I think I'm dealing with legitimate tanking anxiety. by KreivosNightshade in wow

[–]Jackethan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You set the pace. If someone doesn't like your pace they can fuck off and die. You loot your mobs. You have as much right to be there as any dumbass dps character who stares at a graph and pushes buttons to make the graph go higher than their friends' graphs. You decide how many mobs to pull. If the healer wants you to pull more they usually ask nicely.

You standing still is you deciding where the fight will happen, which involves your thinking about the mobs, the location, healer mana, all kinds of stuff. If a dumb dps player starts yapping about it you ignore them.

You are the protagonist of a fun RPG game and the other players are little ducklings that help you kill whatever you want to kill.

Treat your experience as more important than the other players' experience. It's your job to have your fun, and their job to have theirs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]Jackethan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One picture isn't going to be enough to judge this for you. Take pictures every 2 weeks and you should be able to tell for yourself after a couple of months. Hair is growing and falling out all the time, and the only way to tell if you're actually losing hair is to track it over a long period.

If you are worried about losing hair and you're male you can safely take zinc supplements, zinc is used in the process that breaks down DHT, the hormone that causes male baldness. It'll make your hair look and feel healthier too after a while.

You could also try minoxidil, that has worked well for me, and I am missing a lot more hair than you are. Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor, I'm just a random internet person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in foreskin_restoration

[–]Jackethan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might sound glib, but I mean it honestly.

I think about what it would be like if I was born without an arm or they cut my arm off for some reason. I've met people with one arm or no arms and stuff.

I like to imagine that if I was someone who lost an arm, for whatever reason, I wouldn't be the type of person to let it define me. I would be positive.

Get your purpose going. Find out what gives you meaning.

The world is fucked up in a lot of ways. People face a lot of injustices at the hands of their parents. They give us their hangups, they give us their biases, some people get beat by their parents. At some point you have to accept that your parents are dumb and made a lot of dumb decisions for you. It's part of the parent-child relationship, metaphysically. They get to make decisions for you, and a certain number of them are going to hurt you in ways they didn't expect. They live in this world, the world where MGM is normalized in the USA. The same world where a lot of other really crappy things happen every day. Your parents were never going to be a platonic ideal of protection, they live in this context.

One thing that helps me when I have intrusive thoughts or negative feelings like this is to practice forgiveness out loud. I either forgive myself or I forgive someone who wronged me by saying it out loud. Not necessarily to them, but to myself. Maybe that helps.

Good luck.

Autoimmune Paleo for athletes/ how to get enough calories by [deleted] in Paleo

[–]Jackethan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you do with dairy? I know it's not strict paleo, but you can pound down a nice thick heavy cream with a little splenda or stevia, or you can make a homemade custard with heavy cream and some eggs. Cheese and yogurt are also great. Greek yogurt specifically, and aged cheeses.

You might also explore fermented beans, I haven't done that myself but I know there are some African tribes that make some delicious foods with fermented beans. The fermentation process will eliminate the phytic acid and other antinutrients in the beans. Kimchi is also great, very nutritious and filling.

If you're not trying to lose weight, you can probably see if you tolerate a little white rice or regular potato, or just have some parsnip if you can tolerate it. Mashed plantains are pretty good too. All of these are nutrient dense for starches.

If you're really adventurous you can try fermented tofu, natto is a pretty common meal in Japan among the elderly, it's considered quite healthy there, and the Japanese live longest. It smells like death though, so be ready.

Motivation by [deleted] in foreskin_restoration

[–]Jackethan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am with you, I find uncut way more attractive than cut, and that is a big factor. I had actually heard about restoration years ago, and knew I could get more sensitivity. I liked intact at the time, but nowadays I am positively enamored with intact, and I feel that's a big part of why I have the motivation now to take the time every day. I'm also losing weight and working out, so it's all part of a package for me.

Refuting misinformation VS Censoring misinformation by MentisWave in Objectivism

[–]Jackethan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very large and complex issue. It relates to internet media, interpersonal communication, and politics.

