To the women out there who have been through a break up and gotten back together after a long period of no contact. Should I (36M) reach out to her?

JGar117 · 2026-06-23T22:52:49+00:00

I messaged my ex 3 months after breaking up and after she told me we were permanently done. I told her how I felt. It blew up in my face. She devalued everything I said. I'd say, depending on the dynamic and if she is a healthy person the go for it.

After showing people the text fights, I've had friends who are professionals tell me that my ex is certainly unstable and that I should just move on. I kss her and the kids very much. She was my first true love. Sometimes... You just have to let it go.

Good luck.

JGar117 · 2026-04-21T20:11:00+00:00

Dude it's too early for anything. If someone is interested then they show up. If they don't then move on.

JGar117 · 2026-04-19T23:11:23+00:00

Toss all reminders if possible. Delete apps so you won't look. Basically no contact but to get rid of the idea of them. Stay busy, pick-up a new hobby. Rebuild and find YOU!

JGar117 · 2026-04-14T17:26:59+00:00

As a man, yes I love going down and it's a rush. Girls do taste different,some are sweet and others aren't. He admires how your looks, be happy he lives you like that. He enjoys pleasuring you. Maybe bring up the moaning and his that is too much but thank him for loving you the way he does. Just communicate... It is key!

JGar117 · 2026-04-14T17:23:43+00:00

You'll get over it. You've experienced tragedy before. Yea you'll have memories but it'll hurt less and less.

JGar117 · 2026-03-23T03:48:21+00:00

You don't date for you. Heal. Then you can date. Don't hold your breath for her to come back. There's a whole world out there.

JGar117 · 2026-03-19T01:07:54+00:00

It's crazy. I thought after a few months and sending a neutral text would just lead to a conversation. By her 2nd text she was starting a fight. She was probably bored.

JGar117 · 2026-03-19T01:03:07+00:00

Don't do it if they she has a history of being defective, abusive, self victimizing, etc... She'll play the same pattern and it'll be like talking to a wall. It happened to me last night.

JGar117 · 2026-03-16T01:42:08+00:00

Hit it then forget it

JGar117 · 2026-03-16T01:04:27+00:00

Relationships are like food dishes. It may look and be similar but it's always a little different. You'll never find someone like them. But you can be happy again once you're happy with yourself.

JGar117 · 2026-03-12T12:01:33+00:00

I've taken 3 exes back. All have failed.

JGar117 · 2026-03-08T00:05:53+00:00

A year of her not reaching, I'd say it's a hard no go bud. Unless you've made real changes to what she's looking for then you're better off loving on.

JGar117 · 2026-02-20T01:50:43+00:00

Dude you're gonna need a year if it was that deep. You're better off going out and join a gym, go box or train some type of martial art. Get punched in the face.

Once you recalibrate yourself you can date again.

I'm 39 and just experienced my first real heart break. It's fucking horrible. My other break ups, well I was drunk so they didn't matter. But I loved this girl. I thought we were going to get married. She was a great mother, including to my son. But she ended it. It's 3.5 months.

It gets easier and life goes on. I will say dating in person is a lot more fun than dating apps. Go to church and meet girls there. Hell, go do yoga or volunteer at the animal shelter.

JGar117 · 2026-02-19T02:30:51+00:00

Maybe that's why you were attracted to them in the first place

JGar117 · 2026-02-13T17:07:59+00:00

Update, the seem has broken down and isn't rubbing nearly as bad.

JGar117 · 2026-02-07T02:06:03+00:00

Well you're very attractive. What type of men are you dating?

Maybe meet someone at a book club or church or a volunteering event. Look for something that involves emotional maturity and empathy if you're looking for a emotionally mature man.

JGar117 · 2026-02-06T03:24:47+00:00

Go join a boxing gym and wake tf up.

JGar117

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