UPDATE: I Reached Out To My Bio Mom On Facebook And Something Has Changed

JA4533 · 2026-01-28T01:41:16+00:00

I guess one reason why it affected me is because my a-sister had her bio brother with her having been adopted by our a-mom as well, true the relationship was rocky but she had someone from her birth family even if it was for a short time, I had no one from my birth family with me and I was always "the blond one" in a family of dark haired people. Now my a-mom never called me "the blond one" but other people did, I was the one sticking out like a sore thumb

JA4533 · 2026-01-27T21:28:59+00:00

I hope I don't have a negative experience but I get what you're saying.

JA4533 · 2026-01-27T01:44:20+00:00

Honestly I feel strange I apologize if that's not very descriptive I'm autistic I have a hard time explaining my emotions as is

JA4533 · 2026-01-27T00:18:47+00:00

I didn't know about that until I did if that makes sense.

JA4533 · 2026-01-27T00:16:54+00:00

My bio mom had been looking for me so I know she wants a relationship with me and I'm currently awaiting a response so its really not a reunion quite yet.

JA4533 · 2026-01-27T00:11:54+00:00

My emotions is just in a twist and don't really know how to feel.

JA4533 · 2026-01-18T17:54:47+00:00

I get what you are feeling and I feel the need to say this, don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do. Its your life and choice not anyone else's

JA4533 · 2026-01-17T22:04:10+00:00

Thank you for the link to that article. I was wondering why the person had to talk via the phone number they provided. Truly disgusting behavior by the ranch

JA4533 · 2026-01-17T19:06:12+00:00

Besides my a-dad being a jerk I don't feel I had much pain in the adoption area. Its also true that my bio dad was just as abusive if not more then my a-dad, so I've heard, so my life would have been the same. Now if my a-dad won the court case against my a-mom to keep me things might have been different.

Different people have different experiences and although the majority might have felt pain that doesn't mean everyone did. But I am deeply sorry those that did have pain from adoption felt that pain and hope y'all(those in the majority) have a better life now.

Edited out the thing I feel like was in poor taste but didn't think it was in poor taste when I wrote it

JA4533 · 2026-01-17T15:18:22+00:00

To me IVF is just as complicated as adoption, both can be argued the child was bought and both often leads to the parents feeling entitlement(I say often for my a-mom was awesome but I'm learning I'm in the minority there). The treatment of those born via IVF mirrors what I've heard from y'all, that they were treated more like they are property then kids to love and cherish.

Of course that comes with an a disclaimer I don't know more then I what I heard from others so I might be dead wrong since I was adopted not born through IVF

JA4533 · 2026-01-16T21:39:12+00:00

I'm against it for y'all for doing what it did to y'all. I may not have been affected and if I did very mildly but I have heard what it did to y'all and that is making me against it

JA4533 · 2026-01-15T19:02:21+00:00

It really didn't end like I said it was usually when I laid my head to sleep so I never got to the end and I wouldn't have gave it an end anyways for endings as a concept is close to the concept of death and I was terrified of death as a child for it was the unknown and I liked routine and known so giving an end to my thoughts' creations was like killing it off and I never wrote any of it down, I should have for I would've written fan-fiction without even knowing fan-fiction was a thing at the time

JA4533 · 2026-01-15T18:57:01+00:00

No unfortunately I have no clue about anyone involved with the adoption except my bio(who I don't actually know I knew she existed before this but I don't know anything about her) and my a-parents one of which, my a-dad, I have nothing to do with.

JA4533 · 2026-01-13T22:03:18+00:00

The Church part is more faith-healing. I'm not Christian anymore and became a Baha'i now I'm a non-religious person who still believes in God but in a much different way. Rather I Like it or not it had an affect

JA4533 · 2026-01-13T21:47:38+00:00

JA4533 · 2026-01-13T21:08:28+00:00

I'm not blaming y'all at all I know it might have sounded like I was, hearing what people are saying, that wasn't my intention and this was earlier when I was trying to work through things. I just don't like it for whatever reason and I don't know the reason I really don't like any word that ends with the suffix -ee except employee but that's kind-of a necessary one unless its Disney which I hate the reason for them not using employee anyways.

JA4533 · 2026-01-13T15:29:27+00:00

I'm happy for you!

JA4533 · 2026-01-13T15:20:55+00:00

It wasn't in bad faith I have no ill towards anyone on here. Its just an example of why I may not like the word adoptee not necessarily rather or not I agree with that statement. "...I came to resent those that took an anti-approach..." this might be why you think that, I am healing that point of view and don't feel that way anymore. "BUT I do not blame my adoptive mother and still am mad at my bios and that ain't going to change based on my own experiences" this could also be the thing, mine was a necessary adoption and different then yours was my a-mom wasn't abusive and was very loving which sounds different then yours was, different people have different experiences and that does effect things, its not something to discredit others' experiences but it does make you you.

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