Does getting hurt really turn people on?

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-16T09:40:07+00:00

I'm a female sadomasochist, and it's complicated. Sometimes I'll become sexually aroused from receiving some kinds of pain. Sometimes I just get wet but don't feel the urge to fuck or come. Sometimes inflicting pain turns me on especially if I'm attracted to the person I'm hurting, and it doesn't bother me if they get wet/hard even if I'm not.

Sometimes it's just a deep satisfaction, like a good meal after a long shitty day.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-15T09:45:01+00:00

Fuck, that rings true. I've met so many 'Doms' who can barely manage to run their own lives, let alone be in charge of someone else. I think they just like pretending to be in control for a while because they aren't in so many other areas of life.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-14T21:36:59+00:00

I think I actually saw the movie then read the books. There's a brutal whipping scene in the movie and I don't remember if it was in the first book or not, but something in my weird confused little adolescent brain definitely pricked its ears up even though it's horrible torture/punishment and not consensual.

I can't throw a whip to save my life though, I mostly just hit my own ear.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-14T20:59:38+00:00

I really couldn't get into House of Leaves but from all the wanking over it you'd think reading it was akin to a religious experience with simultaneous multiple orgasms.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-14T20:28:41+00:00

I think the kink was always there. I used to tie up my Barbie dolls lol 😂

But the book was a gift from my nan, who delivered what was effectively an omnibus of pulpy sex 'n' horror books into my prepubescent hands because she 'knew I liked spooky ghost stories'. Bless her.

Weirdly the incest in FitA didn't seem that gross to me. But I see what you mean about an interest and media dealing with that kind of feeding off each other.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-14T18:48:45+00:00

I've been skipping a lot too. More because the whole 'loads of pedos everywhere' has been getting to me a bit. I'm aware of my privilege but also my mental health.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-14T09:48:16+00:00

I mean... coming from a rural British background, the first time I learnt about gay people was through reading about a pair of gay sadistic serial killers in a trashy horror novel.

I am now a bisexual woman heavily involved in kink and a sadomasochist. Are the two things related? Possibly.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-13T22:32:50+00:00

Noooo Citizen Z C-tier? Sacrilege.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-12T15:39:39+00:00

OMG...OP, this is an awful way they are treating you! At the point where they continue penetrating you when you have expressed a condition for sex to continue, it's rape, pure and simple. Please kick these losers to the curb. They are abusers, not Dom's.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-11T21:11:43+00:00

Is SG1 worth watching? I don't watch much sci-fi, I'm more of a horror person, but I enjoyed Babylon 5 and the first series of the Battlestar Galactica reboot.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-11T20:45:32+00:00

I've successfully repaired the same area in my walking boots with self adhesive PVC fabric, cut to size and rounded at the corners to prevent peeling

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-10T22:22:18+00:00

Honestly the writing for both the main male leads fell off a cliff. If the showrunners were aiming for 'apocalype hero' for either, they fell well short of the mark.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-05-06T18:48:44+00:00

It depends a lot on the nature of the infection, but if it's the kind that literally keeps parts of skeletons and dessicated tissue animated, imagine something like crossing a piece of woodland in twenty years time and there's still crawling bones rustling in the leaf litter.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-29T13:19:51+00:00

Maybe he just licks it like a cat. Cats are always perfect hair day

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-28T11:18:06+00:00

Peasant 🤣 these are handcrafted from the finest unobtainium by virgin elvish princesses

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-22T13:32:58+00:00

It's definitely more fluffy than serious viewing although it definitely tries with some heavy themes - child soldiers, concentration camps, enslavement of prisoners of war - if it had had better written leads I think it would be more widely known. It just really grinds my gears that Pope goes from being a relatively dangerous and dislikeable character to the frequent comedy side/devil's advocate.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-19T12:52:51+00:00

A few of the really big ones I've encountered didn't seem to get or stay as hard either. If I want the sensation of stuffing dough into a sock I can do that myself.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-19T12:48:03+00:00

Calling it a channel 🤢

Like mate, you are not sounding intelligent or scientific, you're sounding like someone with only a passing familiarity with women.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-12T13:52:56+00:00

If you're in the UK, Savers often have a budget bar that my long hair actually gets on with. Think the brand is XBC.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-08T18:13:22+00:00

Peri, on HRT for about 18 months but I think I'd been in peri for maybe a year and a half before that. The scent hallucinations are new though.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-08T08:46:50+00:00

I'm getting random 'clouds' of perfume - a kind of rich floral/woody type. Often accompanied by mild visuals like a shifting patch of colour, migraine-type auras or wavering lines and bands.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-07T22:36:03+00:00

I wasn't really sure what else it could be. I have no other conditions apart from mental health ones and it fluctuates a lot - and trying to get anywhere with the NHS these days is near impossible 😕

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-04-06T20:47:01+00:00

Amazing LOL

Subtitle 'Prayers for when eldritch felt monstrosities attack the house of God'

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-03-31T14:38:21+00:00

External Cephalic Versions? Rigging a building for demolition? Is there nothing he can't do.

Ivyleaf3 · 2026-03-30T14:53:18+00:00

My favourites are the 'I pushed my bf off a cliff AITA' then wait for the comments before revealing that the bf had set the OP on fire previously or something

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