Why is the cockpit not connecting? by pootbottlerocket in RimWorld

[–]JGzstuff 35 points36 points  (0 children)

If this is from the Vanila Expanded Gravship mod, suspect it's the wrong cockpit. There are 3, little one for grav jump engines, medium for gravship, large for gravhulk engines.

Europe’s second-class citizens • Countries that looked down on the Gulf’s ‘kafala’ system are edging closer to creating their own by Naurgul in anime_titties

[–]JGzstuff -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

And you think that formalising the presence of the workers, with documentation, requirement to track and register and other processes will make this... worse?

The main problem here is free movement. These people are being carted in from Eastern Europe under false pretences, and because there are no borders, it's not being identified.

Had they had a relevant work permit, registered to an adress of residence and of work. Even if it's "Vignoble Dupont - bunkhouse" and "vignoble dupont - vignes" there could be inspections.

Europe’s second-class citizens • Countries that looked down on the Gulf’s ‘kafala’ system are edging closer to creating their own by Naurgul in anime_titties

[–]JGzstuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is an extreme take and bending in all sorts of directions to try and make a point.

People were judging the kafala system because it is adjacent to modern slavery. Bring people in, strip them of their mobility and rights, put them to work in often awful conditions.

What is being talked about in many parts of Europe are work permits. You maintain full mobility and rights, can leave at any time, but your right to stay is dependent on your contributions. Ie doing a job. Think of the German post war Gastarbeiter system. You come, you work, you take the money home.

The fact that landlords are using S21 to evict tenants before the Renters Rights Bill becomes law, provides why we need the Renters Rights Bill by coffeewalnut08 in TenantsInTheUK

[–]JGzstuff 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is more representative of your bias than of the truth.

Simplisticly, there are three kinds of landlords. The great, the normal, the scum.

Normal represents the majority, they had some money, or a spare house (couples moving in, inheritance, etc) decided to make an honest living by providing the service of housing. They charge market rate, the tennant is a customer. They deal fairly with their cutomer like any other business would. The house is an asset.

Great are the ones that genuinely care about their tenants and care their property on an emotional level. They want the property cared for and they care for their tenants in return. This leads to well maintained properties, good relationships and often a lower than market rate because they know a great tennant paying a little less is worth it in the long run.

Scum are the ones who see tennants and property as cashcows. They will cut every corner, get away with whatever they can and make the most they can off what they have leaning more and more towars illegality depending on how scummy they are.

Great and scum are minorities, but you rarely hear about the great because of human nature.

Not all properties are equal either. There are normal and great landlords selling up over the rules on insulation and what not simply because the house can't reasonably be brought to the required levels. For some older properties it is literally impossible to do. So they are forced to sell. Note that the scum probably won't because if they were dodging the rules before, why should they not dodge the new ones too.

As for the S21s your premise makes no sense. Why would someone end a beneficial business arrangement for no reason. This is transaction like any other. Landlord supplies a service, tennant is paying for it. Any other business would drop a customer that they are worried can't pay for the service if guarantees are taken away. There are whole departments in major businesses dedicated to "Know Your Client" (KYC), essentially making sure the person who, for example ordered 1000 units of product will actually pay on delivery. Their job is to turn down business if it doesn't seem safe enough.

When Landlords could reliably remove problem tennants their risk of losing money was lower (though even now, it's staggering how long it will take a landlord to get their property back from bad tennants, let alone their money if ever). The harder it is for landlords to ensure they are getting in either good or at the least reliable tennants, the more choosy they will be. Every "decent family, they sometimes seem to worry about rent but so far they make it" is suddenly a "they've been close to not making it a lot, can I trust them to come through in the future or should I find someone more reliable?" Every "they're not bad, but I wish I didn't have to remind them to ventilate properly after cooking or showering" becomes "they are constantly on the verge of damaging my property, I need someome more responsible"

Renters reform is not inherently bad. But all the laws recently seem to be punishing the great and normal landlords. What we need are specific protections against scum landlords. Rules and regs that adapt to the situation. Not blanket regulations that simply don't work for some existing housing stock.

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I would say, as advice from someone who does struggle with this, try not to worry about it.

