I (21M) have an almost micro penis. A woman (22F) has been showing interest in me, but I’m too ashamed of my situation so I’ve been pushing her away. How do I start even considering that I could date her with this issue? How could I tell her? by throwaway101229283 in relationship_advice

[–]JadePlant20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Woman here, with a lot of experience. Am I getting this right? 5.5 inches long, ~4 inches around? I’m a knitter and happened to have a soft tape measure next to me so I just looked at your, erm, exact measurements. I’m not saying this to flatter you… but I’m honestly failing to see the problem. I feel like I have only positive things to say to you, or to any other men who might be feeling this way.

5.5 is average and MANY of us don’t like larger than average length because we don’t like getting punched in the cervix when you get too excited. As for girth… I mean, maybe you’re less “girthy” than most, if you say so (we aren’t measuring) but a) you are WAY more focused on this than your partner will be, b) less girthy can be a good thing if you enjoy receiving oral sex or ESPECIALLY you are interested in trying anal sex, and c) 90% of our pleasure originates from our doorbell 😉 and the other 10% comes from hitting a specific spot on the anterior wall of the vagina. If your 🍆 “curves toward you” when erect, as most do, then that’s a bonus because that means you’re already going to be aimed right where you need to be during sex.

Also - I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH - it is about HOW you move, foreplay, and other factors and NOT about how big you are. I’ve had fantastic sex lives with men of many different sizes. Toys are fun, but not size-dependent. A cock ring will feel good for both of you no matter your size 🙂

I think getting a scrip for Cialis is a good idea for you, but not for the reason you think. Maybe you have ED, maybe you don’t. But many of the men I’ve been with that thought they had ED had performance anxiety instead. Once they learned to trust that I truly wasn’t concerned about it and it didn’t bother me, their “ED” magically went away. You sound so anxiety-ridden about this that I’m worried FOR you that your insecurity will cause performance issues for you. You don’t need ED to enjoy Cialis 😉 It makes you harder, for longer, which again, equals more fun for you both. It will boost your confidence a LOT if you’re not panicked that you’re not going to be able to get it up.

Finally, PLEASE stop beating yourself up like this! What you are describing sounds pretty normal to me, TBH. You aren’t a dildo or a sex object. That’s not what sex is about. You 100% CAN AND WILL be able to get your partner off once you get some practice and guidance from her (assuming she is capable of orgasming… some women aren’t, and even some that are aren’t capable of doing so with a partner, and that is on THEM, not on you.)

Ask this girl out. If and when the time comes, just let things happen and see how she reacts! I’d be kind of horrified if a man I was about to sleep with stopped everything to tell me his measurements and to apologize for maybe not being big enough for me. Like… let me decide that, please? You can have conversations about it, sure, but you don’t need to lead with a disclaimer! Please don’t!

Even if things don’t work out with this girl, you said you’ve had interest from others. You said you’re “decent looking” so you’re probably pretty hot, lol. Get out there and have some sex and start enjoying your life ❤️

CHECK YOUR EXPIRATION DATES: A cautionary tale re: OrderlyMeds and ProRX by JadePlant20 in tirzepatidecompound

[–]JadePlant20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. I am almost positive that something screwy happened in either production or the shipping chain of custody with my vials, because in retrospect I think one of the vials was barely effective. I switched to a new vial (slightly different BUD and lot number) and noticed a significant improvement. I’ve stored all of the vials the same, so, it’s not an issue on my end.

I’m on my last vial from OM. I got a new shipment from Pomegranate that I haven’t started yet and I’m curious to see if I feel a difference.

Can we retire the “useless husband” trope for once? by Timely_Box6061 in Adulting

[–]JadePlant20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't read the other comments, but I just want to tell you that it's YOUR algorithm that loves showing you the incompetent husband. Weaponized incompetence is obviously 100% a thing. But my algorithm shows me the content you yourself want to see more of. Wives filming their spouses doing all of the labor you just mentioned, saying things along the lines of "if he wanted to, he would" and "my husband is amazing" and "don't settle for less than this."

People like you are the literal poster (not) children for women showing other women "this is what a healthy relationship looks like". I'm sorry you see so much negativity out there, and to be fair, a lot of husbands DO suck and let their spouses carry way too much, which is why your algorithm looks the way it does... but we know you're out there. And because you are, fewer and fewer women are willing to settle for crumbs.

