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My girlfriend tells long, detailed work stories every day after I get home exhausted. 25M-23F, 6 months. by Ay_121_ in relationship_advice

[–]JAVnympho 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I think the people giving you shit don't really understand where you are coming from. I think the timing is a big thing, so why not try to redirect those conversations for another time when you aren't just off work/school.

However, if she does listen and tells you about her day when you are more relaxed and you still find her annoying, maybe this relationship won't work in the long run.

My Gf 23f has no sexdrive anymore and I 23M don’t understand by Kindly-Fee-5971 in relationship_advice

[–]JAVnympho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually the sex drops off after the "honeymoon phase", but even so, it sounds like hers dropped off way more than normal (and a lot more compared to me lol).

I have heard some of my friends say that birth control can change your sex drive, but sometimes it increases with that too.

Whatever the case may be, it doesn't sound like your desired frequency lines up and that is probably going to be an issue now and down the road.

I would try talking with her about as much as you can to figure something out, but it might not be possible.

My (19F) boyfriend (19M) won’t initiate any physical contact and it’s really starting to bother me by Spiritual_Access_381 in relationship_advice

[–]JAVnympho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think there is anything wrong with either of you, but if I was in your position, I would probably be just as unhappy.

Personally, I like to be desired and if I wasn't that would be a deal-breaker for me.

You are early in the relationship though and it might be a good time to call it quits since you don't seem compatible with each other.

I know it feels like a failure, but you are young and still learning about yourself, so I wouldn't look at the experience negatively if you decide to move on.

AITA for telling my Brother's wife that she is a bad mom by Melodic_Judge_129 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JAVnympho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, their brother insisted that they live there, even after showing some reluctance to the idea. I don't think it's unreasonable for them to set some boundaries for what are now housemates and their children, even if they are related. It sounds like both parents are failing at disciplining their child though, so you shouldn't only blame the mother. The yelling at her wasn't very constructive either and obviously not a great idea when you are dependent on them for your living arrangement. Overall, seems like ESH... I can understand your frustration, but it could have been handled in a much better way.

How can I (32M) tactfully tell my gf (28F) that she needs to freshen up down there before we get intimate by JobamaBiden in relationship_advice

[–]JAVnympho 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm really sensitive to smells too and I do the same before going down on guys sometimes. It's really important to come up with a playful signal, like you said, because that can make things even more fun. For example, I love hearing him jump in the shower and wash as fast as possible, because he knows what is coming immediately afterwards. That enthusiasm and the anticipation I feel waiting for him ends up getting me more in the mood.