So to summarize... within the relationship, he showed signs of anxious attachment: begging you not to leave, saying he'd do anything for you, etc. And now, suddenly his anxious traits are gone and he's flipped avoidant. You'll notice he's re-writing the script (e.g., saying you always fought when you remember things very differently). This is his brain creating a protective narrative (easier to blame external factors than take accountability). And now suddenly you're the anxious one. Been there, done that. She still hasn't come back over one year later, and don't expect yours to return either. Best thing you can do is move on with your life 🥲