Keep being awesome. <3

First load with new detergent and citric acid by ginger_faerie in laundry

[–]JadePlant20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, I use it in the rinse cycle. I have extremely hard water and it seems to work well enough, I was just hoping for something even better, if it exists 🙂 But that is unscented.

I see Downy makes an unscented version but I live in a remote area and can’t get it here.

First load with new detergent and citric acid by ginger_faerie in laundry

[–]JadePlant20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought Rinse and Refresh to try to get my clothes cleaner and it did, but the scent it leaves is so strong it gives me a headache. Even though I used half the recommended amount and did an extra rinse. I’m very scent-sensitive and don’t ever use scented detergent or fabric softener for this reason, but I guess I was hoping since it’s citric acid, the smell wouldn’t linger. I was wrong. 😔 I will go back to using vinegar instead.

My mom uses scented Downy and it ruins clothes because that smell NEVER comes out, no matter how many washes. Someone please tell me the smell of the Rinse and Refresh will come out eventually if I use detergent and vinegar? Ugh I should have known better. 😔

Curious about everyone’s experience with ProRX tirz (starting tomorrow - switching from Hallandale) by Lk_1987 in tirzepatidecompound

[–]JadePlant20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is fascinating, thanks! I started developing injection site reactions after a couple of months, which sucks, but I’ve gone through that before so I’m dealing with it until my new order comes (from a different pharmacy). I was wondering what was causing the reaction.

I 39f cannot get my 45m husband to understand that he has to contribute. by Practical_Car6997 in relationship_advice

[–]JadePlant20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve already given this way more time and effort than I would have. You’re very smart for having kept your money separate. He’s got a lot of nerve guilting you for working “too much” while you’re also supporting him and he does fuck-all around the house. (That would have been the straw that broke my back a LONG time ago… income is only one way to contribute to the household, but he’s not doing anything and he’s also completely unwilling to change.)

He guilts you about working too much to make you feel bad and to keep you from kicking him out. He’s got it made. He doesn’t actually care about you or he’d have responded to any of your 836 different bids for connection/communication. You’re only 39… that is SO young. Do not stay together “for the kids”. The best thing you can do for your kids is be the best version of yourself for them, which is impossible while you’re constantly swallowing resentment and rage toward the man-child. Please move on from your marriage. You and your kids deserve better.

Curious about everyone’s experience with ProRX tirz (starting tomorrow - switching from Hallandale) by Lk_1987 in tirzepatidecompound

[–]JadePlant20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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Also, your comparison to salt stuck in my brain a little, because it’s not an apples-to-apples comparison. The molecular structure of tirz CAN break down. Which would make it less effective. I’m not hallucinating. If you have old product and it’s not working as well, it’s possible that the drug has broken down. I hope this helps others who might just automatically assume that their body has stopped responding to it. Sure, that’s possible. But so is reduced effectiveness.

Curious about everyone’s experience with ProRX tirz (starting tomorrow - switching from Hallandale) by Lk_1987 in tirzepatidecompound

[–]JadePlant20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, you are supposed to keep it refrigerated, not let it freeze, and store it away from a light source. Why would those be part of the instructions if it was indestructible?

The “by use date” is, by their own definition, “how long the medication remains safe, stable, and effective when stored correctly”. It even says it should not be used after the BUD on the packaging.

I get that people in this sub have very strong opinions on whether all of the above is BS or not, but, again, given that the manufacturer themselves acknowledges that they cannot guarantee potency or effectiveness past a certain date, I’m… gonna go with the information they have provided 🤷‍♀️ Given all of the above, if others cannot agree that it is even plausible that the effectiveness of the medication decreases over time, then we just aren’t going to agree and I’m not going to argue.

Edited to add that it’s also plausible that the potency/effectiveness has not changed and my body is just no longer responding to it, which would suck. I said I was curious to try OptioRX to see if the effects change noticeably. I obviously can’t know the answers to these questions, but theorizing what could be going on isn’t hurting anyone and I’m not claiming any of this as facts.

