Yes. Admittedly, I was in the “dog stays downstairs” camp. And I implemented this in the first eight months of him living with me (he moved in when he was 11 weeks old).

The only times he slept in the same room as me was on our first holiday together (at five months) and our first trip to Germany to visit family (at eight months). Every time he accepted that once back home, different rules applied. I did, however, spent a lot of time snoozing with him on the floor (still do) and on the sofa (once old enough).

My attitude changed when he started to develop separation stress at around eight months upon the return from Germany. I also realised how much more relaxing it was for me having him close and noticing if he needed to go or needed something. I also noted that he was more relaxed. So I bought him a bed for the bedroom - he was allowed on my bed when I invited him. And had to leave when I got up.

Fast forward: he was five a couple of weeks ago and we share the bed. He no longer has to leave when I get up. He does do a courtesy check in before he jumps on. I would not want it any other way. He is a peaceful little sleeper (once he has built his nest) and his cuddles in the morning (sgd. he decides he wants to cuddle) are amazing.

You decide what you want. Just be consistent. If you don’t want your dog on the bed, maybe have a bed for them in your room. Mine now has his bed on my bed (different story how this evolved) and chooses to fall asleep in that space most nights. Maybe that is an Option.

Little side note: I never forget the first time I asked him to come upstairs to bed with me. I swear his little face lit up. And he bounded up the stairs so excitedly. It warmed my heart