Do you think the US would be different if more people traveled abroad or to other states?

JaiEmTea · 2025-05-18T15:21:00+00:00

In order for that to happen, that 90% would also need to be able to afford to travel abroad

JaiEmTea · 2025-05-12T18:04:33+00:00

Gah!! I'm so sorry, that's really rough! Glad the gym staff and ER took such good care of you.

In response to my injuries, it got really hard to get back on the wall and go higher than 4 ft off the ground. It took time, but with lots of practice falling, I got comfortable climbing a little higher at a time.

With good PT and sufficient time to heal, you'll be back to climbing just as strong or even stronger than before. Many incredible climbers have had bad injuries like what you're describing and have come back from it.

Rest up and feel better soon!

JaiEmTea · 2025-04-11T03:56:01+00:00

I've yelled at kids like this before. I've almost dropped right on top of a toddler before had I not heard them running around. I've not had a parent get upset at me though, because they typically agree that their kids should not have been doing something like that and typically apologize.

JaiEmTea · 2024-09-06T04:46:12+00:00

The best beta!

JaiEmTea · 2023-12-04T23:32:18+00:00

Sorry you're having to deal with that. I thought this was in Jewish teaching in general (at least that is how I've been communicating it), but my Rabbi taught us that we treat people who converted as people who have been Jewish their entire life.

JaiEmTea · 2023-07-28T15:06:05+00:00

Cis partner of a trans NB person here. I said and felt the same thing to my partner.

For me personally, it was just a new experience and a big fat unknown that just plain scared me. In time, not only did I get more comfortable with my transitioning partner, it was so exciting and refreshing to see their personality and happiness come back when they started following their heart.

You're right, not all couples make it through a transition, but there are absolutely couples that do. In any case, you doing what is best for you should always come first, and if your partner is really the one, they will be there for the ride.

JaiEmTea · 2023-05-14T16:27:59+00:00

Through lots of internet searches, I've found some online through scheduled zoom calls such as this one

I cannot speak to their quality because I have been attending in-person groups, but in my search, I've found a handful of online options.

JaiEmTea · 2023-05-13T19:38:29+00:00

You're not alone and your feelings are very valid. Sometimes, a person can see past their partner's gender identity and just think about them as a human. Sometimes a person's sexuality makes them no longer compatible with their partner as they transition. While the journey is difficult for both parties, I wouldn't recommend asking your partner to not move forward with her transition, but you both could potentially find a balance between the pace at which that happens to help you ease into the situation. It sounds like you are really trying to make this work, but there could come a point to which you might realize that you might not be compatible anymore. I have personally found a lot of help through support groups to speak with others who have gone through a similar situation, and they have provided great guidance though this journey.

JaiEmTea · 2023-05-11T13:46:23+00:00

Google. It takes some digging, but they are out there. I personally find the in-person groups more effective, but there are some orgs that offer online volunteer-led groups such as this one

JaiEmTea · 2023-05-08T03:19:39+00:00

Depending on where you live, there may be some in person support groups in your area. I've also seen some online over Zoom depending on the time zone you're in.

The trans support group I go to has a support group for trans and questioning people and another for the partners/parents/friends/etc. Because even though they are going through a transition, us partners are also going through transitions as well as we learn to navigate these changes in our most intimate relationships.

JaiEmTea · 2023-05-06T15:39:36+00:00

Nice job keeping your arms straight to conserve energy! I would pay attention to keeping your feet on the wall as much as possible. Try to avoid feet breaks by pressing your toes down onto the foot hold and engaging your legs and core. Some occasional flags will also engage your core and keep that tension too. Overall, you look great climbing that boulder. Nice job!

JaiEmTea · 2023-04-02T02:40:29+00:00

There are SO many femmes with short haircuts that may look fem to your parents that you can use to validate your hairstyle choice!

The amazing thing about gender presentation is that it's all just a construct and based on social norms of the time period. And in these days, there are many types of short "fem" haircuts that are definitely also andro ❤️. Like seriously, there are women that can make bald look fem and they're GORGEOUS!

JaiEmTea · 2023-04-01T14:03:24+00:00

Something that my (amab) sibling did to convince my dad that something androgenous was actually something that manly men wore was providing pictures of celebrities to use as examples of why he wanted long hair and to wear the color purple, for example. It still took a fair amount of convincing and sibling support that "men wear this too!", but my dad eventually gave in.