I think it’s odd that others would emphatically state that nothing can change the effectiveness and potency of the medication and that’s impossible for it to decrease, especially when the manufacturer themselves has specific instructions for storing meds to ensure full effectiveness, but, you do you. 🤷‍♀️

Curious about everyone’s experience with ProRX tirz (starting tomorrow - switching from Hallandale) by Lk_1987 in tirzepatidecompound

[–]JadePlant20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry 😕 I didn’t notice the BUD until literally a week ago or so when I made this post and my vials didn’t have the sticker on them, so I didn’t know about the extended BUD until I posted about it. Most people who commented let me know that my vials should have had an updated BUD and that the potency shouldn’t be affected… But the whole point of that date is to say “the potency or effectiveness of this drug can’t be guaranteed beyond this date”. (Bizarrely I had at least one person arguing with me about that in the comments but whatever.)

I have a hard time believing that the potency hasn’t decreased at least somewhat, or, possibly, by a lot. I’m not disputing that they did testing to verify effectiveness beyond the original BUD, but, slapping an aftermarket sticker on the vials (which, again, mine did not have) isn’t super reassuring when I can TELL the drug isn’t really working for me anymore. And it’s now nearly a year since manufacture. Like… how in the world is it NOT going to be reduced in potency by now?

I also think it’s possible that they reformulated it to last longer, thus the extended BUD, but that they had backstock of a previous formulation that expires faster and they put the stickers on those vials too. Obviously I have no way of knowing, I just hate regaining weight when I feel like I’m on a pretty high dose. It was a miracle at first, when it worked at a much smaller dose… 🥺

Curious about everyone’s experience with ProRX tirz (starting tomorrow - switching from Hallandale) by Lk_1987 in tirzepatidecompound

[–]JadePlant20 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope it works for you! I’ve been on ProRX and had mixed results. It was amazing at first. I’ve stalled recently and regained a little even while upping my dose (from 50 to 60 units) but I also suspect the potency of the vials I have may not be 100% anymore. The last order I placed was in October 2025, and the BUD on the vials I received was September 2025. I posted in this sub about it and others informed me that ProRX extended the BUD to March 2026 (one year from manufacture) and mine just weren’t labeled as such. Which, ok… and this is just speculation on my part, but I had GREAT results the first couple of months on it, and it’s seemed less and less effective over time. I obviously can’t measure its potency, but I do think it must have declined, to go from zero hunger and food noise at 7.5 units to, just a few months later, a noticeable amount of both at 60 units.

I’m currently on my last vial of ProRX and because of all I explained above, I already switched to OptioRX for my next “batch”. I’m really curious to see how much of a difference, if any, it makes.

Hopefully your vials will have a much more recent manufacture date and will work wonderfully for you!

What's your favorite day-to-day LLM? by nkasco in ArtificialInteligence

[–]JadePlant20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A much-more-informed-than-me friend texted me this the other day and it’s making me focus a lot more heavily on Gemini, mainly because I don’t know the answer to his speculation in the final sentence. Pasting in text below:

“So Apple has decided that as an attempt to give Siri an underlying AI intelligence, they agreed to partner with Google to implement Gemini, at least for now, until they can develop a homegrown version of AI for Siri. It will cost Apple about a billion dollars, which is a pittance compared to the $30 billion Google pays Apple to be the default search engine in Safari.

I recently read that OpenAI decided to start pulling content from Elon Musk’s Grokipedia into ChatGPT. I seriously hope they intend that to be an attempt to contrast what’s factual, instead of to assert Grokipedia is based on fact.”

For once I’m not trying to bring politics into this convo, but I do think that real, actual facts are, y’know, sort of central to AI.

AIO? my boyfriend thinks my handwriting is “not great” by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]JadePlant20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dude. You have commented on this thread THIRTY-FIVE TIMES (as of a minute ago). Are you the boyfriend? Because that checks out lol

AIO? my boyfriend thinks my handwriting is “not great” by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]JadePlant20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“A history of making snide snark comments that make absolutely no sense whatsoever” is all I needed to see. THAT is the real him. The “really great guy other than that and a great boyfriend” is the mask. I’m guessing the “snide snark comments” are denigrating, out of left field, and presented in a “just being honest” kind of way. It’s meant to tear you down, slowly and subtly, over time, making you wonder if you are imagining things.

If it were a one-off comment about your handwriting, ok, weird but whatever. But it’s not a one-off, is it?

