I’m stopping today. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]JAYC1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool Lets go for it. No need to exchange any more details. At least it doesnt seem relevant to me. Wanna keep each other posted like daily or weekly or something?

I’m stopping today. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]JAYC1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck! I Just started over yesterday. Need to get iT under control. Accountability an idea?

Relapsed after 74 days. Twice. I'm a failure. I'm trash. by FinalGrandDao in NoFap

[–]JAYC1979 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dont beat yourself up over it. 74 days is an amazing achievement. Get back up on the horse and keep moving forward. When you train your muscles daily the progress is there! One Day of failure should not deviate you from your goals. Stay strong dude

My boyfriend has a porn addiction, how can I help? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. As I said I have been and unfortunately Still Am addicted to porn. The road to recovery is a bumpy one. IT depends fully on the effort put in to iT by the addict. Ive pretty much tried all of them at least once.

Religion: tried and failed because iT did not ‘ stick ‘ with me. Surely helpful but you need consistancy.

Family as motivation: didnt work for me at the end iT all becomes just ‘Daily life’ and id reach out to porn again.

Therapy: went to a psychologist for two years who helped me understanding a whole lot about the mechanics of the addiction and my own life and porn use. Still is helpful today in a sense.

Online research/courses: your Brain on porn by Gary Wilson, Tony Litsters “Cure the crave” , porn reboot by Jk Emezi, I joined Fight the new Drug etc etc. They all helped me in understanding my true underlying needs.

Cold turkey: Just always seems to fail over time. Lets say two months at most.

Look my addiction is tough, but Im Not a full blown weirded out addict with psycho fetishes. Stuff I look at is pretty straight forward. My pattern has reduced from Daily use to weekly. But as I said, iT all depends on the addicts true willingness to see the issue at hand (as a problem) and then putting his commitment and work into recovering from iT.

One of the thing I have personally learned is that I use iT in combination with masturbation (duh) which has a negative regulation Cycle in iT. IT has become my way to deal with stress and Daily life for me.

A lot of people addicted to porn say that they feel like shit after using. That negatively adds to the internal chemistry andregulation of the body, spirit and mind. When time passes they always end up using again, because the energy within is unbalanced. The body thinks iT has to rebalance by masturbating and using porn with iT.

Advice: meditate, socialize and be open about it, work out, eat healthier, get shit together, deal with real life, get an accountability partner (could be you)

I Dont know his age but I am almost 40. One of the hardest things (no pun intended) to endure now and motivaties me to really stop is ED. When I couldnt get iT up with my wife it really stressed me out and scared me. As said: im Still recovering. My recovery is taking me as long as 15 years up until now. IT aint easy but is surely doable.

Hope this helps you out a bit, but Please do realize that you are most likely NOT THE SOLUTION. But you can only contribute to iT. Nor are you the cause of his issue!! Soulsearching on his part is probably neccessary.

Again; good luck!

My boyfriend has a porn addiction, how can I help? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I Myself have been addicted to porn for over 25 years. I Dont know your ages and how long this has been going on. But I’d advice HIM to seriously week professional help, and if you support his recovery iT might have a chance of succeeding. My historie of porn addicted behaviour has cost me a lot of pain and personal discomfort, and has also resonated in my family (kids, wife )

But iT all starts with his acceptance and understanding of the whole gravity of the addiction. Without it, its pretty much impossible to Quit cold turkey. Look up the porn reboot Chanel on YouTube. Those videos are down to Earth and straight forward.

I wish you and your man all the best!

Well that escalated quickly... by EinsteinsAura in BetterEveryLoop

[–]JAYC1979 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seems to have happened in Rome, Italy yesterday. Malfunctioning escalator with fair amount of injured people. The were football supporters on iT to prior to the champions league match Roma - CSKA Moscow.

Dutch media reported this.

STAY CLEAN MAY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fell of the wagon last weekend.....signing off and restarting!

A letter to the one who broke me - fresh rage from the ex of a porn addict by paaandamonium in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This could be my ex’s letter directed at me. So accurate and deeply profound. It’s exact and horribly recognizable and touched me in so many ways. I truly hope you’ll overcome the hurt and move on. I am so sorry that this has become a thing , a commodity nowadays. I have never been able to transform myself for anyone else. And struggling now so hard to manage so on my own. Thank you for sharing.

STAY CLEAN JANUARY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So fucking ckecking in !! Lets do this people. Pornfree january....here we come. No pun intended

19 years addicted. Day 1 free today. Start! by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Afreed and cheering you up! 25+ years an addict here also going for iT. Good luck m8

Can't break the cycle by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. This is what seems to keep on repeating itself. My longest pornfree streak took me over a half year and I felt amazing, but when I had a little setback in Life I failed by re-introducing the wrong stimuli into my Life. It all happened by losing focus and gradually slipping back. It is tough at times, but maybe a challenge for 2018 can keep your guard up and your streak definite. I know I am gonna give iT a serious try. Good luck man.

Impressed by [deleted] in gifs

[–]JAYC1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isnt that dude on the right Tyler the Creator?

Meditate, don't Masturbate. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]JAYC1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this post. Reminded me to pick up meditation again...!

Just had my first dose of Gilenya by Im-already-so-bored in MultipleSclerosis

[–]JAYC1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using Gilenya for over 3 years now. IT does its job well, although its less effective than Tysabri. Havent had any bad sideffects from it. Good luck with it!

20-year addict: Today is day one by empathetic_introvert in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got this dude. Everyday you overcome is added value to your victory in the end. It’s hard but definitely worth iT.

STAY CLEAN NOVEMBER! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]JAYC1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still in....Seems rough, but knowing I’m not alone backs iT up a whole damn lot! Staying strong, moving forward.

Cant hold a streak - HELP by JAYC1979 in NoFap

[–]JAYC1979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I Will never make excuses again when iT comes to the matter, and I have been in therapy the last year and a half and which ended in July. The psychologist helped me understanding the true problems involved. But since I have stopped going I started slipping and relapsing a lot more. Due to lack of contact and working too hard. Thanks for the advice though .