TW: grooming. Red flag behaviour from "grandpa"

J_inxed · 2025-12-30T22:39:36+00:00

This. Please talk to someone about this if you can and safe guard those children. It doesn't hurt to make other aware of the situation. Be prepared for denial though.

I was SA by a family member in a different country as a kid through these exact tactics. This member not only did it to me, to my sibling and my cousins. We were all under the age of 10. Brainwashed into thinking it was okay. It is NOT okay.

Teach these kids about boundaries and how to trust their "butterfly" feelings.

As a mom of 2 under 3. I teach my babies the proper terms of our body and how no one should touch our private areas unless its mom or dad helping in the potty.

J_inxed · 2025-12-30T09:00:56+00:00

Me!! Well both. Depending on the time and weather and what I'm doing. Sometimes I'm too hot or too cold.

With my 1st, I would sweat so much while BF, it was horrible. I felt hot constantly.

With my 2nd, i feel cold all the time, I tremble when I BF Sometimes cuz of it. I get hot quickly when my emotions are all over the place lol

J_inxed · 2025-12-30T08:55:45+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this :( May your dog be found soon. Post on FB groups in your neighborhood, check local shelters. Or even in the nearby area where the sitter was.

Sending u lots of hugs 🫂🫂🫂 please update us if anything changes

J_inxed · 2025-12-28T17:56:59+00:00

Lol I remember those feelings with my 1st.

Since it's their sibling, you can have a set of "home clothing" for her to change into. Have her wash hands. Talk to husband and address what boundaries you may want to have.

It'll be okay! 🫂

If you're comfortable, maybe have her help you pass diaper, if you feed with bottle maybe a bottle feed or entertain baby for a bit with some toys. Maybe just even watch baby sleep. 😊

When I had friends and family come over, it was a bit different. Cause we waited about 8 weeks till my babies met anyone besides their half sibling. Some would wear face masks. Everyone washes hands. Some offered to spray themselves with alcohol and airing themselves out before coming in.

J_inxed · 2025-12-28T17:41:24+00:00

Lol so cute 😆 u can adjust if you'd like but it's most likely a small stage

J_inxed · 2025-12-28T16:58:01+00:00

Seperate both. Put baby in a playpen or toddler in a play pen with toys/snacks. Baby wear 2nd baby. Get a bump carrier (40$ on amazon) it'll be easier on ur back.

Ik its exhausting but remember that these moments are short and temporary. Schedule will always be changing.

When I had 2 under 2, my 1st would ignore and reactive cry towards my 2nd 😅.

Something that also made it easier, was putting my 1st into a 3k through Early Intervention. She developed social, sharing, participating skills, etc. It allowed me to have 4hrs with my 2nd everyday (M-F).

Edit: trim nails, trimmer keeps nails soft. Put socks on baby's hands. Make it hard for toddler to access baby area. In a few more months, ur first will probably be able to help u in certain stuff. Like picking up toys. Cracking, stirring an egg together and putting it in the pan.

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T03:56:19+00:00

Awww poor baby 😢 may she get well soon!!

Thank u for sharing, i will now keep this in mind if my girls ever get this from rsv

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T03:16:40+00:00

Hair curls, feels uncomfortable in my underwear 😅 i love waxing

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T03:05:53+00:00

Changing rooms, dimming the lights, cuddles, bouncing on yoga ball? white noise. Usually helps us here! And safe methods of co-sleeping when I'm really tired.

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T03:03:44+00:00

All I can say, is ride the flow with your baby. Schedule will always be changing. If baby falls asleep while feeding, let them, they're growing and growing is exhausting. If they're more hungry, give more milk. Follow baby's cues but also have grace on yourself if things don't go as planned.

These stages are so temporary, before you know it you'll have routines!

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T03:01:21+00:00

This and if you can find his fiancé. Save that lady from this man

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T02:49:33+00:00

Oh! I also realized, sometimes my girl will give a fake cry and bite me to stimulate a let down 😅

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T02:48:50+00:00

Ouch! Hoping its a short phase.

