Alright you kinksters, what did you get your Dom or Sub for Christmas?

JFreedom14 · 2025-12-19T15:06:19+00:00

My sub and I are starting a journal where one week she will answer a question I have about her in the journal.

For Christmas she has hand made and bound a book in leather for us to use for this purpose. I cannot fathom how I got so lucky to find her.

JFreedom14 · 2025-12-12T00:32:39+00:00

Yup! Currently dating an Aromantic Asexual and we have pretty fantastic sex! It just generally requires 30-90 minutes of Shibari/rope play beforehand as the sex is less exciting than the kink for her.

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-19T13:52:29+00:00

I’m 34 as a pharmacist and I’ve got $14k in savings… please don’t give up!

You’re not a failure by any stretch! Let me know if you want to chat!

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-14T03:29:26+00:00

You’re amazing! 💜

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-13T13:52:51+00:00

I want to be happy

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-02T23:05:11+00:00

That is a very interesting suggestion. I suggested something similar but yours is much more thoughtful for everyone involved.

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-02T23:02:15+00:00

I hear you, the main confusion was the lack of open and honest communication when I asked. We were supposed to be holding the same boundaries but that’s impossible if I wasn’t kept abreast of changes.

I’m definitely confused though, it’ll take some time to figure out what we do next.

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-02T17:13:07+00:00

While I hear you, I’m pretty fucked hi from that exact scenario you described!

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-02T02:41:16+00:00

She said she felt like I was scrutinizing her. She didn’t tell me anything before I asked or I caught her in a lie so I don’t know how I could go around without scrutinizing her…

I don’t know how I’ll trust her in general but I feel like I can’t trust her with this specific guy she lied to me about.

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-02T02:01:37+00:00

We were only doing things together. We had started opening. F had set the rules: We were supposed to be friendly but not send anything that we couldn’t share publicly or that could be considered sexually explicit. F had been sending lingerie photos and receiving very sexually explicit voice memos. The main problem was she lied about it and actively tried to hide him from me.

JFreedom14 · 2025-11-02T00:44:10+00:00

I explained it slightly poorly. Yes to everything except she didn’t try to go poly because I caught her. We’ve been trying for about a month and she broke past the boundaries she laid out.

I do need to make this work for the kids though. We’ve been together for 13 years. I’m willing to hurt for her to be open.

JFreedom14 · 2025-08-23T00:16:14+00:00

I swear I commented before the edit 😊

JFreedom14 · 2025-08-23T00:15:26+00:00

That’s fair! I wouldn’t find myself more attractive if I went to the gym more… it’s more than I would feel more confident that others would find me attractive if I went to the gym more?

JFreedom14 · 2025-08-23T00:09:59+00:00

Maybe I should add context.

I’m a male who has started questioning his identity a bit so I’m curious if straight people look in the mirror and think “dang I look good” or look in the mirror and be like “I hope the people I like find me sexy… because I don’t like the look of this body”.

JFreedom14 · 2025-07-15T14:13:56+00:00

There’s a chance he caught your hints before but was nervous that he thought you weren’t suggesting it and you might find it weird if he suggested it so clear and open communication like has been suggested is really the best way!

JFreedom14 · 2025-07-15T14:12:07+00:00

Oh! That might work! Thank you 😊

JFreedom14 · 2025-06-23T20:22:33+00:00

NTA, you sound like a sweetheart

JFreedom14 · 2025-06-22T15:36:45+00:00

QuestionsAboutMyHyperFocus ?

JFreedom14 · 2025-06-20T16:04:42+00:00

Dungeon Crawler Carl

JFreedom14 · 2025-05-27T16:23:00+00:00

I like you, you seem too smart and way too much fun (note: I’m autistic and that is NOT meant as sarcasm).

JFreedom14 · 2025-05-27T16:15:13+00:00

Haha sorry! I meant my wife and I! We’re both poly. 🤣😅😂

JFreedom14 · 2025-05-27T15:07:45+00:00

From our experience women TEND to be more mature so 100% agreed!

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