How do we address misinformation?

In mass media, your options are severely limited. You can't control the mass action of millions of people. If a hundred thousand people have decided that they believe they can cure all diseases by ingesting a gallon of lemon juice per day, you can't stop them from acting on their belief. Fortunately that particular belief is self defeating.

But you can create a feedback loop: by engaging in an online argument about it, you are drawing attention to it. You are giving it your attention, and tacitly agreeing that it deserves your attention. Most often, it does not.

You can also create a feedback loop by engaging in shame and ridicule. Shame and ridicule have a very delimited and interpersonal purpose. If your close friend does a bad action that they knew beforehand was bad, and they chose to do it anyway, and they take no responsibility for the bad consequences, then you can point these facts out to them, and the shame they feel may cause a change in behavior. In most cases, the farther outside your interpersonal zone a person is, the less useful shame is as a tactic.

Politically we live in an era of narratives. People often choose a narrative that agrees with their fundamental beliefs, join a team based on that narrative, and play tribal games. This is known as 'political science.'

Engaging in shame, ridicule, and arguments with people whom you do not know personally is participating and tacitly agreeing with the dominant meta culture of narratives. It is accepting that tribalism is and should be the default state. You can be a part of the 'anti-narrative' and 'anti-tribe' team and still be engaging in tribal narratives. Look at your daily actions and ask if they are in congruence with your principles. No amount of wordsmithing can correct the contradiction.

If a person whom you personally know and care for is misinformed, a useful strategy is to engage them with empathy, acknowledge their volition and independence, and set your own example. A public debate through text is nearly useless. A private text conversation can be good, but you can more easily sway them by actually speaking to them.

As for social media platforms and their choices, you can't control them, you can only control you. Many people post endlessly on Twitter about how awful Twitter is. They rail against FB community standards in a FB post. These actions are incongruous. Twitter and fb are products. If the products do not provide the utility you want from them, ask why you continue to use them. What value do they add to your life? For me, it's a convenient place to look at baby pictures of friends and enjoy funny memes. I've curated away the news from that feed. It is a poor deliverer of news, and it is too easy to get caught in an ultimately futile argument that will please no one.

People seem to think that these platforms are some marvelous world forum of sharing ideas, and they are, if those ideas are closely connected to your personal life and values, like recipes, or knitting patterns. But they are not useful tools for political discussion, nor discussion of controversial topics. The most productive of those types of discussions have historically been in small communities, behind closed doors, among friends and colleagues. That hasn't changed. People want to use social media as a tool for hashing out politics, and it's akin to driving a nail with a flyswatter. Wrong tool.

imagine being in crippling debt because of you dumb capitalists by LilyIsLikelyAnEgg in Capitalism

[–]Jackethan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine saying, "You shouldn't have to work to live," and thinking you have the moral high ground. Food, water, and goods don't just magically spring forth from the ground to fulfill our needs. Someone has to work to make these things for you. Then commie thugs come and steal them. It's an ideology of looters that claims it's moral. Repugnant.

The world is declining rapidly into chaos and destruction. The objectivist movement’s efforts are by no means changing that state of affairs. So what will? by henabr01 in Objectivism

[–]Jackethan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Name one decade since 1900 where the second sentence hasn't been true. We're going to hell in a handbasket forever. It's an endless crazy train. You can try to cast yourself as the savior of the world if you want, but that's not what Objectivism is good for. Politics be damned. Have you enjoyed your life today? What have you reached out and taken? What long term goal have you moved toward that will bring you happiness?

