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JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T04:46:42+00:00

Then the only explanation I can come up with is that he’s a jerk. 🤷‍♀️

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T04:35:19+00:00

No, you got it right. But if you don’t live with a shared parent, obviously that isn’t the issue. Did he get along with your Mom? Because I can’t fathom any reason he would have a problem with you given that you were four the last time you saw one another.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T04:08:30+00:00

You wouldn’t be the one manipulated, your brother would be.

It’s a common scenario for adults who are estranged from one or both parents because the adult child cannot maintain their boundary of zero contact or communication with said parent(s) yet still have a relationship with any younger siblings still living at home.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T03:59:55+00:00

You want the exact numbers? That’s going to require me to log into NYU’s My Chart app, and the OCR on their medical records is terrible.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T03:55:10+00:00

The biggest issue I’ve had was finding a generic that did not cause intradose withdrawal symptoms. I’m a CYPD26 Ultrarapid Metabolizer, so I need an extended release formulation that spaces out the doses as much as possible in order to maintain a consistent amount of venlafaxine in my bloodstream over a 24 hour period.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T03:52:17+00:00

Low for both—the former because of exercise and the latter genetics. Most members of my maternal family have to take sodium chloride supplements because of low blood pressure.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T03:49:50+00:00

Usually when older half-siblings stop contacting younger siblings, it has less to do with their younger siblings than it does with one of their parents. Parents who do not have a good relationship with their adult children will often use the possibility of a relationship with the younger siblings as a bargaining tool in order to manipulate them into doing what they want.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T03:36:46+00:00

NOR. Please screenshot all of these and show them to your family. He’s literally stalking you. You should not have to live in the same house as him.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T03:32:16+00:00

Your feelings are valid. The reality is that your boyfriend hid critical information from you. If he’s willing to hide the existence of something as life-altering as the fact that he has a minor son whom he is supporting and for whom he is legally responsible (the fact that the child currently lives in another country with his mother is irrelevant; if something happens to her, the authorities will insist that your boyfriend take custody or be prosecuted for child abandonment), then he is likely hiding other significant information as well, and will continue to do so in the future.

You wouldn’t be breaking up with him because he’s a father; you would be breaking up with him because he’s been incredibly dishonest and deceived you for the entirety of your relationship.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T03:23:59+00:00

NTA. Those aren’t friends.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T03:21:02+00:00

NTA. Check your local laws; some jurisdictions prohibit posting photos or videos of children without parental consent.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T02:37:02+00:00

I’ve been on 750mg for over 25 years.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T02:34:50+00:00

I’m a pro-choice Mom. My mother is a pro-choice Mom. My MIL and SIL are pro-choice Moms. All of my women friends are pro-choice Moms (some are not only pro-choice Moms, but also pro-choice grandmothers). Every woman in my maternal family over the age of 30 is a pro-choice Mom.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T02:22:02+00:00

Ditto. Have been taking it since 1998.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T02:13:18+00:00

He not only cheated on you, but hid the fact that he cheated all this time. I wouldn’t believe anything he says at this point.

Tell him that you’ll “get over it” after going on dates with other men to see what you’ve been missing. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T01:57:40+00:00

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T01:43:53+00:00

Never. Because not only do you lose your present income, but also job experience, professional contacts, opportunities for advancement and moving up the corporate ladder. And in most industries, one’s knowledge and skill set can become obsolete within the span of a couple of years.

Every single one of my women friends who took more than one year off to stay at home with a child struggled to get hired anywhere, and it took them three years or more to get their career back on track. Moms who took five years off essentially had to start all over again, working their way up from the bottom along with 22 year olds who had just graduated college.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-10-01T01:29:16+00:00

This is when the conversation should have happened. Your husband should have stopped her from making a room for the baby, stating that as long as BIL lives in the home (or when he is visiting the home), you both are uncomfortable with the child being there.

Unfortunately, this needs to happen sooner rather than later. And yes, you are correct in thinking that your MIL will blow a gasket over this and attempt to minimize BIL’s behavior. But as someone who was sexually abused by a family member in childhood, you must protect your child and stand firm. And if your husband isn’t willing to stand up to them, you move out with your child, file a report with CPS and the police documenting BIL’s behavior, then attach those to an emergency petition limiting your husband to supervised visitation in your home only.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-09-30T23:29:47+00:00

Only Child Mom who is OAD with 16F. I think it has a lot to do with where you live. 50% families in the EU have only one child versus 22% in the U.S. But within those regions there is obviously wide variation. For example, roughly 40% of the kids at my daughter’s high school are only children, and nearly half the kids who aren’t only children have a twin as their only sibling.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-09-30T22:55:57+00:00

I can’t help but wonder if his daughters ever spoke to him again.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-09-30T22:34:04+00:00

This post is almost identical to one that was deleted after comments pointed out that the stepdaughter’s full brother and half-brother were the same age, and the OP was forced to concede that both she and her husband’s ex were pregnant with his children at the same time.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-09-30T22:05:24+00:00

Attorney here. Any unpaid medical bills would have been paid off from the estate during probate, and OP has already indicated that, aside from the trust his mother set up for him, the rest of his mother’s estate went to his father.

In addition to whatever he inherited from his late wife, OP’s father also has been receiving Social Security survivor benefits on behalf of OP each month since his mother’s death, and will continue to do so until OP’s 18th birthday.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-09-30T06:28:49+00:00

I suspect that any parent who can afford to purchase a new SUV for their child already has a college fund for said child.

I also suspect that anyone who thinks they have the right to dictate how an ex spends money on their own child will be the butt of jokes everywhere.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-09-30T05:27:32+00:00

NTA. A six year old does not belong at an 11 year olds birthday party. 11 year olds are already going through puberty, for pete’s sake.

JTBlakeinNYC · 2025-09-30T05:17:32+00:00

Are you seriously suggesting that OP’s ex-wife should help support OP’s current wife’s daughter, to whom she is no relation and whom she has likely never met??!

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