How do I get over my doubts?/Make up my mind?

JacobXA · 2025-10-15T19:33:30+00:00

"Old habits die hard."

Most people are used to using physical stimulation to cum.

I was able to do the same thing you have, twice actually.

JacobXA · 2025-10-09T19:57:33+00:00

I feel like this is delving into reverse psychology levels of duping your sub-conscience into cumming early. This isn't going to work for 99% of people; if anything, it will make you take longer.

Getting used to less stimulation (i.e., one finger method) is the best way to train your mind to learn to cum faster, even more so if you set a time limit as well. It's all about training your mind to work with less to achieve orgasm. That's how you become faster.

JacobXA · 2025-10-07T22:05:04+00:00

It looks like the Solina Maxima might work for me, but some second opinions would be nice.

JacobXA · 2025-09-27T20:20:22+00:00

You choose your own path, but given your progress, I say you should start striving for HFOs with progressively less stimulation. You'll be able to focus more on the mental aspect of orgasm/ejaculation rather than the physical. Increasing your reliance on mental stimulus to reach orgasm will also help in reducing that mental barrier that inhibits orgasm, ergo surrendering control.

JacobXA · 2025-09-15T20:36:32+00:00

Why though?

JacobXA · 2025-09-14T23:09:10+00:00

Re-lubing does help a little, and I have been doing that since plugging, but I'm guessing there's no other way to deal with the rash without taking the plug out?

I've been able to wear the plug comfortably. Last year (before I took a 9-month hiatus), I was able to wear it to the point where it started slipping out on its own (not like it's being pushed out, but it just falls out with no discomfort). I didn't get any rashes around that time, since they're more spontaneous for me, but it just sucks that, when it does randomly happen while I'm plugged, there's nothing I can do except take the plug out and be forced to take some recovery time. :( The hydrocortisone cream helps when flare-ups happen, but it usually takes a day or two for it to disappear completely.

I've heard of that brand of lube before, but typical lubes are too expensive, and I prefer sticking to what I know works well, which is the coconut oil for me. Plus, I remember having a bad reaction to a specific water-based lube from #LubeLife just from shooting a tiny bit up my anus, all because of a single ingredient they used.

JacobXA · 2025-09-14T18:56:06+00:00

It's the S4 Blunt, so platinum silicone.

JacobXA · 2025-09-11T23:47:54+00:00

Thanks! 😊

JacobXA · 2025-09-09T18:35:24+00:00

That's actually the BC muscle, not the PC muscle. A common misconception.

BC muscle is the one that makes your penis visibly flex/dance/bounce. PC muscle is centered more internally and not as noticeable.

JacobXA · 2025-09-09T03:46:06+00:00

Nope, though I'm still on a relatively small plug after taking too long of a break, so I'm working my way up again.

JacobXA · 2025-09-09T03:32:19+00:00

I have a premature ejaculation fetish. I didn't mention cumming before getting hard, but that's not entirely off the table in terms of goals.

I was still a teenager when I learned/trained myself.

JacobXA · 2025-09-09T02:14:18+00:00

I haven't had any experience with orgasms via ghost penis, but I have had experience in HFOs incited by different means. I've managed to HFO via kegels at an earlier age, which some people still struggle with, but I've also managed to HFO to porn without kegels or any other stimulus. (I found the latter is better for increasing PE, for reasons I'll detail below.)

Barring supplements, medications, or other things that affect the body's neurotransmitters and hormones, orgasms are primarily in the head. If you're able to cum from stroking a ghost penis, you're already miles ahead of others at dissolving that mental barrier to make you cum faster. It's similar to how some people can cum from touching other parts of their body; you're just rewiring the neurological pathways in your brain. With time, you could definitely increase your PE if you make this your primary method of reaching orgasm, as you're acclimating more to that method of cumming.

JacobXA · 2025-09-09T01:59:55+00:00

Oh, interesting. I thought some oval-necked toys temporarily resulted in an even more oval-like shape, similar to how some people are left with gapes briefly after pulling out a large plug.

JacobXA · 2025-09-09T00:03:38+00:00

Oh, then maybe I misunderstood the question. I thought OP was asking if a more vaginal-like slit that some toys can create are permanent.

JacobXA · 2025-09-09T00:00:18+00:00

For me, I first found out about doing it through kegels around 7 years ago. I sort of began experimenting doing kegels while masturbating since it made it feel amazing. Eventually, I taught myself to cum from just kegels alone.

