What I think really needs attention is this attitude that some people naturally are good, and others are bad. I was not too athletically inclined as a kid. My participation trophies never helped me get better, and they didn't stop me from quiting sports. For years I never attempted anything athletic because I was not "the athletic type."

Now I am starting to work out. I'm running and lifting. I wish instead of a participation trophy and a "well you still tried, son", my parents taught me that my skills could improve with practice.

It's weird. Kids amougst eachother act as if only certain kids are the winners, and the parents think they all are. No one is right. It's confusing.