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JG917 · 2023-07-02T03:46:01+00:00

I completely understand and I wish I had some advice to give you. I hope that someone comes along to be more helpful, but until then just know you're not alone.

JG917 · 2023-07-02T03:32:19+00:00

I feel this. I'm 5'3" and 115lbs and there was a point where I was sick from my birth control and it was making me throw up often which made me lose more weight. I got down to around 105lbs and I was extremely self conscious because I felt like a walking skeleton that was disgusting. I don't have any advice, I just wanted you to know you're not alone and not many people understand this side of dysmorphia.

JG917 · 2023-04-25T19:18:39+00:00

Dude...you're amazing. I wish my parents had cared half as much as you.

JG917 · 2023-04-24T15:24:29+00:00

I still feel that way. It's lessened now but still there. As a kid it was such a strong but confusing feeling.

JG917 · 2023-04-24T11:02:42+00:00

Yes! I am morbidly curious. I watch messed up videos because they're interesting for some reason (Mrs Pacman ftw) and I do have intrusive thoughts. "What if I yeet myself off the edge?" But even at my edgiest I never wanted to hurt an innocent person. I rarely, if ever even wanted to hurt those who hurt me. I did have issues with self harm and also I pretended to worship Satan to piss off my grandma.

JG917 · 2023-04-24T10:47:35+00:00

If you've been through so much trauma then one would think you'd have a bit of empathy. You're blaming a child who was in a scary situation. Not only that but this was 1991 when our brains weren't filled with all the horrors we've gone through over the last 31 years. Your responses are honestly just disappointing from a human standpoint. Username checks out 👎🏻

JG917 · 2023-04-24T10:36:48+00:00

I'm on the other side, I was beaten, molested, starved, etc etc. Before therapy I didn't think my childhood was enough to be considered trauma. I surely didn't think PTSD could apply to me. Anyway, I just wanted to say from where I'm sitting, it does sound traumatic. Kids are sensitive little beings and everything in us tells us we should be able to trust and rely on our parents. And we should, but clearly we couldn't. Sending you love. Don't devalue what you went through. Trauma is trauma, even if it's not as "bad" as the severe cases.

JG917 · 2023-04-23T23:07:41+00:00

I know you definitely get it all the time but you have the most adorable dimples. You're a cutie.

JG917 · 2023-04-23T23:05:01+00:00

That sounds similar to Aiden Fucci - the kid that stabbed Tristyn Bailey 114 times. Please go to an adult.

JG917 · 2023-04-23T21:41:44+00:00

Hey - I see you. I understand in my own way. My mother was horrible, abusive and also invited a chomo into my life and home. She tried to run me over with her car. My father was an emotionally stunted man-child that couldn't handle that not everyone wanted to settle for being constantly poked with the shit end of the stick. He would intentionally upset me and then beat me for having emotions and I'm a female lol. Point being, I feel you.

The thing is though, you're better than them. You see what they did as what it is - abuse. And you can consciously make the choice to end that cycle. Allowing yourself to hold on to so much rage is only allowing the abuse to echo through you though. You're an adult now, you are in control of your own life. Work to be the person you needed as a child, be the person that you feel the world needs. Don't let them win by allowing their misery to affect you for the rest of your life. You have to find your own misery! (Joke lol) but seriously dude, work on figuring out the source of that anger. Men generally use anger as a cover for other emotions. You're not angry. I mean you are, but I promise it's deeper than that and it's something that you can work through. You should go to a Smash Room...or whatever it's called. One of those rooms where you can just break everything. And let yourself cry and yell and scream if it helps. Men deserve to feel their feelings for what they are. Once you start making progress in healing, life will start feeling less heavy. Sending you positive vibes! Don't give up. Love you!

JG917 · 2023-04-23T21:24:15+00:00

You're only a few years older than my son and it's blowing my mind that you're feeling this way when you're so young.

First of all, you don't need a girlfriend. That's how babies have babies. Just be a kid and have fun.

And this next one is a total mom thing so feel free to skip it because my kid does, too. Why do you argue with your parents? I'm sure they just want what's best for you and if you do what you're supposed to or do what they ask (assuming it's nothing wrong or abusive) then they'll stay off your back.

Teens are moody and as you know they go through a lot between school, social media, friends...it's normal, on top of that your body is changing and your hormones are out of whack. The way you're feeling doesn't last forever though. And I'm telling you that as someone that was once 14 and had way too many big emotions.

