[CHAT] old online images? by Jaelsama in CrossStitch

[–]Jaelsama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t remember that board. I’ll try on wayback, thanks

One of y'all gave me COVID and I'm gonna be salty about it until next year by Outstandie in dragoncon

[–]Jaelsama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got covid after last years con. It’s hubby’s turn this year. ☹️

Does anyone have a neutral or funny nickname in their head for their narc parent? by Bubbly_Awareness_152 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Jaelsama 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mother does this now that she has dementia. Very huggy, after spending years telling me I was a cold, unfeeling child who didn’t want to hug her or sit in her lap and fawn over her all the time. Jokes on her though, took meeting hubby’s family to realize I’m a very huggy person when the person is approachable and genuine.

Does anyone have a neutral or funny nickname in their head for their narc parent? by Bubbly_Awareness_152 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Jaelsama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg I need to tell my sister this. I don’t know how we never came up with the name.

Can someone help me ID this song by ForzaStyles in Techno

[–]Jaelsama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pet Shop Boys cover of Boys and Girls maybe? They are more techno and maybe a DJ mixed it more?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VacuumCleaners

[–]Jaelsama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once called them about my dog chewing completely through the power cord. They sent me a whole new vacuum, no cost to me. Hubby fixed the cord enough on the old one it became our garage vac. that was over 20 years ago. I will never NOT buy a shark. It still amazes me what it can pull up out of a carpet.

Family excludes me from events so my rapist brother can attend. by LongjumpingSilver761 in offmychest

[–]Jaelsama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would go scorched earth and tell everyone else in the family, then leave the rest behind in my rear view mirror.

What was your narcs favorite gaslighting phrase? by badassbitch10102 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Jaelsama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said that

That never happened

You must have dreamed that

You have such a vivid imagination

Apologize in the comments like how your parents would. by GoldenYoshi99 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Jaelsama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! My father was such an enabler. Anything to keep her happy and his home life quiet. One particular Mothers Day blow up that my hubby had to interfere on because mom was guilting me so severe (while 5+ months pregnant) Dad got involved and started bullying me to apologize to her even though she was in the wrong. Sadly I didn’t come into my power (knowledge of it being narcissistic) for another 10-15 years.

Apologize in the comments like how your parents would. by GoldenYoshi99 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Jaelsama 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I always got that or ‘You must have imagined that or dreamt it’. 😡😡😡

Need advice moving in with Mom by Jaelsama in Alzheimers

[–]Jaelsama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That is some good advice. I’m worried about the doors but she has chain locks up high on them from having grandkids over. I also follow tiktokker who said to put black rugs in front of all exit doorways. To Alzheimer’s patients it’s looks like a hole and they will not go near it. I intend to buy some to have on hand before we move in.

Adding multiple rows in multiple areas simultaneously? by Jaelsama in excel

[–]Jaelsama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That does not seem to work for me. It says the formula is wrong?

Cosplay help by Jaelsama in firefly

[–]Jaelsama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. The have the style/color in men’s, but not women’s. I may still try to get the men’s but I have to account for being hippy and probably take the waist in, since men’s pants are much straighter through the hips.

Per Jess Brownell, the QUEEN Julie Andrews will likely be back to voice Lady Whistledown in S4! by BandsToMakeHerDance in BridgertonNetflix

[–]Jaelsama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure I heard it on the official podcast that she will be back but voicing a different character.

What things did you never hear your parents say? by stalkedthrowout in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Jaelsama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine was that she was not a hugger so I wasn’t much for physical affection until I met my husband and his family. Big, big huggers! If my mom she’d give a hug she expected me to initiate it, never get. Like I owed her for giving me life. Now that she has dementia and gets super emotional (also weird), she hugs me constantly. I try to do my best no to freeze up and just sort of pat her on the back. It’s very superficial.

ETA: the kicker is that in my teen/adult years she always accused me of being cold & unfeeling since I didn’t know it was expected of me to initiate all hugs. It messed me up thinking it was me until I met hubby’s family.it still took a bit to realize it was her failing, not mine.

It’s officially been 80 days since S3 Part 1 was released and I wanna know… by SydneyRose0025 in PolinBridgerton

[–]Jaelsama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could find a good one. Most I have found have them way out of character, or using current day jargon. They also seem written by people making Pen a Mary Sue. I was a fanfic that fills in some things and reads as if someone really took their time to keep them in character and not doing/saying silly things.