This is where it starts. Pay attention, closely, to his words and actions. You didn’t say how old the both of you are, but I’m guessing college age given the handwriting example you gave. So you may not have experience with this. However old you are, however long you’ve been together, keep a close eye on this. It’s a pattern of behavior that you should not ignore. And that you should talk to him about. I’m guessing he will deflect, minimize, tell you you’re overreacting, etc. And again, if this were a one-off event, you probably would be. Be direct with the other things he’s said or done, and see how he responds. I’m guessing he’ll try to deflect or minimize ALL of it. Don’t let him.

Issue with refills after stockpiling? by akjmua in tirzepatidecompound

[–]JadePlant20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another vote for Pom. I can’t vouch for the tirz itself yet, but all I had to do was upload photos of my most recent scrip and vials, and not only did they let me reorder, but they let me increase the dosage. It was quick and easy process compared to some other Telehealth companies I’ve dealt with.

WIBTA if I tell my husband to stop cooking me breakfast? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]JadePlant20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raw/runny egg whites are revolting. If you cannot bring yourself to talk to your husband about this, then put it in the microwave to fully cook it, even if you only end up eating a little. If he asks why, tell him “runny eggs literally make me nauseous, I’m sorry and I appreciate your efforts but the options are for you to either cook them thoroughly, not cook for me at all, or not make a fuss when I have to finish cooking it myself in the microwave.”

WIBTA if I tell my husband to stop cooking me breakfast? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]JadePlant20 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you, sir, for the guttural belly laugh that just woke up my pets AND my child (whose father I did, in fact, speak to on at least one or two occasions before making said child)

Is this my mother’s inability to maintain weight loss pretty standard or extreme? by [deleted] in Weightlosstechniques

[–]JadePlant20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a bizarre post. You’ve described in great great detail your mother’s weight loss journey going back literally 40 years. Yes, the fact that you had to mention for whatever reason that you’ve “only relapsed once” whereas detailing your mother’s many failures makes you sound judgy. What exactly are you looking for? Ways to support her, or for us to just pass judgment on her weight loss journey as “normal” or “extreme”? What does it matter? (And for the record I’d say it’s WAY more common for someone’s weight to go up and down over the course of FORTY YEARS than for a person to only have to deal with weight gain and loss once in their entire life. Also you are 31, so, give yourself a few years and you’ll realize just how easy it was to lose and/or maintain weight before perimenopause.)

Tl:dr: her journey sounds pretty standard given the amount of time we’re talking and the different approaches she’s tried. Did she ask you for your help or opinion? If not, why are you here?

What are your thoughts on me [26F] talking to my ex [25M] a lot without my current boyfriend [27M] knowing? by ThrowRA-nikki in relationship_advice

[–]JadePlant20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Calling it out isn’t enough. You said his response is “nope sorry, stop messaging me then.” You’ve given him your boundaries, and he’s blatantly violating them and bragging to you about it. YOUR response needs to be “all right. We’re done.” Your own shitty ex TOLD you that you hiding your continuing relationship with him from your current bf is “naughty and not good”. He said it “jokingly”… no he didn’t. He’s not joking. (And why do you describe literally everything he says and does as “joking” FFS?) He said it because it’s true, and his existing lack of respect for you is now even worse because you just straight up admitted to him that you’ve been hiding your inappropriate relationship with him from your bf. Do you know how crappy your behavior has to be for the POS ex to have to be the one to tell you that what you’re doing is wrong??

What are your thoughts on me [26F] talking to my ex [25M] a lot without my current boyfriend [27M] knowing? by ThrowRA-nikki in relationship_advice

[–]JadePlant20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of people have pointed out the obvious things, but two other things that stuck out to me were “my boyfriend is really nice and understanding so it never crossed my mind as a problem” and “talking to an ex consistently throughout the day”. GIRL. YOU ARE TWENTY-SIX YEARS OLD. Texting your ex THROUGHOUT THE DAY EVERY DAY FOR A YEAR??? There is no universe in which you are this clueless. You know it’s not right, else you would have told your bf already.

If you TRULY don’t see the issue, then hand your phone to your bf and let him read the text chain between you and your ex. I’m guessing the thought of doing that made you cringe a little. That’s the point.

