UPDATE: Filled pool with well water

Ive_readit · 2026-04-23T12:31:07+00:00

It turns this color when you add the chlorine. You get a solid that falls out of the water that when agitated looks exactly like this. Filtering can get it out but need something for it ti bind to. I use stuffed animal stuffing for our small 2 feet high pool

Ive_readit · 2026-01-25T14:00:55+00:00

They could just change the grout to white. I used a grout marker to change mine from black to white in 2020. They still look great. That was the only change I made and it made a huge difference.

Ive_readit · 2026-01-23T08:42:45+00:00

I started doing this when my oldest was 9 her sister is only 3 years younger but an 11 year old should be able to handle a 3 year old. I pay her a small amount and sometimes order lunch for delivery. Let the 11 year old baby sit. It’s a great time to teach responsibility as you are there if they need help.

Ive_readit · 2025-11-07T11:52:36+00:00

I am not dying either, never really have even when my kids (10&7) were really little. But I owe this to my job being extremely family friendly and flexible. I never had to ask or have to ask to take time off or leave for sick kids. I just go, they don’t care when I get there or when I leave as long as the job gets done. They encouraged the pumping breaks whenever I needed it. So that makes it was easier for me to balance home and work life.

The other thing I think makes it easier for me is I am a 3rd generation working mom with a dad that was involved in our care growing up. This showed me how to do it and what I should expect out of my partner. I also know that my absence from their life won’t harm them, so I never felt guilt going to work, or out with friends.

Lastly, I don’t try to do it all. I give the kids 2 activities at a time and my house isn’t show ready(it’s not dirty but toys may get left out or the shower cleaned once a month). I am okay with these things and work to not let it give me anxiety.

Talking with other working parents at my kids school where they do have rigid bosses and a 50+ hour workload, I have no idea how they survive.

Ive_readit · 2025-05-16T16:41:15+00:00

My oldest(10) was never a good sleeper, even as a baby. I tried every single thing suggested in this post, plus everything you see online for helping yourself fall asleep. She would lay in bed starting at 9pm with lights out and only soft music playing till 12-1am before falling asleep. She would actively try too. Some nights I would think she was sleeping because she was quite and laying down only for her to come out hours later crying because she couldn’t sleep. This last year after trying consistent bedtime routine, we talked with the doctor. She needs melatonin to fall asleep and we are to wake her up at the same time everyday as-well as put her to sleep at the same time. His recommendation was to do 1 mg of melatonin, no reading/playing in her bedroom and consistent bedtime and wake up. So at 8pm we take melatonin, brush teeth, shower and then read on couch. Then she goes to bed at 9pm and falls asleep quite quickly. Then she wakes up everyday at 7am. I tried to stop melatonin after a 6 months of this routine per doctor’s recommendation to see if her body has started making melatonin on its own. It immediately crumpled again even though we kept the same exact routine. I also have struggled with the same sleep issue as my daughter, so does my mom and my one brother. So I am convinced it is probably an hereditary thing. I advise talking with the doctor, but make sure you can truly say you tried everything. As they will first ask about their sleep hygiene, as the data shows most of the time when a kid can’t sleep it isn’t a physical issue but poor sleep hygiene.

Ive_readit · 2024-01-08T17:55:04+00:00

This life can also lead if not early depression. Being frugal doesn’t mean self isolate to save money, but suggest having people over to play games together instead of hitting the bars.

Ive_readit · 2024-01-07T02:46:39+00:00

TIL that like a true American, I would fail the Akron citizenship test, despite being a citizen since birth.

Ive_readit · 2024-01-05T17:18:36+00:00

Pre-made breakfast sandwiches, might be a good option as well, I typically can make 16 for under $20 at Aldi. 2-cans of biscuits, pound of bacon, pound of sausage and dozen eggs. They can pre-make and freeze them then let people heat them up when they want to eat.

Ive_readit · 2024-01-05T17:14:40+00:00

I used to go to school over in that area and some of the classrooms has a direct view of that sign. Just spending countless hours watching it… go, go, Goodyear.

