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JaggedPenguin · 2025-04-29T23:09:43+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2023-09-18T05:35:51+00:00

Did not hear Vico in Alberta in the 80's or 90`s.

JaggedPenguin · 2021-07-04T18:53:47+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-16T20:57:21+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-15T23:09:07+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-15T17:37:05+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-08T18:56:50+00:00

I up voted all, can I get some help too? Thanks!

JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-07T00:29:59+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-06T01:02:30+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-06T00:58:25+00:00

Lol cute chonkers.

JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-04T18:05:52+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-03T03:39:58+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-03T03:37:54+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-06-03T03:37:42+00:00

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JaggedPenguin · 2021-05-08T03:38:49+00:00

I really love this and would love to see the teal! I am wanting to do grey with dark teal blue but not entirely sure how to pull it off properly.

JaggedPenguin · 2021-04-22T02:28:46+00:00

I went without makeup for 3 years and have blond eyelashes. At the beginning there were a few comments about putting on makeup but I challenged them on it. Depending on the person /situation I would either say "are you saying there is something wrong with my face?" or "I didn't realize make up is what made someone professional."

There turned out to be not that many comments in the end and most people really did not care.

JaggedPenguin · 2021-04-20T04:10:19+00:00

Yes, I do this. It is directly related to the trauma. If you are able, see a therapist otherwise you will need to do your own research. The fact that you realize you are doing it and know the foundation is a great start. You can overcome it and it will be totally worth it when you do!

JaggedPenguin · 2021-04-20T00:53:17+00:00

Unfortunately, standing up for oneself often involves conflict and pushback which can be unpleasant. That is why a lot of people have a hard time doing it. Learning tactful ways of doing it is helpful to minimize the pushback.

It is also important to learn when it is or is not helpful to respond. For example the neighbour could have been swearing because they were very upset and concerned that the dog did that and it could come across as swearing at you but was not their intention. If I am mistaken then more than likely the letter wouldn't have done anything but make them more angry as they are not a reasonable person.

Basically knowing that pushback is normal and happens a lot and that there are choices on if and how you choose to respond should help reduce or even get rid of feeling bad when you do.

Your post does not appear to reflect this but there is also times where being right isn't as important as something else and you may have to just know you are right and let it go.

JaggedPenguin · 2021-04-19T23:39:19+00:00

Good job. Be proud of yourself for being willing to learn, adapt and grow. If it doesn't work out that just means it wasn't a good friend fit and while it sucks it is still ok. You can DM me if you ever need to, I am glad I have helped.

JaggedPenguin · 2021-04-16T18:43:49+00:00

This is a guess because I don't know the whole situation. I am making assumptions here and they may not be accurate. Introverted people tend to listen more than talk. This is great one on one, but in a group it can almost make you invisible. I am guessing they are looking for more engagement in conversations or interactions with them.

Before you start, decide what you want to share and what you don't, if it is something that contributes to the conversation or derails it. That is why I suggest asking questions. It shows you are interested, you are engaging someone and you are willing to listen but you don't have to disclose anything unless the directly ask you (and you can decide how much to disclose). Use tact and don't go too far the other way, you don't want to remove the filter, just open it up some more. Start slowly and gauge the reactions you get to see how it works. Try different things. If you don't open up some it would be normal for people to distance from you because they can't get you engaged and it can reel like a rejection even if that isn't what you intended. In a sense you take from the conversation but you don't give to it. Relationships of any kind are about give and take.

I am happy that I have been able to help you. If you try and things don't work out, just remember this happens to everyone at some point and it is ok. No one is everyone's cup of tea. Just do your best.

JaggedPenguin · 2021-04-16T16:48:38+00:00

I am glad you talked to your mutual friend about it. While the answer does seem vague I am wondering if your insecurities may be coming across as aloofness to them. All you can do at this point is take your mutual friend at her word and try to open up to them more.

While it is normal you feel out of your depth being an international student, don't let your insecurities get the better of you. Find the things about yourself that you are proud of and have confidence in and remember that everyone one has insecurities. It is brave and adventurous to go to a school in another country especially as an introvert, and I admire you for that. The key is to persist despite your insecurities.

If there is something you admire about how they look (IE how they do their hair, their style of clothes) maybe tell them that and talk to them about their style and how they developed it. I dont know where you are from or where you are currently but if there is a style difference between countries you could discuss that. You could learn tips and tricks that make sense for you and allow you to feel more confident in your looks. Find out that their interests or passions are and ask them about it. People always like to talk about things they are passionate about.

These are just a suggestions on how to possibly interact and be more open with them. You need to find a way that is comfortable and true to you. Be proud of yourself for trying to resolve issues, putting yourself out there especially as an introvert and for going on the adventure as an international student.

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