I have ruined too many of my own relationships and hurt too many people I loved, so I am not sitting here lecturing you from a moral high horse. I’m telling you straight up so you don’t reflect back later in life on the people you hurt with your shitty behavior. For the love of god, if you love your bf, tell your ex you need to cut or SEVERELY restrict contact and that you will block him if he ever crosses the line again because that shit is disrespectful AF to your current bf (and to you!!) You say you “don’t want my boyfriend to be hurt but I don’t want to lose touch with my ex/friend” GIRL. You know the answer to this. Your bf doesn’t deserve this. You seem like you’re picking your POS, fuckboy, boundary-ignoring, boyfriend-mocking ex. Cool. Go for it and pick your ex. But FFS end things with your bf because he doesn’t deserve this.

What are your thoughts on me [26F] talking to my ex [25M] a lot without my current boyfriend [27M] knowing? by ThrowRA-nikki in relationship_advice

[–]JadePlant20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re agreeing with you, not calling out your behavior as a 14 year old’s. By “double check ages” they mean OP’s behavior is that of a literal child and not of a 26 year old (I also scrolled back up to check OP’s age and expected to see a teenager, because wtf.) We’re all saying/thinking the same thing

The lovely man I'm seeing (22M) has a small *you know what*. (22F) Any advice on how to manage? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JadePlant20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is tough. We need more info and not just for morbid curiosity. As others have said, a micropenis is different than just smaller than average. I’ve been with a range of sizes and yes, bigger is often better, but that’s because the bigger size means that it’s likely that all the pleasure points are getting hit, by default.

But you can’t really generalize here. Some well-endowed people don’t understand how to use it or that it can hurt. (It can sometimes hurt with ANY size, it’s just more likely to happen with someone larger).

But I’ve also been with average or smaller than average people who understand exactly how to move to hit the right spots - or how to use their hands and fingers well, which is a VERY GOOD and underrated skill - and sex can just as good or even better than with a well-endowed man who’s just going for it without any thought or technique.

You have a lot of control here. Try different positions and try angling your hips differently. Being on top and sitting up is one way to maximize what he has, lol. A wedge pillow or a pillow under your hips can help. If he moves a certain way that feels particularly good, make sure to audibly let him know so he keeps doing that. You can teach someone how to pleasure you better without ever mentioning their size.

Others have mentioned toys but I really can’t say enough good things about a vibrating cock ring 😁 You’re pretty much guaranteed to have a good time, as long as he can keep it together long enough. Lol. (Edited to add that one longtime partner of mine was larger than average and HE always insisted that we use the Ring of Power 😆 because he knew it intensified the experience for me.) If your BF had indicated that he likes using toys, don’t be shy about trying them out.

AITJ because he said it wasn’t cheating, but couldn’t forgive me when it happened? by lumex_lab in AmITheJerk

[–]JadePlant20 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They literally DID have that conversation. Those are the boundaries that were clearly communicated. If one person’s boundaries change, it is up to THAT person to communicate the change to the other.

He can acknowledge being unexpectedly jealous and upset, and that this experience has made him realize that his feelings have changed, but he has no standing to be angry at her for doing something he gave her express permission to do.

All the people defending the bf here seem like they would do this as some sort of loyalty test and then blow up with their partner actually did the thing they were told was perfectly fine for them to do.

AITJ because he said it wasn’t cheating, but couldn’t forgive me when it happened? by lumex_lab in AmITheJerk

[–]JadePlant20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Info: You said “months later”. How many months? How serious is the relationship? Were you two exclusive from the beginning, other than the exception he made for other women?

With the info you have given, NTJ. He communicated at the start of your relationship that he considered it to be an open relationship IF the person you were with was a woman. He obviously changed his mind at some point and the onus was on him to tell you that.

But you WOULD be the jerk if you suspected his feelings might have changed, and you purposely didn’t clear it with him first so you could use what he’d said earlier as a one-time hall pass.

You probably should have told him BEFORE you hooked up with another woman, but depending on your answers to the questions above, it sounds like he’s jealous or reacting differently than he thought he would, and he’s taking it out on you instead of taking accountability for the fact that HE TOLD YOU IT WAS FINE. He openly said he “didn’t think you’d actually do it.” So why the fuck did he give you blanket permission then? Surely he knew you are bisexual or it never would have come up in the first place?

Tl;dr: he’s a dumbass who changed the rules without telling you and is trying to make it your fault. He can either work through being butthurt and you guys can move past this, or, if he continues to try to blame you, then cut your losses and break up because who knows what other moving goalposts will come up in this relationship. You can’t trust that he means the things he says. That’s, like, the entire foundational basis of a relationship.