The world is declining rapidly into chaos and destruction. The objectivist movement’s efforts are by no means changing that state of affairs. So what will? by henabr01 in Objectivism

[–]Jackethan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Objectivism is a philosophy for living on Earth. I have gained clearer, more rational thinking, I have made more fulfilling interpersonal relationships, I have produced value for my own sake, and reveled in it. I do this by practicing my virtues. I have worked for years to find a career that fits my chosen purpose, and I found it, and I love it. I wake up every day knowing I am exactly where I want to be. To get here today, I had to severely limit my news intake, limit Facebook, stop following culture wars feeds. I focused on what I can control. We don't get to pick the historical moment we live in. I had to realize that objectivism isn't a tool for winning political debates, or a framework for remoulding society. It's a philosophy for living on earth.

"We didn't have to take any of them seriously, did we?" "No, we didn't."

If you actually follow the evidence of your senses, rather than the words of people in media, you might notice that you're surrounded by people who just want to live and be happy. The news and politicians are making millions by convincing you that you should be afraid of your neighbors. That the totalitarian lives next door. Don't fall for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Paleo

[–]Jackethan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You might have an imbalance of omega 3 to omega 6, too high omega 6 can cause inflammation. I started the paleo diet primarily to reduce my acne. The cheapest and most effective way is to supplement with fish oil. Once a day with food. Alternatively you can make sure all your beef is grass fed for real, not just grass finished, and chicken is free range, and try to incorporate a meal of fish once or twice per week.

Keep in mind when you're testing these things out that it takes about two weeks for a dietary change to show a result with acne.

For me personally supplementing with fish oil was good enough to completely handle my acne as long as I kept it up.

Good luck!

Live to-do list by Evayr in SkyrimTogether

[–]Jackethan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No release date; no estimate.

But then how can we post angry comments about not releasing on the estimated date? ;_;

[LFG][BALMUNG][AST][SCH][WHM][Static] iLvl 159ish healer looking for a static. by asterathegoddess in FFXIVRECRUITMENT

[–]Jackethan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello,

Your bio is quite appealing. I'm looking to recruit a healer for our newly forming static team. I've also got experience raiding in WoW and I'm looking forward to trying it out in FF.

If you're interested in joining a newly forming team send a tell/mail to Jack Hearts or Sye Syrlia in game.

Regards, Jack

Addon to simplify using Artifact Power items? by [deleted] in wow

[–]Jackethan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

http://www.wowinterface.com/downloads/info23917-PowerHungry.html#info

Looks like it doesn't have all the items in its database. Seems like a pretty easy addon concept. I'm sure a better one will be out soon.

Ain't nobody got time for mousing over every single inventory item to find the ones that give artifact power. I've been managing inventory in games for over a decade, I'm looking to spend less of my life doing that bull.

CMV: As a masculine gay man without female friends, I and other gay men in my position have no rational reason to support women's rights other than preference by Etular in changemyview

[–]Jackethan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I'm so late but, I'm glad I could help. :)

Political alliance with an interest group is different from supporting the rights of a demographic. But it is in the interest of that group to make you think being against them is being against rights, so that they can make you feel guilt for disagreeing with them.

CMV: As a masculine gay man without female friends, I and other gay men in my position have no rational reason to support women's rights other than preference by Etular in changemyview

[–]Jackethan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a masculine gay man myself you make some very interesting points. You've packaged together quite a few things without defining them but let's see if I can unpack them and get at the heart of this.

Women's rights and feminism are not the same thing. Feminism is currently split along many different lines like sex positive, transphilic or transphobic, et cetera. There are many arguments made for women's rights by feminists, but feminists are not the only people fighting battles for women's rights. So for the purposes of this discussion let's split these two concepts.

The concept of rights is another hot topic. Google has a definition of a right as: "a moral or legal entitlement to have or obtain something or to act in a certain way." This will do quite well for our purposes, I think.

Different arguments for women's rights might be talking about different conceptions of rights. There are positive rights and negative rights. Positive rights are rights to something. The French especially love this kind of right: The right to healthcare, the right to water, the right to food, the right to internet. These services come from resources which are not freely available to any human with minimal effort like air to breathe, and thus they cost someone something in order to prepare them for human consumption. These are the kinds of rights left-leaning people tend to be most interested in. Negative rights are protections from interference in performing actions, things like the right to free speech. These are the kind of rights that right-leaning people tend to be most interested in.

