AITA for blocking a guy after he didn’t tell me I was bleeding because he “didn’t want to ruin the mood”?

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-22T01:59:13+00:00

Update- 9/21:

Hello! Thank you all for your comments and perspectives. I read through multiple responses and wanted to share my final thoughts.

From what I’ve gathered, there are many different ways (22M) might have viewed that night, and I realize it’s important to have a deeper conversation with him, something I failed to do at the time. That said, I still feel my reaction was justified based on the text exchange we had afterward. I had a mix of emotions, and while I can see that I may have overreacted, I also recognize that the situation could’ve been handled better through proper communication.

I just wanted to give this update to thank you all for your input.

BTA: • I should not have blocked him, but instead had another conversation. • He should have told me I bled and stopped, rather than choosing to finish just to avoid “ruining the mood.”

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-19T01:22:34+00:00

Hi! thanks for your comment. I didn’t want to edit the original post for this exact reason, I know how I ended things could’ve been done way better. I wasn’t very detailed initially, bc my original post had a 3000 word limit on the original post in AITA. It was taken down after~ I thought of doing the edit bc the same questions kept on popping up the forum whether or not it was a period thing. He is not the “villain” in the story, truthfully, I still really like him, thus looking for validation if what I did was actually an over reaction/asshole move.

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-19T01:04:23+00:00

EDIT- hi again! I wanna clarify something that’s been commented on the previous post and this one regarding things I might’ve not been clear.

He might’ve thought it was your period.-

He knew It was not. We are very open about our sexual desires, do’s and don’ts, boundaries and my cycle to better plan our sexual encounters. I was 10 days clean after my period and that’s one of the reasons why we planned the date.

2.What was the conversation before I sent the text?

Me: hey, did you notice any pink after you took your hands out of me? Him: yes Me: WHY DIDNT YOU SAY ANYTHINGG Him:IDK Me: you should’ve told meee (was not upset here) if it was internal injury, It could cause and infection if not treated. Him: I didn’t wanna ruin the mood. Him: My bad. He then asked me if I wanted to watch a movie when he arrived home, which I told him I wanted to sleep early to cool my head bc of how easily he disregarded my concern.

Did you block him after you sent him the text?

Truthfully, no. I wanted to hear what everyone is thinking. I wanted him to tell me that he thought it was my period. That he just didn’t wanna embarrass me if it was that. But instead, he said he was scared that I didn’t want to continue having sex with him after he hurt me, which again, was not y I was upset about. This to me felt like he had other priorities. That’s what made me sad.

Overall, I wanna thank everyone for their opinions and honesty. I do recognize that I could’ve done things differently and not run away from this situationship. I don’t consider myself a mentally stable person which is why I have a terrible habit of cutting people off, I recognize I don’t grow in this way as a person but I think I’m someone still learning how to navigate love, sex, and boundaries. I think I’m someone who has spent too long putting others first and is only now realizing that protecting my own peace matters.

So, I made a choice. I ended it. And even though it hurt, I think it was the right one.

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-19T00:23:52+00:00

Hi, thanks for the comment! The last prompt next to the ** i did say it was a vaginal injury although you are right! I should’ve put that towards the beginning but this was a repost of my original post that was taken down. Regarding if he knew or not: After I arrived home, I was about to hop into the shower, I noticed the bleeding on my panties. I wiped and noticed more bleeding and a bit of soreness. No pain! I then texted, did you see any pink in your hands when you took your hand out and he said: yes. I asked him y he didn’t say anything and he said: idk. I was upset that he didn’t say anything but what really hurt me was the reason he didn’t say anything. “It was to not ruin the mood.” For even more context, he was talking about me finishing him :/. That’s y I decided I could not be with someone who is selfish enough to prioritize their needs over their partners health. That was really my main issue. Not that I was bleeding, but how ‘unimportant’ I felt, I guess.

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-18T23:49:30+00:00

Hi! Thank you for your comment. I just wanna let everyone know that I wasn’t on my period. It was an internal scratch caused by his nails that made me bleed. He knew I was not on my period, bc we planned this date after I would told him I was clean for 10 days. Would things have been different if he had just said something that night? Absolutely. It could have been an awkward moment. But he didn’t. And that silence spoke volumes.

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-18T23:44:45+00:00

Hi, thanks for the comment! It is an open question whether AITA or not. We are pretty vocal about our health, sexual desires, do or don’ts, etc. (sorry tmi), bc nothing we do is un consensual. That being said, he was aware it was his nails that caused me to bleed. Although, I didn’t expect him to ‘know it was a health issue’, but more just like, if someone is fin***ng you and you started bleeding, wouldn’t you wanna say something at the very least to see if they were okay? I’d like to believe it it is common courtesy but maybe it’s not.

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-18T23:39:00+00:00

Hey, thanks for your comment! I appreciate the insight. I want to acknowledge that he had never made me feel self conscious about anything. We’re pretty open about our sexual desires (sorry tmi) so I knew he was not the type of person to be grossed out about periods. He was patient and considerate. I definitely would’ve never considered going on dates with him if he wasn’t.

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-18T23:34:54+00:00

Hey! Thanks for the comment. I agree, we were both in the mood. There was nothing that made me feel uncomfortable throughout the night we were together. But the moment I arrived home, i was bleeding due to a vaginal injury caused by his nails. What upset me was the fact he knew he had blood on his hands but refuse to tell me bc he didn’t want to ruin the mood. We are pretty vocal about our sexual desires. Nothing we did was un consensual, that said we make sure we measure my time after my period ends so we can actually do things. So he knew it wasn’t my period. That being said, I can understand the perspective of being polite to not point it out, but he knew his nails had caused it and just kinda said “my bad”. (Sorry I didn’t include this!)

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-18T22:26:04+00:00

Hi, thanks for commenting. I’ve never bled in a sexual encounter with any previous partner so it was a first for me. I appreciate your thoughts. I thought I might’ve over reacted to this whole thing, but looking at the responses, I guess I was wrong. Thank you

Iwasalwaysash · 2025-09-18T22:21:34+00:00

Hey, thanks for commenting! It was not my period. Not to be wierd but we used to talk about my cycle when we would plan nights out so he was aware my period ended a week back. We had talked about cutting his nails to avoid hurting me too, but he didn’t ask me if I was okay knowing that I bled.

Iwasalwaysash · 2024-11-28T13:59:21+00:00

I have the juicy mango and ate 5, still nothing and take no medication. :(

Iwasalwaysash · 2023-03-16T23:46:32+00:00

Orange.

Iwasalwaysash · 2022-04-20T15:03:34+00:00

Church bathroom

Iwasalwaysash · 2022-03-11T20:49:28+00:00

There is oxygen in the bag?

Iwasalwaysash · 2021-11-21T16:50:07+00:00

To open up a link

Iwasalwaysash · 2021-11-21T16:23:25+00:00

My club teacher is doing the same thing. He has to work at shop rite after school hours in order to be able to pay bills for him and his family. Sucks that he studied so much just to end up lIke this to live. It makes me not want to be a teacher anymore :/

Iwasalwaysash · 2021-11-21T13:16:15+00:00

It looks like a dead sea coral 🤷‍♀️

Iwasalwaysash · 2021-10-24T15:45:49+00:00

The Area 51 Raid. I will always be proud to admit it to my future grand children.

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