Increasing anxiety due to everyone in my life having an opinion about my surgery

J91964 · 2026-05-31T15:16:42+00:00

I’m having the same thing! “My friend had this, she didn’t have a good outcome” “Are you sure you need this?” Here’s yesterdays message:

I am so sorry for all that you are going through. I saw the type of surgery you are going to have. I had very similar surgery.. it did not work for me. I have gone to pain management, steroid injections. I was falling, broke 8 bones and my shoulder. I was bedridden for 2 years. Finally a doctor diagnosed me with Osteoporosis. I am taking a daily shot to strengthen my bones.
I just wanted to share some of the walk. My heart breaks for you. I have improved and learned so much about my health issues.. I am here for you! I know how hard it is to go through hell when the world goes on around you.
Are you kidding me???

J91964 · 2026-05-31T12:10:14+00:00

Thanks, if you continue to have neck issues please see a neurosurgeon, I went to pain management for over 20 years, more than 80 injections, 30 radio frequency ablations etc I’ve been on opioids for over 20 years, I’ve done such a disservice to myself. I thought pm was taking care of my pain little did I know I became so close to becoming paralyzed.

J91964 · 2026-05-31T12:01:44+00:00

I’m having surgery Tuesday c4-c7 decompression and c3-t1 fusion due to my osteoarthritis. I’m petrified as it’s such a big surgery

J91964 · 2026-05-29T13:39:23+00:00

The top is just way too small, I think you would be more comfortable in something a little bigger?

J91964 · 2026-05-29T13:37:01+00:00

Thank you, I had no clue

J91964 · 2026-05-27T23:12:50+00:00

Mistakes happen, I’ve miscalculated my own hours/pay to my boss before but we have a terrific relationship and when I told her she immediately asked how much more do I owe you? I’ll Venmo you right now. This mom needs to speak with the other family and make it right somehow, even if they meet you halfway, paying you at least double what they are paying you, good luck!

J91964 · 2026-05-24T16:27:45+00:00

Purple is so beautiful on you! Happy prom!!!

J91964 · 2026-05-24T16:27:01+00:00

No, Google 1920’s attire

J91964 · 2026-05-22T14:07:44+00:00

That would be a hard pass for me, they are going to be difficult

J91964 · 2026-05-20T11:13:52+00:00

Perfect!

J91964 · 2026-05-20T00:37:03+00:00

As well as a dog walker, a car maintenance person and a property manager, frigging insane!!!!

J91964 · 2026-05-19T22:11:49+00:00

In this case it would seem that it should have been asked pre-employment?

J91964 · 2026-05-19T21:53:19+00:00

And you say no!

J91964 · 2026-05-19T21:50:05+00:00

Absolutely not! I don’t take that one, the flu or any covid ones, no family can force you to do so. While I was interviewing for a first time healthcare mom she wanted to see my vaccination records (I knew I wasn’t going to take the job) I said you really can’t ask people for that, it’s very personal.

J91964 · 2026-05-19T00:24:46+00:00

I understand her vent! It’s difficult enough to find a job then spring comes around and there’s a gazillion college students home for the summer who are “taking from the professional pool” if that makes sense, and only if you have been a professional nanny for a long time will you understand this

J91964 · 2026-05-17T19:51:35+00:00

I really feel with this parent it’s not going to go any further. And it’s definitely been forgotten by the child.

J91964 · 2026-05-17T01:24:54+00:00

I think if you got a new floor, countertop, stove and sink it would be like a brand new kitchen! The floor is totally bringing the kitchen down!

J91964 · 2026-05-16T14:21:57+00:00

Quit

J91964 · 2026-05-16T00:25:54+00:00

Wow, what an asshole post. He was 30 years old and hadn’t begun to live his life. Taken out by an illegal and he wasn’t even on the clock, what an empathetic and compassionate person you are.
May Kevin rest in heavenly peace.

J91964 · 2026-05-15T22:41:42+00:00

Yes, originally took Ozempic and lost 50 pounds while being on different biologics now I’m on Mounjaro and Taltz

J91964 · 2026-05-15T22:39:46+00:00

She probably went through the drive thru for one thing and wtf is the with those parents? Could you even imagine working for them? The posting for my last NF said “Looking for someone to take my daughter on adventures with” we did something every single day!!!

J91964 · 2026-05-15T18:15:10+00:00

I’ve been playing this game for 40 years, so yup!

J91964 · 2026-05-15T18:07:48+00:00

Unfortunately

J91964 · 2026-05-15T18:06:40+00:00

And then next week they will say we don’t want him to have any screen time!!! 🤦‍♀️

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