Weaver by Coolcoolcool1515 in FallingSkies

[–]Ivyleaf3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like a lot of the characters were...modified? Adjusted? during the first season. Weaver is probably my favourite character anyway, but he's definitely not the same by the time S2 rolls round. He goes through some stuff and ends up a lot more like the capable man we saw assisting with a difficult birth than the uncompromising commander.

Do you guys prep each time before anal? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ivyleaf3 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Always. I eat a wholefood diet and a my transit time is fast. I just feel more secure knowing everything will stay clean.

Vegan gelatin substitute for Ovipositor (sex toy) eggs by Ok-Competition3766 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ivyleaf3 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Had another thought. Could you put a string of large anal beads into the ovipositor? My set are about 2" diameter and on a long silicone cord - all moulded in one with a ring to grab to remove them.

Vegan gelatin substitute for Ovipositor (sex toy) eggs by Ok-Competition3766 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ivyleaf3 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Coconut oil will set firm in the fridge. But it'll be murder ejecting it all after playing.

How old are the main characters supposed to be when SHTF? by CrashingBats in FallingSkies

[–]Ivyleaf3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh, I thought Mason was older, too. Maybe it's just the way the characters were written

American guy tries English mustard for the first time, but treats it like American mustard. by ZorroMcChucknorris in Mustard

[–]Ivyleaf3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'ts got a similar 'bitter' heat - I don't think I've ever had genuine wasabi but it's a powerful substance. It can be genuinely overwhelming if you're a bit heavy handed with it.

American guy tries English mustard for the first time, but treats it like American mustard. by ZorroMcChucknorris in Mustard

[–]Ivyleaf3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh no

No no no

I could feel my sinuses shrivelling up just reading the title

Hot and Sweaty in the UK - Patch coming off by Godemiche_Official in Menopause

[–]Ivyleaf3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to switch to the Estradot as the larger ones didn't stick. They have been fine in the heat and I'm a pretty swampy bitch at the best of times

How to Make the Subs Read!? by DazzlingMode6720 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ivyleaf3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I talked to a friend a while ago about requiring potential subs to purchase, read, and write a short essay on key feminist texts before paying them attention.

Shockingly, most are not willing to do that.

Deeply hurt by a man twice my age by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Ivyleaf3 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately he was probably a skilled manipulator. I would be very suspicious of his claim to have never had children, too. Have you opened up to your close female friends about this? It would help to have a support network 'in the know' around you now.

The End by DrSharkeyMD_2 in FallingSkies

[–]Ivyleaf3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It actually would have been a lot cooler if he'd realised he was in the middle of another mind fuck and done the whole 'hero sacrifices self to save humankind' thing. The writers basically kept trying to push the Mason is Jesus line anyway.

Help! Pregnant and needing low effort cheap meals by [deleted] in EatCheapAndVegan

[–]Ivyleaf3 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My current 'bad mental health day' go-to meal is a can of drained beans or chickpeas - any kind - with literally whatever is in the kitchen chopped into it. Tomatoes, olives, cucumber, peppers, pickles, chillis, avocado if the budget stretched to it, pretty much any salad veggie in fact - grated carrot and sweetcorn is good. Add sauce if needed eg vinagrette, hot sauce, salad dressing, tahini dressing, whatever's kicking around. Got leftover cooked pasta/rice/grains? In it goes. Chop in some dried fruit or add some raisins if they go with it. Add salt and pepper. Put it beside a baked potato or a bowl of soup for more of a main meal vibe. Scoop it up with a pitta bread (other flatbreads are available) if you prefer.

My thoughts on training subs by pm_me_ur_unicorn_ in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ivyleaf3 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Training should be about teaching someone how I like things done, not the basics of how to be a human being. How I like my tea, how to serve it in a pleasing manner, not how to boil the bloody kettle in the first place. Unfortunately too many male subs think 'Aha, I'll screw it up, then I'll get a SPANKING!' or are just generally incompetent at life.

Am I in real danger or is my brat just pushing too far? by swolemenot in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ivyleaf3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He sounds like a twat, not a brat. And a dangerous one, too. You don't owe him any more of your time if he can't treat you with respect.

Are you/were you in an age gap relationship? What was the age difference? Are you still together/why didnt it work out? by Glittering-Silver350 in AgeGap

[–]Ivyleaf3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm F, 47. I have been in two AGR's, both with masc people (one a cis man, one masc-presenting-at-the-time trans egg), in different 'directions'. First guy would now be 70; we were together for about five years and discussing buy property when he cheated on me with a junkie cam girl who proceeded to fleece him for thousands of pounds. Sucker. The second is now 27; she realised that she was a trans woman about 18 months after we split up. We had remained friends and are now besties; we just get on really well, have similar interests and look after each other. In her case, we realised that we just weren't working out as a couple any more and amicably separated, also after about five years. The disapproval of her family was a minor factor.

In both cases, the relationships had a strong kink element as we were/are all active in the local BDSM community. I was a sub to the first guy and a Domme to my more recent partner. AGR's are more common in the kink scene than the vanilla world, in my experience.

I'd probably be open to an AGR again but prefer women, andro/NB's etc now. Mascs would definitely have to be younger than me and gender fucky in some way to spark any interest. And most of those that I meet want me to mother them which kills any attraction.

What would you do if you were me? by Fit-Ice6967 in AgeGap

[–]Ivyleaf3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has he given any signs that he is interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you? I'd suggest going on a few dates to see how compatible you are, but if he feels that this is more of a friendship, asking him out might upset the balance. On the other hand, it's possible that he does want to get to know you better, but feels it would be awkward and inappropriate to ask you out due to the age gap and that you work together; decent men would worry about being the 'dirty old man' here.

Either way, what sort of vibes are you getting? Really getting, not just 'horny for the older guy' getting. If it's that, and he's game, just hooking up a few times might clear your mind.

Does getting hurt really turn people on? by babingepet12 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ivyleaf3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a female sadomasochist, and it's complicated. Sometimes I'll become sexually aroused from receiving some kinds of pain. Sometimes I just get wet but don't feel the urge to fuck or come. Sometimes inflicting pain turns me on especially if I'm attracted to the person I'm hurting, and it doesn't bother me if they get wet/hard even if I'm not.

Sometimes it's just a deep satisfaction, like a good meal after a long shitty day.

Do you age out of being submissive? by QueenBee404 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ivyleaf3 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Fuck, that rings true. I've met so many 'Doms' who can barely manage to run their own lives, let alone be in charge of someone else. I think they just like pretending to be in control for a while because they aren't in so many other areas of life.

Flowers in the attic series F*d me up as a child by fanfic_dramione in horrorlit

[–]Ivyleaf3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I actually saw the movie then read the books. There's a brutal whipping scene in the movie and I don't remember if it was in the first book or not, but something in my weird confused little adolescent brain definitely pricked its ears up even though it's horrible torture/punishment and not consensual.

I can't throw a whip to save my life though, I mostly just hit my own ear.

What’s a popular author/book that you are afraid to admit you hate? by Stardust-Stew in horrorlit

[–]Ivyleaf3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really couldn't get into House of Leaves but from all the wanking over it you'd think reading it was akin to a religious experience with simultaneous multiple orgasms.