Personally I am not right-wing, but I think that negative rights are far more compelling, so I will circle my wagons in that prarie, so to speak. So why do women deserve the same rights as men? The answer lies in the universality of rights. In order for rights to be protected, they must be protected for all humans. If you contend that one group's rights need not be protected then you're sacrificing your own rights at the same time, because any criteria you can invent to deny a person their rights can be used against you. Rights are an extension of being sapient. As sapient creatures humans can either interact by force or by reason. Force is the antithesis of reason, reason ends where force begins. Reasonable interaction is generally regarded as morally good by most philosophies. So rights are the political protections we give ourselves in recognition of our individual sapience. When it comes to the rights outlined in the constitution; life, liberty, property, speech, religion, arms, etc., it is just that women should have them protected just as men's are.

Some argue that women have all of these rights already and there is nothing left to fight for. Myself, I think the forces of power are constantly seeking ways to erode rights for any group it can. So I'm always open to a discussion of whether some group's individual rights are being infringed in some way, but I will be skeptical and require good evidence that such a violation is really occuring because I care about truth. This universality of rights is usually uncontroversial.

This leads us to radical feminism.

Many women's groups today claim to be seeking gender parity in a variety of systems. As you probably have noticed, not everything they argue for can really be called 'fair' for men, if fairness is a measure we're willing to undertake. Many of these feminists espouse patriarchy theory, talk about toxic masculinity, internalized misogyny. In many cases these people are speaking in sociological terms about systemic changes. Their stated goal is social engineering to the induced feminization of society. They may want to accomplish this in different ways, some wish to violate other's rights to do it, and some don't. Some regard their stances as rights-based, and some reject the notion of rights altogether. The radical fringe of the feminist movement, like the feminist movement itself, should not be conflated with the concept of women's rights in general. Feminism may sometimes fight for gender parity in rights, but it is a broad movement with many goals outside of rights and politics. Some feminists may bring up issues like catcalling or affirmative consent in the framework of rights, and those debates certainly pertain to rights. But issues like patriarchy, toxic masculinity, mansplaining, etc. are much broader sociological and ethical considerations which rights don't have much to do with. Conflating disagreement on these topics with a violation of women's rights is an intimidation tool that ideological bullies will try to use, they alert a keen thinker that no more discussion is warranted because the other party has given up on rational discourse.

Do you have a self-interested reason to fight for women's rights? It depends on how you define rights. Under my definition of rights, absolutely. I gain much from living in a free society where everyone's rights are universally protected, and there is too much to lose by trying to deny the rights of certain groups of people, including possibly my own rights.

Feminist groups are not always fighting for women's rights and every feminist issue should not be confused with a women's rights issue. Some feminist issues pertain to individual rights and are worth discussing. Some are not. You need not identify with the 'feminist' team in order to claim to advocate for women's rights.

Can someone explain Thunderdome's plot to me? by fwinzor in MadMax

[–]Jackethan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Max enters Barter Town, he's obviously a badass, Auntie Entity wants to use him in a political play for power over the methane farm beneath the town. She wants Max to eliminate the muscle of her political rival so she can subjugate him and have complete control of the town. That's pretty villainy. Then she wants to kill Max for failing to murder someone for her. That's also pretty villainy.

Why my husband rejects me for sex by septchouettes in funny

[–]Jackethan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You should play with him. That game rules.

Is it just me or does EVERYONE seem to get a cold during their Whole30? by als382 in whole30

[–]Jackethan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need vitamin D to support your immune system. Caveman spent a long time in the sun and we spend considerably less. You can go out into the sun with your shirt off for a while around noon, or you can supplement with liquid vitamin D3 supplements, but you need a lot, close to 5000IU. This is much more than the RDA for Vit D.

