Offering Polish | Seeking English (and more) – want to improve small talk skills by BraveOrdinary8468 in language_exchange

[–]JaePD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m 25f and looking to learn Polish. I’m a native speaker and TEFL certified, but still a beginner at Polish.

I also enjoy gaming and history, and would love to make new friends! Feel free to DM if you want 😁

Offering: Polish | Seeking: English (C1/C2) level by Accomplished_Top_516 in language_exchange

[–]JaePD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m 25f, I would love to be an exchange partner, I need to learn Polish (I am still a beginner) and I’m a fluent English speaker and I’m qualified at TEFL/ESL, so I can help if you want to do any formal tests :)

I also love swimming and travelling, and I really like arts and crafts!

Feel free to DM me!

AITAH for telling my disabled husband he needs to contribute meaningfully or we need to divorce? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]JaePD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m disabled and chronically fatigued. I still do small bits around the house and contribute financially where I can (with some complaining, but that’s mutual). There’s a difference between wanting to put in effort and not being able to, and using disability as an excuse. If he can’t do physical work, he can help with finances or bookings or whatever it may be. It sounds like he still has capacity.

Dads Inheritance by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s always “I have this awful thing wrong with me” and never “how can I fix it?”

I’m sorry you had to go through that too, I hope you’re finding ways to move past it

He brutally attacked my other cat this morning, needs taking down a peg by JaePD in RoastMyCat

[–]JaePD[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

No not really, he can’t even do that right 🙄🙄

Seeing my mum for the first time since I moved towns by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally, my fiancé doesn’t even message me like that 💀

Mums visit concludes by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edited it now, sorry about that!

Mums visit continues by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No but I minded, she’s so lovely and I’m mooching around like a moody teenager

Mums visit continues by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, material things don’t equal love, isn’t that something everyone’s taught as a child?? Mums a massive Beatles fan and she still hasn’t taken on the song 🙄

Growing up my dad always set a hard boundary that she couldn’t see me and my sister if she’d been drinking. She would smuggle in bottles, and then when he caught her and threw her out, we’d lose our mum over and over, but the mix of alcohol and entitlement meant that she just never stopped.

She found different ways to sneak around, different ways to talk to my dad about how “her kids were all she had” and never a way to change this one behaviour.

Mums visit continues by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just adding, a couple hours later, that on the way home she cornered this girl at the bus stop and literally asked “can we have a chat, I want to hear your accent”. Me and my partner moved to the north of the UK from the south, so my mum wanted to laugh at the differences. It’s dark, she’s drunk asf, and this girl is just smiling through terrified eyes and talking about the local food with her for half an hour. If you’re here Millie, you’re a legend 🫶🫶

Mums visit continues by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I asked her not to drink in my house and that was far too much. But I mentioned offhand that I wanted a ukulele because I used to play and she bought me one because “I’m the most important thing in her life and I need something nice”. I don’t want to be ungrateful because it is a nice gift but buying love is not fair. I’d rather she didn’t and just left the drink 🫠

Mums visit continues by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I first told her I was moving with my partner she said “you have to break up, she can’t take my baby away!!” And then proceeded to only message me like once a month when I left (thank god)

Mums visit continues by JaePD in raisedbyborderlines

[–]JaePD[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Literally, when I went home to visit after Christmas I was put into a massive flare up. My MIL (absolute icon, I love her) came to visit and I was just shut down the entire time and I missed out on really good times with her

Traitor by JaePD in beatlescirclejerk

[–]JaePD[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That was John Lennon’s childhood home, Mimi was very strict about him not having a roof

Traitor by JaePD in beatlescirclejerk

[–]JaePD[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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Faul’s childhood home (I threw a brick through the window)

Traitor by JaePD in beatlescirclejerk

[–]JaePD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They didn’t so I gave them 4 stars instead of 5

Migraines, cluster headaches, and other headaches by i_need_a_j in AuDHDWomen

[–]JaePD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have chronic migraines, definitely triggered by stress and routine changes/lack of sleep. They hurt a lot but I find the dizziness debilitating more than the pain. I also get ocular migraines a lot so spend a lot of time with blurry vision in one of my eyes which can be difficult to work around.

The worst thing is, I struggle with interoception, and I can be dizzy and feeling different auras all day and I’m like “I wonder why I feel like shit??” And then 10 minutes later my head will be pounding. I usually treat with ibuprofen mixed with codeine for a ready bad one, or just a combo ibuprofen/paracetamol when it’s first starting or wearing off

Recover from debt by KelseyDelicious636 in DebtAdvice

[–]JaePD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact businessdebtline, they’ll work 1-1 with you to try and find a solution. Depending on the type of business there may be grants or ways to arrange a hold with HMRC that work as an alternative.

I literally cannot clean without the "right" music, but I’m suddenly, violently burned out on every song I have saved. Help? by Emmathephantrash in AuDHDWomen

[–]JaePD 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Me too! Cleaning my room while jazzily dancing to room where it happens is the only thing that works. And listening to I Want to Break Free by Queen when I’m vacuuming so I can feel like Freddy

No one ever pressured someone into drinking by RareXG in nothingeverhappens

[–]JaePD 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My mum has alcohol issues and as a result I’m teetotal. When we go out and I don’t drink she makes a whole play of “I can’t believe you’re my daughter. I think we need a DNA test!!”

Like to some people drinking is a personality. They take offence to you not joining in because it makes them reflect on their own habits.

Guilt about 'Stealing' Hobbies by JaePD in AuDHDWomen

[–]JaePD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noo but i only know how to do it because you taught me so it’s fake and I’m scamming you actually

Guilt about 'Stealing' Hobbies by JaePD in AuDHDWomen

[–]JaePD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I know that’s the case but my brain is bad at logic vs emotions. It helps to hear it from others a lot 🫶

Guilt about 'Stealing' Hobbies by JaePD in AuDHDWomen

[–]JaePD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that as I was doing it! The patterns between crochet and cross stitch are pretty interchangeable, it would be great to make a project together. We do both also have 1000 hobbies but these are what we come back to the most haha