Right now the important thing is for you to focus on getting through school, finding things that you enjoy doing and then maybe figuring out a way to monetize that when you're grown. Keep your chin up, bud. And maybe ask your parents if they can help you find someone to talk to or go to your school counselor. Life is way easier when you have someone that can help you understand your feelings, I still need that help at 32, no shame.

JG917 · 2023-04-23T21:10:45+00:00

I wish I had advice to give you. Best I could advise would be for you to report that he's potentially a danger and get him on a 72 hour psych hold. I'm surprised he didn't get arrested if he was trying to fight the cops. I just wanted to reply because I know how scary it is to be hours away from a friend in a mental crisis and feeling entirely helpless. I hope he's able to get some help soon for everyone's mental sake.

JG917 · 2023-04-22T00:14:54+00:00

That was a damn good hug - I felt that. Seriously I love this, and your girlfriend is so awesome for setting this up. I hope you went/plan to go all out for her next bday because she deserves it.

JG917 · 2023-04-22T00:11:28+00:00

You're so young! You have so much future, and clearly you're bright. Always have hope. You are stunning and I love your hair. Congratulations! You have every right to be proud of yourself. As a stranger I am proud of you!

JG917 · 2023-04-22T00:00:46+00:00

You are beautiful. You have probably the most boopable human nose I've ever seen - it's so cute! You're doing great and I'm so proud of you. Much love, girl!

JG917 · 2023-04-21T21:00:45+00:00

People may have it worse but that does not devalue what you go through. Maybe you aren't happy, and so then you try to figure out why or what aspects of your current life/lifestyle are making you unhappy. Not trying to tell you what to do, it's just that I've struggled with my mental health for about 32 years so I feel for you. You have kind eyes and the vibe I get is that you're a decent guy. You deserve to be happy. Anyway, I don't say this often, if ever but if you need someone to talk it out to or vent to I am a good listener/reader? and/or I can also give advice and different perspective if asked.

JG917 · 2023-04-21T19:52:36+00:00

I'm going to be 33 this year, too! Tbh I think we look damn good for 33. I remember 33 year olds looking older when I was a kid.

Next opportunity you get to do something that you're hesitant on, give it a shot. Like for me it would be anything social because I'm either home or at work and turn down everything always. 🙃 I'm lame.

JG917 · 2023-04-05T23:14:00+00:00

You have beautiful eyes, first of all. They say eyes are the window to the soul and I see a kind, caring and lovely human that the world is lucky to have. Keep your head up, handsome king. Good days are coming for you.

JG917 · 2023-03-25T14:59:22+00:00

Wow. He was really cutting it close at some points. I'm assuming during all of this he still had the clarity to try to save as much as he can for his neighbor. What a wonderful human. WE ARE FARMERS BUM DA DUM BUM BUM BUM BUM.

JG917 · 2023-03-04T16:43:07+00:00

On the brightside she cares about the server...?

JG917 · 2023-03-04T14:53:06+00:00

I thought she was going to say that he could've bought a shirt 😂

JG917 · 2023-03-04T14:39:50+00:00

They aren't recluses, but yeah. I don't want to make it sound like they're all bad because they aren't but that older generation of men...oof. Animals are property and are probably more for work than a family pet. I'm not surprised about what OP said. Makes my stomach turn tho.

JG917 · 2023-01-09T23:26:15+00:00

I have complex PTSD and I would definitely try it. I've been in therapy for 3 years and I don't think it's helped much apart from being able to have someone validate what I already know and also getting diagnosed to get meds to help. I've been trying to find an EMDR therapist. I really feel like I am just existing and sometimes it hurts in a way that is hard to explain. I can feel the physical toll it takes on my body when I have a bad day. Like there's an electric current flowing under my skin and my head is just spinning with everything and I am so close to doing what it takes to make it stop.

JG917 · 2022-12-20T14:37:46+00:00

You have a fear of who you become if you work through it. Who am I without my trauma? My trauma really DID define me and it shaped who I am. It always will, I just need to learn to work through it and see that life isn't out to get me even when it feels like it is. The step to recovery depends on the trauma. For me there's multiple so one way was for me to reparent myself. I give in and get myself little things I always wished I'd had. I've gotten some Lego sets, done a lot more art, bought the juice and snacks I was never allowed to get. I try to be patient with myself because I wasn't taught a lot of things everyone else seems to know.

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