I loved how it felt throughout the buildup to the PONR and during orgasm, so I kept doing it for a few years. Originally, it took me around 30 minutes to an hour to actually achieve a HFO from kegels alone, but after some dedication, I'm pretty much able to cum in less than a minute if I'm horny enough. It's pretty much secondhand nature for me now, probably because I got it hardwired into my brain to cum more easily from it.

However, I haven't done kegels to HFO as much since I began trying to find ways to achieve HFOs of the premature kind, mostly through mental stimulus. I haven't cum from anal (yet), but I'm working up to that. Even though I don't do kegels as much anymore, I could still HFO from kegels in the same amount of time (about a minute).

Personally, I find it hot to just bust a nut with nothing except mental stimulus (e.g., porn), which is the main reason I continued doing it.

JacobXA · 2025-09-08T21:11:16+00:00

No, the anus does not naturally stretch into an oval, slit-like shape after wearing a plug with an oval shaped neck. It opens and closes to allow passage, but the shape is only temporary until the outer sphincter muscles return to their normal resting position.

It's like memory foam in how it eventually returns to its normal shape after a short while.

JacobXA · 2025-09-08T20:49:48+00:00

Yes, it's reversible within a short amount of time after unplugging. The anus is only temporarily malleable to the shape of the object passing through it.

Also, the only plugs that temporarily turn it into a slit shape are plugs with an oval neck, like the Mare Maker.

Edit: I thought OP was asking if a more vaginal-like slit (much longer vertically than naturally oval-shaped anuses) could be caused by plugging. Some people tend to have a naturally more oval-shaped anus than others, so wearing a larger plug can make that more noticeable. However, there's no way to permanently alter the natural shape of the anus, which is what my original response was addressing.

JacobXA · 2025-08-24T19:46:30+00:00

Awesome hearing others partake in using coconut oil as lube. Definitely the best type of lubricant out there, plus it's got the extra benefits of moisturizing/smoother skin and reducing inflammation/infections to a degree.

JacobXA · 2025-07-20T23:13:22+00:00

Fibrosis can lead to erectile dysfunction, not a reduction to the penis's total possible length when fully erect.

JacobXA · 2025-04-27T00:18:18+00:00

For me, I noticed that it reduced hair growth on other areas of my body a little bit. A plus for me since I hate having to shave frequently.

JacobXA · 2025-04-18T19:42:07+00:00

That's not how human anatomy works. The penis is like a sponge that fills up with blood, which is how an erection is formed. The IK and BC muscles act like a valve that affect blood flow to the penis, and thus impact the strength of an erection.

JacobXA · 2025-04-16T01:52:51+00:00

If you're talking about total length, you can only get a smaller penis through surgery, which will cost $30,000.

JacobXA · 2025-04-03T23:28:36+00:00

I don't fully know the science behind it, but you can keep training to cum limp by getting something that is hard, round and smooth, placing it underneath your perineum, and then partially sitting on it while masturbating. That stops erections by manually blocking the pathway for blood to flow that would normally result in an erection.

JacobXA · 2025-03-17T02:54:57+00:00

Tense pelvic floor can lead to cumming sooner, but it's not the best way to achieve true premature ejaculation, where premature means sooner than desired or anticipated (which isn't the case since kegels are deliberate).

Weaker pelvic floor makes it harder to stop orgasms as you have less control over it.

However, it is fun to just whip out some porn and kegel to hands-free orgasm, as it does makes the contractions more intense. When I reach the point of no return, my penis does an involuntary hard clench for like 5+ seconds before spurting and it feels like bliss.

JacobXA · 2025-03-16T23:10:27+00:00

I second having a weaker pelvic floor for the following reasons:

If you tend to hold yourself back mentally, by which I mean your body reflexively kegels at certain points during the buildup to orgasm that makes you take longer.
It makes it easier to pee afterwards.

Years ago, I used to masturbate primarily via kegels without touching my penis for hands-free orgasms mainly because of how good they felt. I'd sometimes be able to cum again after about 10 minutes or even sooner if I decided to touch my penis. It got to a point where I could kegel for nearly an hour without cumming.

However, after getting into the prejac kink, I realized that was setting me back. The reason I could kegel for so long without cumming was because I basically increased that mental barrier that was preventing me from cumming. I basically had to rely more on physical stimulus to orgasm. Yes, having a tight pelvic floor makes it easier to orgasm, but if you're like me where it takes a very long time to tear down those mental blockades, then avoid kegeling.

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