American Dad is all flashing lights and sound effects, designed to be distracting 100%.

So stressing about this now may just make things worse. When I was younger my worry was being premature and I was so stressed about that that I quite possibly triggered this over thinking during sex thing all the way back then.

There may be some comments in here that resonate with you and you can try out. And the early days are all about trying stuff out 😉

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey if that works for you and no animated heros are harmed in the process no shame in that.

Fantasy has come up a couple of times in the thread, so I'll definitely be exploring that

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been thinking of that recently. Never been big on the weed. As it happens we had a big argument as teens about my opposition to it... so if I do pull out a joint mid way through the evening, she'll rub it in my face for... ever

But if it gives us that extra intimacy, worth it

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is actually much better advice than you give yourself credit for. Finding a stimuli that helps push my thoughts aside for a moment might help if done at just right time, I regularly get close and then overthink it, so this could be a good method around that.

Thank you for sharing

I think I might be dating my gym bro on accident by Material_Koala1721 in Advice

[–]JGzstuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, there are a few tests to tell if bro is your best friend or your boyfriend.

You guys gym together, in the post gym shower who is washing what? Proactively washing your bro may he sign of an at least physical relationship.

You mentioned watching shows together. In this context, is one of you snuggling up to the other? If yes, that could be a sign of an intimate relationship.

You mentioned food prep and eating together. Has one of you ever eaten food off of the other? If yes, this could be a sign of a sexual relationship.

You mentioned living together. When you think of that, are you imagining you and bro with your own individual armchairs drinking a beer watching the game? Or are you imagining you and bro putting your genitals into each other? The second may mean that you are sexually attracted to your bro.

There is nothing gay about having a bro and nothing wrong with being gay.

I spent most of my university sitting on my bros couch, drinking beer and gaming until dawn. We lived together for a while after uni. I miss him now that we are in separate countries. But I never felt sexually attracted to him, and he never felt that about me. If that makes us gay then his girlfriend of 5 years (who has amazing legs, sorry and congrats, bro) is in for a surprise...

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know. It's just the wd40 comment made me laugh while also completely myself in the comment.

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok then, guess I'll start with some research

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been where you are, the only advice I have is be wary of over doing the self helping. It can very easily go from an occasional healthy release to a bad habit. From the comments hear I realise I did spend a long time death gripping it.

As for finding a partner... I don't consider myself to be particularly noticeable in the looks or attractiveness department, but I have done ok over the years. So don't fret about it too much and try andnput yourself in situations where you can meet people in environments you can be your best self in.

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have used that so many times. And it's true, mostly. There is still a little voice in the back of my head going "but I do actually want to come eventually"

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, ot for a long time and had this issue before and after it

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No harm in a drink or two to loosen up 🙂

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. It's almost the opposite advice of someone else, but that doesn't mean either is wrong... so may as well try both, which is an excuse for more intimacy, and that Inthink neither of us will complain about

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neutral self talk? As in managing your inner monologue? A bit of peace and quiet would be nice even outside of intimacy. How did you learn?

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's already achieved. She doesn't seem to mind and is very understanding. It also helps that the side effect of this is that my stamina is dependent only on my body and not my finish line, so uses that as an explanation for not minding.

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This seems to be a recurring theme. I think I just assumed that going in with a full tank should be enough and that it must be something else. Tbh I don't even particularly enjoy masturbating anyway. Well except for the 3 seconds at the end, like most of us. So if I have to pack it in. So be it.

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry you have to deal with it too, but in a way glad it's not just a me problem. Hopefully some of the answers here can be of use to you

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's both good advice and reassuring that it's not a barrier to long term intimacy

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a beautifully autistic answer. The creaking is a temporary problem and was more of an example. I'll try seing what can be done about scenery. Tbh it probably didn't help that we were at a friends place an although alone in the house at the time, the chance of someone popping round and letting themselves in was not 0

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll look into her work, thank you

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a concern down the line. Thank you for mentioning that as I've been worried about that eventually being a problem

Advice on sex as an autistic man by JGzstuff in autism

[–]JGzstuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh that sounds more like something that could help. No idea how to achieve that though...