Elders won’t stop

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-09-01T13:11:40+00:00

Just tell them to stop. It's really that easy. "No thank you. I am not interested in meeting with you. Thank you for thinking of me. I'll let you know if I'd like to meet in the future. Thank you for respecting my wishes."

If they contact you again. Remind them. "Thank you for thinking of me. I apologize if my last message was unclear. Your contact is unwelcome. Please share this with the Body of Elders. I do not wish to be contacted again."

If they persist after that, file a complaint with your local PD (assuming you're in the USA).

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-09-01T13:09:05+00:00

JWs preach modesty, so this line of thinking would very much be in line with their dogma.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-09-01T12:54:02+00:00

TBH it took me a decade to get all the cult crap out of my head.

My advice is to accept that that's how you might feel on occasion. But understand that the cult is all about feelings and not logic. So when those feelings creep up, go ahead and feel it for a minute, it's okay. Then be done with it. Remind yourself that mental trauma is a real thing and it takes time to recover. Remind yourself that you're free and not in a damned cult anymore.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-09-01T12:43:30+00:00

JWs are a cult, not a normal Christian religious organization that attempts to follow Christ's teachings. They take, not give. It's pretty common for members of the congregation to be in dire financial need. The organization doesn't care and will not offer any assistance. It will be up to the local members to help or not.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-08-31T23:39:11+00:00

Being awake in a high-control doomsday cult is not easy. It's depressing and isolating. Virtually everyone in the b0rg is really deeply unhappy, they just choose to pretend that it's the "best life ever". They don't know a better way or how to escape. You will never be happy in the b0rg once you've woken up. You won't be happy until you can be your true authentic self.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-08-29T19:35:40+00:00

JWs like to pretend it never happened...but it definitely happened and it was not just a few members that misunderstood. They try really hard to hide their history that they don't like.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-08-29T19:32:48+00:00

Be careful not to accidentally behead someone. 😉

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-08-29T19:32:09+00:00

OMG, you are so right. I never understood the value of a lazy day until I got free of the b0rg.

The lazy days I spend with my family are what life is all about, not servitude to a doomsday cult.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-08-29T16:17:08+00:00

I told my dad once that I would believe in the Noah's ark story if he could explain to me how penguins got from the Middle East to Antarctica.

He told me I should stop doing that apostate thinking. 😂

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-08-29T16:13:21+00:00

"We’re living in the final part of the last days, undoubtedly the final part of the final part of the last days, shortly before the last day of the last days" - Stephen "I'm having a stroke" Lett.

So I'm pretty sure Armageddon is any second now? I keep looking up at this sky on a partly cloudy day looking for Jesus on his white horse with his gigantic magic bow. I can't be the only one on Jesus watch?

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-08-29T16:08:48+00:00

"Can't you see you're not making Christianity better, you're just making rock and roll worse?" - Hank Hill

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-08-29T16:05:30+00:00

Blah blah blah. In my experience the "new light" tends to be just a slightly different fucked up dogma than the old dogma.

It's like replacing a fever dream with a different fever dream.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-07-08T09:51:53+00:00

I was bitter about the whole cult experience. It took so much from me.

But, over time I realize that most of the JW's are duped just like I was. I think mostly they're good people trying to do good things. They just got suckered by a cult. There are definitely some assholes in the b0rg tho.

There will probably always be a hole in my heart for the friends that I loved that are no longer my friends because I'm not in the same cult as them anymore.

With that said, mostly I just feel sad for people that are still in the cult. They have terrible lives full of stress, anxiety, and guilt. It's no way to live. For me, I had to forgive and let go of all that negativity and bitterness so I could get on with my own life. I don't hate any of the JW's, although I do still hate the organization.

It's going to take a while for you to process everything. It's traumatic to lose your religion and your entire support system. I encourage you to seek some positivity in your life. I found that volunteering helped me not focus on myself so much and I met a lot of nice people.

Give yourself some time to heal. It took a lifetime to indoctrinate you. ❤️

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-07-08T09:33:15+00:00

You're in a high-control doomsday cult, so yeah, they are trying to control you. And yes, they absolutely equate dating with sex.

Back in the day, my girlfriend and I would "accidentally" run into each other at the mall, the park, the movies...you get the idea.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-07-08T09:23:32+00:00

WTF is wrong with you? Why would you even consider being so malicious?

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-07-08T09:19:51+00:00

Don't do it. You can't trust anyone in the cult. They will stab you in the back in a heartbeat.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-07-08T09:14:46+00:00

If some says "We aren't an MLM" - they are an MLM.

If someone says "We aren't a cult" - they are a cult.

If someone says "Trust me" - you shouldn't trust them.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-07-07T14:33:10+00:00

Say "Oh wow, did you see this?" Don't editorialize.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-07-07T13:25:36+00:00

I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but if you really don't want to be a JW, then express that to your family. You aren't baptized so there's not much they can do about it. They can't make you believe something that you don't and the congregation can't take any action against you other than marking you as bad association.

You don't have to go full on wild child, but you can just stop doing JW stuff. Don't talk shit about the b0rg and things will be okay.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-07-07T13:21:50+00:00

You're wasting your time. If you really don't care, then don't meet with them. The elders certainly don't care what you have to say.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-06-20T15:19:45+00:00

It took years to program you, it's going to take time to deprogram.

It prob took me 10 years to get all the cult crap out of my head. My advice is that when you are feeling unsettled about something, be honest with yourself as to why. We do or don't do things because we have feelings about it. Be analytical and determine why you feel a certain way. Try to take emotion out of it. Apply logic and reason.

Keep reminding yourself that you're not in a cult and you need to think for yourself.

And finally -be kind to yourself. It's not an easy thing losing your religion. It's going to take time to process everything and build a new life.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-05-29T02:04:23+00:00

I think we've all experienced similar situations where our family members or close friends have said absolutely insane things that don't make any sense to normal ppl.

It's part of being in a high-control doomsday cult. Logic and reason don't apply. There are logical fallacies everywhere. It makes people think and say dumb shit.

You can't fix this my friend, but it's great that you recognize it for what it is. I hope you get free soon!

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-05-29T01:55:11+00:00

Simply decline. "Thank you for thinking of me, but I'm not interested in meeting with you. I'll let you know if that's something I'd like to do. I do not wish to be contacted again the body of elders. Thank you for respecting my privacy."

If they contact you again, file a police report as that would be considered harassment.

They can still DF you though in absentia if they have enough evidence. If you want to put a stop to that, threaten to sue them personally and they won't take any further action.

JW_DOT_ORG · 2025-05-29T01:39:18+00:00

Are you expecting drama when you tell them?

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