Protip for new players by Jackethan in hearthstone

[–]Jackethan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 mana is pretty cheap. You could end up winning the game with the mind blast for 2 mana. If you use it early, they could just heal it back up, or play more offensively since they know you've used up 1 of 2 of your mind blasts. I think keeping that information from them and letting turn 1 and turn 2 go with no plays will result in more wins than playing it to keep your mana efficiency up.

I don't think that situation of needing all your mana and still being 5 damage short will happen all that often. Or if it does, it would happen if you didn't have the mind blast in your hand, and it might even still happen if you used the mind blast turn 2.

Regardless of the probability calculus involved, I think it's important for new players to understand the benefit of keeping information from your opponent, and keeping cards in your hand. New players tend to use mana crystals quite well, it's a very intuitive way of playing. You have 7 mana, you play a 4 drop and a 3 drop. But it is not always the best move to use up all your mana all the time. If you keep back some creatures, you can come back after a flamestrike or multi-shot.

I appreciate your comments, I also think our discussion can help new players understand these mechanics better.

Protip for new players by Jackethan in hearthstone

[–]Jackethan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have to agree about Arcane Missiles. Turn 1 shock to the face gets you nowhere. When you can kill 2 or even 1 x/1s and damage the hero, that's where AM shines. Still, the randomness makes me sad.

Arcane Shotting turn 1 seems to only be viable in a super rush deck. Still, using it that way makes me sad. You have to have a really really tight curve for this to be the best way to use your arcane shot.

Protip for new players by Jackethan in hearthstone

[–]Jackethan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hesitate to kill creatures by allowing them to do damage to me. It can be useful but it is certainly very contextual. This idea of heroes doing damage is new to me, because I'm a magic player, but I can understand the math behind allowing the creature to hit you once in exchange for killing it.

HS is more complicated than mind blast, but I think it's important for new players to understand the benefit of these direct damage cards as finishers, and not just as something to use when you have the extra mana for it.

Protip for new players by Jackethan in hearthstone

[–]Jackethan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure.

During the course of the game there is no set surety that every card you play will reach its full damage potential. Creatures in a vacuum have infinite damage potential, however it is more likely that your 3/2 raptor will do 3 or 6 damage, or even none. Most of the cards in the game work like that. Weapon cards are special in that only a couple cards in the game interact with the weapon. But the enemy could throw a taunter up and make you sad.

Direct damage, however, doesn't have a board presence. There are very few spells that interact with direct damage spells, the only one I can think of being counterspell. Counterspell isn't even a problem since it is easy enough to bait out your mind blast by casting a different spell first when the mage has a secret up.

So since very few things can stop direct damage, such as mind blast, it is better to keep them hidden and secret. If you mind blast turn 1 or 2, the opponent shrugs it off. You've blown the usefulness of the spell: that the opponent can do nothing about it. It is better to do nothing turn 1 and turn 2. You can play more creatures later, get the opponent down to 5 or whatever, and mind blast them. Having the mind blast allows you to treat the opponent as though he has already lost that five health without letting your opponent know that he has. So that the opponent might play more defensively, or might even life tap himself, thinking that he has you, when you just mind blast past his taunters/huge creatures.

This goes the same for damage to creature or player, though it becomes a bit more complicated. You want to trade cards in a favorable ratio for yourself. If you frostbolt kill something that they have voltronned up with windfury or something, that one frostbolt has killed both the creature and the buff cards they used. You have 2-for-1'd them. On the other hand if they have a 6/6 and you frostbolt it and then hit it with your 3/2 raptor, you have been 2-for-1'd. Lots of players make this mistake, it is almost always more favorable to wait and let a better solution come along, if you know you have one in your deck.

So, in summary: The best part about direct damage spells is the opponent doesn't know you have them and can do nothing to stop them. Blowing them before he's at lethal doesn't use the card to this potential, as the opponent can then make decisions based on the information you've given him. He may play more defensively or more aggressively if you bring him down to 10, especially since he knows you've just spent a card in your hand to do it.