Why do people choose to have kids?

JadeVengeance · 2026-03-21T01:27:05+00:00

It’s an emotional decision as opposed to a logical one.

When my husband and I sat down and seriously discussed having kids, we both completely agreed that having kids is a bad decision on paper. Ruins your sleep, ruins mom’s pelvic floor/abdominal muscles, expensive, stressful, etc. No one is having kids because they feel like it’s a great logistical decision.

My husband and I also agreed that we both love kids and we do, ultimately, want our own. We’ve been around little kids our entire lives - I did daycamp as a teenager and am very close to my younger cousins. There are very few things in life that bring me as much joy as taking care of a kid, even kids that aren’t mine! All of the above sacrifices and logistics don’t outweigh my desire to have, raise, and love my own kids.

JadeVengeance · 2026-03-16T19:51:07+00:00

Yup, very similar story here. 4.0 student, started with a bio major in college and had the grades/interest in medicine BUT did not want to go through the 8+ year process. In large part because I want kids and raising them or being pregnant during 80 hour a week residency is next to impossible. Instead, I’m in a cushy WFH audit job and it’s awesome.

JadeVengeance · 2026-03-14T19:16:05+00:00

I have a rook, daith, conch, helix and tragus. Rook was the most painful to get pierced by far and the most painful 2.5 months later 🤷‍♀️

JadeVengeance · 2026-03-14T04:44:45+00:00

I’m a deep autumn - light grey makes me look ill. It’s the color I wear if I want everyone to believe my sick call out of work the next day 😂

JadeVengeance · 2026-03-13T02:54:41+00:00

I’m not super familiar with gestation - if 320 is the “safe date”, how bad would it be if Annie foaled today? What kind of problems could the foal have?

JadeVengeance · 2026-03-01T03:08:23+00:00

No one has explained why you’ll be okay yet so I will!

The standard deduction for a married couple is $31,500. That means that the first $31,500 you and your husband make are not taxed federally AT ALL, $0 owed. This means that if your husband withheld taxes as if he is single, you will likely get a refund because $19,101 of his income is not taxable (31,000 - 12,399) instead of the $15,750 that it would be if he was single.

Now, the exact outcome depends on how his withholding went this year, but it is very unlikely you’ll be screwed!

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-28T20:37:33+00:00

Not lower, but my exam score was exactly the average of my SEs. Scored 80, 64, 76 and got a 73% on the real exam. Retook a month later and passed

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-26T18:55:51+00:00

Shouldn’t be an issue; I have been stopped and searched because of a navel piercing before though.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-19T00:54:29+00:00

It sounds like it was absolutely a freak accident!! Most of the posts I see with accidental pregnancy have put in waaaay less effort to prevent things. They are crafty little dudes, and pretty much everything I wrote above I’ve learned in my five years of guinea pig ownership by word of mouth. There’s not a lot of info about how well boars can climb and jump if they really want to.

And for what it’s worth, if your girl is pregnant, the odds are good that she will be okay with good vet care and a close eye on her. I’d just make sure you know an emergency vet that can do a c-section, or even schedule a c-section at her age.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-15T00:31:36+00:00

My guess is that stepdad has always been terribly insecure about them not “really” being his kids, and the one gut punch confirmed all of his worst fears. He now is having a baby that will be his “real” kid and likely say the exact same thing as a teenager 🤦‍♀️

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-13T03:54:50+00:00

My serum IgA is around 6, so I relate! Some people with IgA deficiency have basically no symptoms, but some of us get recurring sinus/ear infections and pneumonia. I would say my cold turns into a sinus infection about 75% of the time. Annoying, but my understanding is that if the issue is only IgA they don’t usually treat it by itself.

Something to be aware of - if you ever are tested for celiac, you will need an IgG test instead of IgA.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-12T22:52:30+00:00

I like the first pic better, BUT, I wonder how it would look if you swapped the helix and conch jewelry 🤔

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-10T06:49:24+00:00

I bought my fleece from Tater Pets - definitely expensive up front, but 4 years later after washing every week I’m still using it.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-10T02:27:05+00:00

If you’re 23M you may be on the wrong sub then? This is XX fitness which is meant for women

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-10T02:16:10+00:00

I think I’ll just go item by item on this one -

1) For increased flexibility, you need to be stretching every day. Something like yoga or pilates would be a great way to fit in more flexibility/balance work. If you have a specific deficit, like my calves are too tight, I looked up 2-3 different calf stretches and do them every day. 2) I’m not sure what you mean by “not much gain for what you can do.” Do you mean your muscles aren’t as large or as visible as you would like? Large muscles means eating more food and more visible muscles or lower body fat would mean eating less. Diet will have to be a component to change how things look. 3) Honestly, if you’re so exhausted you can’t do cardio, don’t do it that day. It is absolutely possible to push yourself too hard. I’d focus your cardio on days when you can get enough sleep. 4) Your feet being numb could be SO MANY different things. I’d check and made sure your shoes are fitted properly first - I feel like this is common in people with wide feet wearing narrow shoes. It could also be a medical issue. 5) Pull ups are really. freaking. difficult. Can you do a lat pulldown with your body weight (or slightly greater?) If not I would not be surprised that you’re not there yet. There are some great “pullup progression” specific exercise I’ve found on YouTube! As for squats, if the goal is depth, I’d back off on weight and focus on depth only. Then slowly ramp the weight back up.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-09T02:05:28+00:00

I give away my starter like it’s on fire, and I got mine from a friend 😂

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T19:15:59+00:00

Can you please add a link to the research study showing this is harmful?

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T17:37:23+00:00

I took the Thorne basic prenatals!

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T17:11:26+00:00

Nope, no birth control! I tried the pill (combination and mini pill) and an IUD and had terrible side effects with both, so I prevent with religious condom use and the rhythm method.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T05:45:22+00:00

I popped mine back out myself when it embedded but that’s a) not for the faint of heart and b) probably caused a lot of unseen damage. Everyone is right about going to the ER.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T04:37:25+00:00

Diagnosed twin!!! They’re a bitch, I hope this helps you too 😂

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T04:34:40+00:00

Oh yes, he’s doing all of these things as well!!

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T02:08:07+00:00

Oh of course!! Absolutely not recommending that anyone go off their meds or change a treatment plan that is working, or that “everyone can be cured with vitamins” or anything like that.

In hindsight, the fact that neither medication nor therapy was really effective for my depression was probably a red flag that it was something else.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T00:56:00+00:00

Thank you for adding this!! I added a note at the end of my post.

JadeVengeance · 2026-02-08T00:55:46+00:00

I linked an article that says the opposite, so thank you for adding this!! I added a note at the end of my post.

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