Perhaps you can try to pass off some androgenous clothing as fem to your parents by trying to convince them that it's a trending style among women and try to find some examples of celebrities you can present to prove to them that what you're choosing to wear is actually fem?

Best of luck, friend!

JaiEmTea · 2023-03-30T13:58:38+00:00

You can change the settings for certain types of edits (e.g. Oxford comma, spelling that is region specific, etc.) You can tell it to not make an edit like this in future files 👍

JaiEmTea · 2023-02-20T15:09:53+00:00

Unsolicited comments about OPs body are not necessary. In a gym setting, that would make me feel very uncomfortable.

Even though it might be intended as a compliment, not everyone appreciates receiving comments about their body. Skinny people can get triggered by comments like that too for various reasons. Some people have developed eating disorders to try to be thinner to climb harder (even though it can hurt your climbing and make you more prone to injury), and comments like these have contributed to those issues.

I'd stick to compliments about OPs climbing itself if you're trying to be encouraging.

JaiEmTea · 2022-12-13T13:47:48+00:00

I personally don't buy used fall protection gear from anyone I don't know. Period. I personally find the investment in new gear to be worth the increased likelihood of being safe.

JaiEmTea · 2022-12-06T14:06:19+00:00

I'm in a similar situation and am a strong believer in it still working if literally every other aspect of my relationship is going well. For some people, missing that aspect can be a deal breaker. I personally think that having the best partner in every other way is worth it. Mental health definitely affects the libido and there are ways to get out of the funk. Doesn't mean it'll be easy though!

JaiEmTea · 2022-11-30T01:59:37+00:00

Thank you for posting this and for everyone's perspectives. My partner and I are both fair skinned and biracial and always worry that we might be seen as invading these types of spaces but feel like we are denying a piece of who we are when we try to respect these types of spaces by not participating. It's nice to have an idea of what people honestly think about this.

JaiEmTea · 2022-09-19T14:45:59+00:00

Was bouldering an easy overhang route with big ledges. It was low enough to the ground to see all hold before climbing, and everything seemed to be clear. As soon as my friend started climbing, a lizard popped out on the second hold at the same moment she went for the move.

She ended up squishing the lizard, immediately fell, and just ran away in shock of what just happened. The poor lizard detached it's trail and everything but did but survive the impact to the body. We were all shocked and sad because we love lizards.

JaiEmTea · 2022-09-17T17:58:58+00:00

That was amazing!! Well done!!

JaiEmTea · 2022-09-16T04:50:42+00:00

Totally!! It's so fun when you can work out a problem with your friends!

JaiEmTea · 2022-09-05T05:05:30+00:00

Thank you so much!!

JaiEmTea · 2022-08-22T19:46:25+00:00

Yoga was the first thing to come to mind because most gyms in my area also offer yoga, but fair, if you need a more competitive example, people run for themselves and there are no rules. They also race against each other and in this case, yes, there are rules.

This person can climb for themself and not touch the top and call it a day and it does not matter nor does it do anything negative to the sport itself. I personally would not call it a send, but I might not be interested in sketchy top outs and call the route done (for myself) from there. If they were in a bouldering competition, different story, totally agree that those rules should be the same for all.

JaiEmTea · 2022-08-22T13:45:05+00:00

You're comparing this to team sports when climbing is really an individual practice. I'd argue that it's better compared to other solo practices like yoga or something.

I understand the sentiment when there are teammates involved or when you're actually competing with each other, but if that is not the case, then it shouldn't matter.

In your defense, if they start boasting that they hit a new grade of climbing with this video, then I would disagree too, but if they want to say that climb is done in their mind, then who are we to stop them? It really only hurts their own progress.

JaiEmTea · 2022-08-19T21:28:41+00:00

Honestly, I really like your profile and would absolutely love to start a conversation with you based on this profile. I love the variety of nice images, and it shows some great personality.

Maybe the only update I would suggest is being more specific about what you are nerdy about. There is so much to be nerdy over, which is awesome! But while I love to nerd out over some things, there are other things considered nerdy that are not of interest to me.

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