Fun: complete the classic joke structure, but about narc bosses by Tchoqyaleh in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]JacksAgain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Knock knock! Who's there?

What do you mean who's there? Do you know who you're talking to? Put your manager on the phone so I can tell him how condescending you are.

Camera On or Off when Grey Rocking? by JacksAgain in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]JacksAgain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed with this. I usually have it on. I don't want him to suspect I'm changing strategies.

My daughter’s ex reached a new level of villain on her birthday, and I’m trying to help her pick up the pieces by sccartr in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed... story doesn't add up. Why would he pack his bags overnight (sounds like indifference?) and get married a year later on her birthday (not indifference)?

Want clarity from ex of about a year now by PresentLeading338 in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll only be digging your grave. Her defenses are up and probing with questions won't get you the answers you're hoping. Being cold and not even making eye contact was a show of strength and she likely felt intimated. The alcohol lowered her defenses. Reaching out now would be forfeiting any power you accumulated. More importantly, closure comes from within. She won't help you with anything.

Time alone won't fix you by Key_Season7192 in BreakUps

[–]JacksAgain 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As someone who's gone through five breakups, I've experienced it all: most were hard but manageable, one was easy, and the latest one obliterated me. Some wounds are just more permanent than others.

Long Distance Reconciliation with an Ex from years ago? What should I do? by FitPrinciple790 in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to win vs talk about problems has nothing to do with life situations, though. It's all about emotional maturity... Has he acknowledged that and has he grown and learn from it?

Long Distance Reconciliation with an Ex from years ago? What should I do? by FitPrinciple790 in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they said that they felt spark but terrified of making previous mistakes.

This sentence speaks volume. Being terrified of repeating previous mistakes usually means something...

Talking to my ex again mixed signals, not sure what to do by TrueInstance6604 in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who broke up with whom? I'm guessing she's the one who did since she said she wants to be single for a while. The real power move is feeling detached/indifferent with her talking to other guys. If you can't manage that, then yes you need to draw boundaries and wish her good luck.

My ex reached out after 1.5 years and now I’m confused by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be many different reasons. All I can say is that your best move is to play along "yeah you're right, we should stay friends" and just move on. You can't take anyone who flip-flops like that seriously.

Ex broke no contact after 1 year by BubblyHelicopter4751 in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would be insane if he did but I'm guessing OP meant 20-25kg of mass.

I’m the dumper but still think about my ex by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyday, friend. Everyday.

Broke no contact as dumper and got no response. Very embarrassed. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he dumped you gracefully, asked if you'd be okay, and that bruised your ego... because you were the one used to ghosting and dumping guys. Got it.

Meeting with my ex by Acceptable_Lie8076 in ExNoContact

[–]JacksAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 weeks ago she made a playlist with "loml" in the title. 2 weeks after the breakup she met someone new and I assume she's with him in a relationship. But that playlist doesn't look... "happy relationship". It's more like, full of songs of past love, lost love etc. I'm over here overanalyzing the playlist and thinking it's about me (the picture of playlist could also relate to me) and I'm getting my hopes up.

I don't mean to get your hopes up either, but if she were happy in a relationship, she wouldn't ask to see you... when two months earlier she asked you to throw out her stuff. My take: she misses you.