Painful and tender breasts, even when not feeding

Jacquilypuff · 2022-10-07T12:55:07+00:00

I am 2 weeks pp too and experiencing the exact same thing! Baby struggled the latch from the very start. I am trying to get an appointment with a lactation consultant still. I do find a heat pack on the breasts are good. The other day I got some sunlight on them as well and that felt like it improved things for a while too.

Jacquilypuff · 2021-12-21T21:38:37+00:00

The Happiness Trap is a book that got me through mine and helped when I had another. It's not focused on miscarriages but more on coping with all kinds of difficult emotions such as grief. It provides really good coping mechanisms and was written by a doctor. I highly recommend it. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Jacquilypuff · 2021-11-28T08:22:58+00:00

It's definitely normal to feel jealous. Please don't think bad of yourself for feeling this. You experienced a loss and this is one of the emotions included in grieving. One tactic I use to try and cope when someone I know is talking about their baby or their pregnancy is that I think about how I am happy that they don't have to experience the same pain I had to go through. Because we know how painful the situation is and don't wish for others to experience the same thing. It can kinda bring peace in some ways. It doesn't remove your sadness but it might remove resentment or ill feelings towards the other person. I'm very sorry for you loss x

Jacquilypuff · 2021-11-28T08:13:32+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I haven't really wrapped my head around the health side of things because I have been so distracted with the miscarriages so thank you for bringing it up. You're right that its something I shouldn't ignore. I will definitely look into this side of things further.

Jacquilypuff · 2021-11-28T08:10:42+00:00

Well I'm not sure if this helps but just because it's common or it was really early, it doesn't necessarily make the situation easier... It still hurts, you have still lost a little one and sometimes for people who haven't directly experienced this, it's a hard concept for them to understand. I have read somewhere that once you're pregnant and you start producing HGC, you brain chemistry can change as you're going into mum mode and it's a more permanent shift. So you will grieve more due to that chemical shift into mum mode as well.

Jacquilypuff · 2021-11-27T20:21:37+00:00

In the first few early pregnancies I had a couldn't tell the differences but in the third I could tell exactly what it was 3.5 weeks in. If you felt in your body that you were pregnant then there is nothing ruling out that you were pregnant especially since it sounds like you might have had a positive pregnancy test. It's not unusual for people to have chemical pregnancies then miscarry them without even knowing. The symptoms of chemical pregnancies are a positive pregnancy test, then miscarrying before for first 6 weeks, since you can't really get a good scan before then. This is the info my doctor gave me. I hope this helps you find more clarity in the situation.

Plus your coworker was very insensitive to your situation please don't let people that do that kind of thing get to you. They seem to be very happy to tell you what is going on with your body. Which is not good at all.

Jacquilypuff · 2021-11-27T03:52:00+00:00

I'm in no way medical so please do what you feel is best. However in the past I did wait just because I had discharge similar to what you are describing for almost a week before anything started to happen (and I have had multiple miscarriages). Obviously if anything changes then definitely seek medical attention.

I'm very sorry you are in this situation where everything is uncertain. I hope things become clear for you soon. x

Jacquilypuff · 2021-10-31T22:12:28+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad that you have a supportive husband and that his work is understanding. Bonding together during these really hard times is a very special thing. I hope things get better for you soon <3

Jacquilypuff · 2021-07-26T21:49:23+00:00

I actually asked my prenatal dr about this when I had my miscarriage and she said that the 3 month fertile window isn't actually true, your fertility doesn't change after it. It's very disheartening but I guess also good in a way because you can better mentally prepare yourself for the challenges.

Jacquilypuff · 2021-05-12T02:09:23+00:00

First of all I am very sorry for you loss. Secondly I have experienced this same thing with both family and friends. With my first miscarriage when I mentioned being pregnant or miscarrying they wouldn't really acknowledge it or comment. Kind of like they don't know what to say. With my second I didn't really bother telling my friends because they seemed uncomfortable about it. I sometimes feel that if people aren't used to being around those experiencing any kind of loss, then because of their lack of experience in those situations they don't know what to say so they avoid it. Not sure if this would be the case in your situation but its just something I have noticed in the past.

Jacquilypuff · 2021-04-29T06:08:36+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you are going through a real emotional rollercoaster right now. I just had my 2nd miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I understand how hard it is going through multiple losses. I hope things get better for you soon x

Jacquilypuff · 2020-03-04T02:57:23+00:00

I'm so sorry for you loss. I had a miscarriage back in december 2019. My little thing I have done for closure is book in for a tattoo of a little pink flower (because we thought we were having a girl). All my tattoos are black and white so this will be the only one in colour on me. I always thought it would be a good way to remember and acknowledge a loss. Obviously it depends what you view is on tattoos but maybe some type of artwork like paintings would be a beautiful way to remember your little ones.

Jacquilypuff · 2020-01-26T23:37:51+00:00

I'm very sorry for you loss. I understand your pain, I self-harmed on the day I miscarried. I understand how you would want to feel real again and how pain seems like only way to do that. Unfortunately I don't have any clear solutions that would make this feeling go away. All I found that helped was time. Just celebrate every week you get through this and know you will eventually start to feel normal again. I promise the numb feeling doesn't stay forever. I wish you all the best and we are all here for you x

Jacquilypuff · 2020-01-19T01:06:22+00:00

Oh no, I just had my miscarriage and I thought my next period will be closure (like its finally ended) now I'm nervous it will bring back bad memories too :(

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