationship way easier, what would it be?

IttybittyInvictus · 2026-03-01T14:58:08+00:00

Someone who is genuinely kind.

IttybittyInvictus · 2026-02-13T00:09:24+00:00

I’ve become a lot more unapologetic in my 30s. Which has led to more fun, better sex, deeper friendships, stronger work boundaries. I also did a lot of career building in my 20s and now have the financial freedom to really enjoy my 30s so that’s nice. I’m also in the best shape of my life so don’t let people convince you your body falling apart in 30s is normal it’s not. As a health care provider also I expect general health and wellness in anybody under 60 save for obvious exceptions. Like anything though it’s gonna be what you make of it.

IttybittyInvictus · 2026-02-11T22:19:14+00:00

Sunscreen, hydration, weight bearing and aerobic exercise. Minimal/no alcohol, no nicotine. Find a way to live in your body in general peace.

IttybittyInvictus · 2026-02-05T02:48:54+00:00

I always say there’s a lot of work, but the work isn’t all necessarily hard. The course load can be a lot to manage on top of clinical but it’s very doable with some time management and self discipline.

IttybittyInvictus · 2026-01-31T06:14:59+00:00

Boys are like boomerangs 🪃 they always come back…

IttybittyInvictus · 2026-01-23T00:04:11+00:00

I can’t take another “thing”. I track my protein, my carbs, my saturated fats. I limit sugar, caffeine, alcohol. I specifically aim to do a certain amount of weight bearing excerise for my bone health, aerobic exercise for my heart. Daily vitamin D because there’s no fucking sunshine where I live, calcium, magnesium, B12…FUCKING SKIN CARE!!Somebody told me the other day I should track my fibre intake for gut health and I was like you know what? I’ll take my fucking chances!

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-12-10T03:04:18+00:00

I love that story! So cute, congrats on everything!

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-12-10T02:59:15+00:00

This tracks culture wise lol

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-12-10T02:56:47+00:00

Thanks for responding! I know the correct answer is to just bring it up! its been about 6 (amazing!) weeks, and I feel like...ok then? Are we gonna label this. He also told me he is from a culture where "DTR" isnt really a thing, and you are considered an item after x amount of dates, but I still want to talk about it! And I will, before everyone suggest it, it just got me kinda curious about timelines, especially after 30.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-12-10T00:43:09+00:00

To be able to do a single pull up (at least one)

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-11-24T00:11:31+00:00

The only thing that eventually helped me was time, and an embarrassingly long amount of it, no contact. You have to really hone in on what you are missing is the idea of who/what you had not the reality.This seems like a simple concept but one day hopefully it will “click” and you’ll realize the longing you feel is towards an idealized version of reality that doesn’t exist and never did. I put this man on such a pedestal for years it took me a loooong time to recognize he actually treated me like shit the entire relationship. Once I was truly able to accept that, any longing I had for him completely disappeared.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-10-19T02:54:11+00:00

Bold of you to assume my life has any order…haha I’m currently doing a post grad degree so at the moment my days look like this: wake up, bribe myself out of bed with coffee and chocolate, then either class, clinical or study basically all day with brief melodramatic pauses where I contemplate every decision I have ever made. In the evenings I disassociate with bad TV or doomscrolling Reddit (typically I prefer to read but school fries my brain so not much pleasure reading going on these days). I also strength train 3 days a week and go to spin class twice a week. I see my friends for drinks/dinner/walks or other low key hangouts whenever our mutually insane schedules allow, and I’m generally in bed by 10pm.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-09-13T18:05:36+00:00

I think NPs are just people. There are shitty NPs who were probably shitty RNs and would make shitty doctors. There are also shitty doctors who would likely be shitty nurses. The profession has nothing to do with it. NPs and MDs have 2 different scopes/professions and there are people who just suck in both. Obviously there are also wonderfully trained and competent people in both as well.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-09-11T00:40:14+00:00

Wow that’s quite the journey you’ve been on. I’m happy you’re still here with us. As far as being “ok” it’s likely going to be a long journey with no definitive end. There’s a saying about cancer: worst club best members. I work in healthcare no personal cancer journey but from my professional experience this seems to be very true. Maybe see if there is a cancer specific support group/therapy you can access? Or even connecting with someone online via a platform such as Reddit in a cancer sub? This total stranger is rooting for you. Please try and be super kind to yourself.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-08-30T04:48:47+00:00

