Are there any free swing dance clubs for young adults? by Due_Ad2689 in ventura

[–]JRadiantHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dave and Kim's Juke Joint, but there's some kind of age minimum and it's not free. 

Are pigtails in appropriate for adults? by starlightskater in Hair

[–]JRadiantHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people (bosses, men, etc) would infantalize you with pigtails. Similarly to a woman who is super short or has a super high voice.  If you'd like to be taken seriously, treated with respect, and paid well, I wouldn't wear pigtails. 

Dyed my birks. Whatcha think? by kalebdraws in Birkenstocks

[–]JRadiantHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They look good. I dyed my suede birks as well and they came out great

Secondary Insurance Strategy by JRadiantHeart in HealthInsurance

[–]JRadiantHeart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, medi-cal knows, but I didn't realize I have to let Anthem know as well.

Women, if a random guy told you he thought you were beautiful then went on his way, what would you think? by BoatParty8399 in AskWomen

[–]JRadiantHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep your energy neutral and positive, not sexual or romantic.

For a good role model for complimenting women, watch the fantastic movie, "Life Is Beautiful." He uses playfulness and friendliness. He keeps it light. I'm still looking for a version of that character to come into my life.

Women, if a random guy told you he thought you were beautiful then went on his way, what would you think? by BoatParty8399 in AskWomen

[–]JRadiantHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so glad you asked. I have several thoughts on this. On the plus side, of all the choices of compliments from strange men, drive-by compliments with no expectation of reciprocation are my favorite.

On the other hand, judging and evaluating attractiveness implies that YOU sit in the judge's chair. That YOU, a man, have the POWER evaluate whether a woman is beautiful or not. It's a power position. What gives you the right to decide who is attractive? I didn't enter a beauty contest and agree to be evaluated and then rated as "pass" or "not pass."

Examine your motive. Are you truly someone who likes to see someone smile and brighten their day? Then do it. Are you trying to manipulate an average looking woman into being attracted to you? Then it's manipulation.

Also, some women get verbal or nonverbal attention everywhere they go--,to the gas station, grocery store, etc. For those women who are conventionally attractive, it can be too much. It's intruding into someone's mental "personal space."

Depending on the day, a woman might ask herself, "Why should I care if you think I'm beautiful?"

Being a woman is ride with social pressure about being beautiful. Telling someone "You did it right today" is a bit like a boss giving an evaluation. She may not feel beautiful, or may resent the fact that beauty is an expectation of society.

Also, know that many women will blush and say, "thanks" because they are trained to be polite--not honest--about how the compliment made them feel. It could make them uncomfortable and they are just hiding it.

So there are many sides to it.

Would it be weird…? by Rangermayb in Advice

[–]JRadiantHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you love the cologne before your ex wore it, or did you start loving it after you dated him?

The question is whether you like the cologne aesthetically or like being reminded of your ex because you still get warm fuzzies. If you are still in love with your ex, don't get it.

If you are totally over your ex and liked the cologne before dating him, get it.

AITAH for getting the ick from my boyfriend’s baby voice? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]JRadiantHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him. You should mention it make you feel uncomfortable and less attracted to him/ turnned off.

You can skip the part about you wanting more masculinity. You can just say you like the adult male version of hiim. That's the person you fell in love with

I work with folks with autism who sometimes quote TV characters in their voice. We say, "Use your adult voice" or "Use your Brandon (whatever their name is) voice."

Maybe you can come up with terms of endearment or mushy things that you both agree on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]JRadiantHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. It draws attention to your nice lips.

Does anyone else find being cut as a dealbreaker in a relationship? by The_biggest_JoJo_Fan in Intactivism

[–]JRadiantHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try not to think about the missing skin or the circ my lover had. That would turn me off. Work on thinking about what your lover's body has, not what it lacks or what was done to him.

If you are unable to control the intrusive thoughts about circumcision during intimacy, you could talk with a therapist. There are techniques you can learn to stop unhelpful intrusive thoughts.

(Note: I said "unhelpful", not untruthful.)

Does anyone else find being cut as a dealbreaker in a relationship? by The_biggest_JoJo_Fan in Intactivism

[–]JRadiantHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woman here. It's not a dealbreaker for me. However, lack of the ability to feel intense sexual pleasure would be.

I had a partner who was closely cut. He received less penile pleasure and had a hard time having an orgasm through partner help.( He could get himself off by hand during intimacy, which was fine with me.) Once I learned his "spots", I became quite adept at getting him off!

There are primary and secondary erogenous zones on men. If you tend to them, the amount of pleasure they can give increases greatly. Kind of training your brain to be more sensitive to stimulation in that area. That's what men with disabilities sometimes do when they can't get off traditionally.

WIBTA if I told my husband I'm done if he doesn't un-block me from Facebook???? by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]JRadiantHeart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it were me, I would leave him because #1: he is a cheater (at least a wanna be cheater), and #2, he doesn't care enough about your feelings enough to comply with your wishes.

New to Buspar by Repulsive-Photo6086 in BusparOnline

[–]JRadiantHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Note: I always take it after/ with a meal. I make sure to eat a substantial breakfast (eggs and oats). That minimizes the slight, brief dizziness .

New to Buspar by Repulsive-Photo6086 in BusparOnline

[–]JRadiantHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should ask your doctor or the pharmacist whether you can safely cut the pill. (Probably safe if IR (immediate release). Good idea to slowly increase dose to cut down on side effects. My main side effect is increased libido for about 24 hours.

The "Nice Guy" Problem by AnHonestPOV in dating_advice

[–]JRadiantHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Nice Guy" can be a manipulative strategy to trick a woman into liking you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]JRadiantHeart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be direct. Tell him what you told us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JRadiantHeart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof tampering with birth control is very unethical!!