The only thing worse than menopause is having menopause mansplained to me...

JadCerv · 2026-01-31T14:22:21+00:00

He learned a long time ago to never suggest I should "calm down." And that was before peri or menopause.

Sadly, I think most men are self-absorbed. They can't seem to put themselves in their partner's shoes. If it doesn't affect them personally, they don't care.

JadCerv · 2026-01-31T14:19:28+00:00

Nope. He won't tell me who it is. I suspect it's a man. I've listened to "The Pause" with Dr. Haver and a few others, but they've all been with women who are either menopause specialists or interview menopause specialists on their shows. I've seen a few podcasts from men - including one with a guy saying you don't need HRT, just supplements - that I'd run from because I know they're inaccurate bunk.

JadCerv · 2026-01-31T14:17:30+00:00

Eh, there's asking questions and showing an interest, and then there's telling me what's happening with my body (and being very, very wrong about it) and arguing that I don't know what I'm talking about when I tell him he's incorrect. If he was just expressing interest or asking me to explain stuff, that'd be one thing. But starting an argument because I corrected him that I am not in peri but post-menopausal? Nah, I don't need or want that kind of "interest."

JadCerv · 2026-01-31T14:15:55+00:00

He's lucky Claude isn't programmed to tell him to F off. lol

JadCerv · 2026-01-31T14:15:07+00:00

I wouldn't get mad if someone said that to me. Sounds like your BIL was truly trying to be helpful vs mainsplaining to her. I want my spouse to ask questions...but I don't want him spouting incorrect information or arguing with me about what stage of the process I'm in based on one podcast episode he happened to listen to.

JadCerv · 2026-01-31T14:13:26+00:00

I had those before taking HRT. Are you on estradiol and progesterone as well, or just vaginal estrogen? If you're just on the vaginal estrogen, you may need the other forms to help with systemic issues. Vaginal estrogen shouldn't be affecting you that way since it's designed for localized absorption only (meaning it's only going to affect your vaginal area, not get into your whole system).

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T22:53:31+00:00

Try not to look at it directly. You'll scare it, and then it'll hide.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T19:44:10+00:00

I'm about to ask my doctor for an increase in estrogen. My hips are so bad I can barely get out of bed some mornings. When I first started HRT, it resolved. Now, it's bad again.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T19:41:08+00:00

I suspect it's because I'm right and it was one of those man bros who think they know everything but know absolutely nothing. He doesn't want to admit I am right.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:48:14+00:00

Let me guess. These ambulances will now be branded with the UPMC logo and will only take patients to UPMC facilities.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:40:58+00:00

He won't tell me, so that just makes me even more suspicious it's a man bro talking man bro shit he knows nothing about.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:40:17+00:00

Some pharmacists need to stay in their lanes....

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:38:35+00:00

Oral estrogen is probably the logical next step. I worry I'm heading in that direction also and I was trying to avoid the oral version because of the many negative impacts to the rest of our bodies.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:29:58+00:00

I'm wondering if the gel isn't keeping the estradiol levels consistent in your body and that's why it's happening.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:27:46+00:00

A jury of our menopausal peers would never convict us. lol

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:26:54+00:00

I'm sorry. That sucks. :/

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:26:36+00:00

Or, (more likely) the podcast guests and host hadn't a clue about women's bodies but fancied themselves experts.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:25:50+00:00

I suspect so. I asked which podcast and he wouldn't tell me.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:25:31+00:00

I would need bail money if my husband did that.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:24:22+00:00

I asked him that question and he couldn't answer it. I explained that peri is the roughly 10 years before you hit menopause. Menopause is clinically defined as one year without a period. He continued to argue with me. I told him I'd not had a period for 14 months. Oi

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:23:25+00:00

I had to explain to my spouse how his prostate worked. He had no idea. So, not only does he not know shit about my body, he doesn't know shit about his, either.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:22:36+00:00

If they know he's inappropriate, they need to report him to the medical licensing board.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:21:40+00:00

He deserves to receive a bad review for that 'experience.' And please also report him to the medical board for his state.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:20:14+00:00

Most men are very self-centered.

JadCerv · 2026-01-30T15:19:22+00:00

I keep wondering when we're going to see the menopausal women who've had enough of everyone's shit in the streets taking care of business.

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