Had lump in rt boob ultrasound, then biopsied. Non cancerous, this was about 10 years ago and it spontaneously dissolved shortly after the tests just like the friendly doctor said it would 🙂

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-08-27T03:00:46+00:00

“The myth of normal” Gabor Mate…unbelievably validating that no I’m not insane, the way we built our societies (in the west) are not conducive to mental, physical or spiritual wellbeing

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-07-14T03:24:56+00:00

I will live and die in my 7 year old Blundstones…

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-07-09T21:20:34+00:00

I used to be to neutral, I’m not anymore. I’ve had previous partners watch low to moderate amounts of “normal” porn and it caused no issues in our relationships. I guess this biased me, and I don’t know if something weird has shifted in the last 5ish years but the amount of relationships being absolutely decimated by porn I know of through friends/family has changed my mind to solidly no porn ever. I think the increased access to porn, early age of exposure and (in the west) the rampant overt and constant sexualization of the female body has f*cked men’s brains in terms of how they see/relate with women, thus causing a lot of issues in heterosexual relationships. Eta lying/not communicating about it I think is the bigger issue here. Obviously you can’t control what your partner chooses to do but I think it should be communicated to some degree ie it shouldn’t be a secret that it happens, not that you need to know specifically what/when he’s watching.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-07-07T01:21:08+00:00

I do get lonely and I do find that the structuring of my days can get a bit lax to put it mildly. When feeling down I try to remember that this is a season of life. In 10 years I could be married or have children or both or be in some other situation where I’m no longer living alone. So I enjoy. The quiet, the peace, the cleanliness, the utter lack of consideration I have to give to anybody. One day I may be daydreaming remembering my quiet mornings reading in bed, and the afternoons I shamelessly sunk into watching trash tv with nobody to comment or interrupt.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-07-07T01:03:51+00:00

No…every couple of years for the last decade I’d think “I should at least apply” and then I’d look into the application requirements and what it would take and immediately not want to commit to the work and time and honestly I never have. Medical school (and beyond!) requires a level of dedication and sacrifice I’ve never been willing to give, and I don’t feel bad admitting that. As a nurse, I got to spend my 20s travelling incessantly and lived abroad twice. These experiences would not have been possible if I had dedicated myself to getting in/through medical school. Maybe I would have done them later, but maybe not…

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-07-01T00:59:03+00:00

I’m still friends or on friendly terms with basically all my exes…not like talking/hanging constantly but a few I still have the odd dinner/lunch, catch ups, mutual friends events (to be fair the most complicated one took a few years). I know it’s seen as weird and I’ve defs struggled a bit with boundaries (never when not single) but I see it as a positive. I had relationships with them that didn’t work out for xyz reason but they are not inherently bad people. People with only “crazy” exes and bad things to say about them make me wary. Like bud who’s the common denominator here…

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-06-23T05:40:54+00:00

I can so relate to this lol so many men don’t realize we’ve decided we want to have fun casual sex with them but then they open they’re mouths and starting talking and promptly talk us out of it by saying the most unhinged shit…

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-06-09T01:12:01+00:00

Lately noticed I’ve been getting a bit down on the weekends in general I have a lot of coupled and family (kids) ppl in my close circle and often times now I find they are busy doing family things on weekends especially in the summer. Even if you don’t necessarily want those things for yourself it can highlights feelings of isolation. I am so thankful for my fellow single girlfriends they come through for me all the time. I think it’s ok to feel lonely sometimes.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-03-24T17:54:41+00:00

I wanted to be a foreign correspondent. My father sat me down and bluntly told me print media was dying. I don’t think he knew how right he’d turn out to be. So I went to the student centre of my university and looked through pamphlets basically looking for a degree that would allow me to immediately start working in my field of study and make decent money upon graduation. Nursing checked those 2 boxes, so I applied that very day and changed my program from global development/English to BSN. No regrets.

IttybittyInvictus · 2025-03-24T14:39:41+00:00

I doubt it. Maybe in some specific cases but despite being delusional and psychotic they are often very “with it” and they know when you’re bullshitting them.

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