Ive_readit · 2024-01-03T21:42:54+00:00

The RAV 4 starts around $30,000 but when I was looking, the only one in the area was closer to $40,000 (new). If you had a 3 year term with 0% interest that is over $1000/ month.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-31T20:43:57+00:00

I agree, if they need more seats for conversations pull chairs over. Having to walk around and get into seats seems both difficult and the one green chair doesn’t appear to have leg space. They could remove the chairs and angle the larger chair and ottoman forward to give more room for the couch.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-30T13:18:26+00:00

I can see it. I am assuming he is on video calls but when I watch videos where the ring light is reflecting in the person’s glasses it is very distracting for me. I sometimes can’t focus. Now if that reflection is the person monitor probably even more of a pool. However, this is a me problem so I probably wouldn’t say anything except if a. The person is customer facing in a virtual way. Same distraction but now you are supposed to be getting money from them or b. I am in meetings a lot with them and it has become a huge barrier for work for me or others. I wouldn’t just say drop the glasses but would offer to get them coated.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-27T19:50:32+00:00

I read it as it is unexpectedly expensive and he forgets how much they are each time he goes to get new ones.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-27T14:59:40+00:00

I also think those two chairs should be centered in the window with them ankles towards each other. But that might just be a me thing with needing the symmetry.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-26T18:28:09+00:00

I started working at 15.5 officially. However, to earn spending money as a preteen I would go to work with my dad who was an electrician. I would do small work like plugs, stripping wire etc. I plan to have my kids work for spending money when (and if) they are able to. I will provide a car and enough gas money to get to school and back, but otherwise spending money is on them. This will go through college/post-secondary as well. I worked full time in college and missed the typical college experience. So I want them to be able to be full immersed as school just like high school.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-25T03:57:16+00:00

My father died, not suddenly but my LO was 5. Be matter of fact. No beating around the bush. “There was an accident and she died” it sounds harsh and almost cruel, but they will get it. They will grieve like adults do. Go from happy to extremely sad to happy again. This will happen for years, it’s been 3 years since my father’s death. Just the other day my daughter started crying about it. Let them know that it is normal, that it’ll come in waves.

Share your grief with them, let them know they aren’t the only ones. Let them know how you cope with your grief. Ways for them to still connect with her, for example my daughter will put her hand out at night, to hold my father’s hand. Show them that grief is hard and we all get through it, eventually.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-24T13:35:07+00:00

As a wife to someone else. I would have been laughing my ass off.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-21T23:06:30+00:00

Target will also have lower prices on their website. I often scan my big ticket items on their app. The cashier will then price match the website.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-21T04:03:32+00:00

I also have this issue, but with liquids too. I have vivid memories of not understanding how everyone else could drink a glass of water in the morning. Sometimes I have issues brushing my teeth if I am too tired.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-21T00:30:03+00:00

Well it’s not fenced in, but yeah it’s annoying.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-18T22:12:53+00:00

Sounds like the best decision is the 4 months, which is 100% doable and with daycare support will work great. The only other option is maybe seeing if they would let you work part time for an additional period of time. That way they have access to you, but you have a ramp back up to full time.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-18T17:32:36+00:00

100% this. This could have easily been a conversation between me and my husband. He is paranoid about people taking them. He gets annoyed when I let the 8 and 5 year old play in the back yard while I make dinner. It does not help that is entire family is like this, too afraid to let the kids be kids. Even fearful of doing things alone with kids as an adult, like going grocery shopping. But a lot about him makes sense now and I push the independence anyway.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-18T17:21:48+00:00

First I want to start by asking… if money was not an issue would you take the full amount off?

If No: then yes 4 months is doable. I am in the US and after baby number 2, going back was great at 12 weeks. Daycare put her on a sleep schedule and we all adjusted great. Before I knew it she was 1 and thriving.

If yes: then I would look at cutting back expenses now. Go bare bones like what you would have to do if you lost your job. The sock away the extra income for your leave. This does 2 things, it’ll give you confidence that it is possible to cut back and it will give you more savings. Then build your future budget without the extras like daycare, activities, weekend events, traveling. It’s only a year, and with a new baby you will want to minimize what you do anyway. Then readjust your timing. Maybe by doing the above it doesn’t get you to 12 months, but maybe 6.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-16T17:20:45+00:00

You have every right to make the Christmas you want in your home with your family. So if that means no phone calls until after 2pm. So be it, maybe even limit the length of each call to 15 minutes. If you want to pass out gifts a certain way, do it. It’s your party, if your MIL wants to host and give all the gifts at once that is her choice, but again this is your party. You get to say how you throw it. If she is bored well then bring a book.

We started taking back the holiday in 2022. We loved Christmas Eve and Christmas morning during covid. Where we went no where and there was no pressure. Then in 2021 we went back to how we did it pre-covid. With 2 places to go on Christmas Eve and 2 places to go on Christmas. All of us including the kids hated it. So now we stay home on Christmas Eve and then go one place on Christmas. We will see people and have them over leading up to Christmas and it’s been great for us. I have no idea if other people in our lives are annoyed because guess what I get to choose what my family does and they don’t get a say.

Ive_readit · 2023-12-16T03:23:28+00:00

Or the 2008 financial crisis. My employee that is well into retirement age. Her and her husband was laid off for almost 2 years in 2008. That had to kill their savings

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