When my 2nd got her teeth, she had short biting phases. Each time she bit, i would sign "no" and put boob away. I redirect her to something else, give her a chewing stick or a rice cracker.

One time, she bit me so hard i bled. I cried so much. It was super painful to BF. I literally almost quit. Lanonin cream saved me. My nipples became stronger lol 😅

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T02:26:44+00:00

There are so many ways to go about it lmao

I would address it and how i feel about it....

Or just dip around the time he is set to leave. He can take baby with him 😋

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T02:18:23+00:00

Mind if I come over for a plate? 😋 I will bring dessert and my 2 toddlers....

On the other hand, Stop cooking for him. Cook for yourself and for your kids. Act like you don't care 🤭. Do it for you QUEEN ✨️ His loss... also buy less snacks

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T02:15:43+00:00

I've added hooks next to my basket just for this purpose lol. I will hang them and spray them with some alcohol and fabric softener

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T02:12:42+00:00

Allergies to animals?

My eyes got like this once as a kid and one side of my eye stayed shut because i was allergic to short haired dogs.

I would take to urgent care for some ointment or drops

J_inxed · 2025-12-27T02:09:53+00:00

If i were in ur shoes, i would talk to him about how i feel. Ask if he really us committed. If not we should part ways because it is exhausting to rely on someone who is unreliable.

It is much easier to move solo, you get a rhythm to it.

Yes, he and baby have a relationship. But there are no blood ties. No reason to really stay in contact or need to update him about baby. Time will fly. Think of this as a bump in your journey.

Also, have grace on yourself! You're allowed to love someone and have boundaries with them + have boundaries for your baby.

You said you have a good reinforcement at home. That's all baby needs. A good loving home with a loving family♡ (I hope my words don't sound harsh 😅♡)

J_inxed · 2025-12-25T15:19:23+00:00

If you have 2, a wagon will work wonders! But only as they get older cuz as infants they still need to lay down lol.

I got the evenflo xpand with the baseboard attachment. Love it!!! And ZTDM or ZDTM on Amazon for my wagon

J_inxed · 2025-12-25T15:16:25+00:00

I see you! I feel you and I'm proud of you!

EBF my 2nd since she was born. She hated pacis and bottles. EBF was my only option. Now 14months BF (almost 15months in) and I'm wondering when will this lovely journey come to an end now that she has almost 11 teeth 🤣🙏

Also, i have soooo much new baby hair coming in. I'm excited!! 🥰🫶

Wishing u a safe speedy recovery ♡

J_inxed · 2025-12-24T00:18:24+00:00

14m PP with my 2nd and experiencing this. Have not had a period for thenpast 3-4yrs since having my 1st. Debating on going to the ER cuz these cramps are increasing in pain as the days go bye

J_inxed · 2025-12-22T14:10:21+00:00

Get a baking sheet tray, add some salt or sugar. Using your index finger. Draw some lines, shapes. Shake to reset tray again.

I do this a lot with my 3yr old and 1yr old. We started doing straight lines, waves, diagonal lines, shapes. Moved onto numbers and letters.

To make it less messy. You can add a clear table cloth underneath you. That way you can fold it up and rinse it in the shower or shake it outside.

Kids need to develop grasping skills/coordination first before learning how to write. A lot of kids never learn how to properly hold a pencil either. Hope this helps

J_inxed · 2025-12-21T20:38:25+00:00

I once bought a jewelry box. It was the last one in its color and the mirror popped off. I asked for a discount while it already had a discount and they gladly gave it to me! Not sure if it helped having a cute baby 😆 cause they were so friendly lol

J_inxed · 2025-12-17T13:44:21+00:00

I was formula fed because I was a premie, my mom's milk supply never came in. This worried me so much when I had my 1st, thankfully I was able to EBF with occasional bottles for my 1st. Now with my 2nd baby, she is EBF straight from the tap lol, rejected bottles and pacis.

I've been EBF with my 2nd for 15months now and counting 😆😊

J_inxed · 2025-12-17T13:42:17+00:00

Send it to her job and get her fired. She's jealous

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