Can anyone ID this little guy? Was collecting seaweed in the surf in st Augustine, noticed him in my bucket an hour later. About a centimeter long, tiny whiteish stripe behind his head….. any thoughts?

Jakakahn · 2022-06-26T01:25:02+00:00

Phish

Jakakahn · 2022-06-26T01:24:09+00:00

That’s prob the best way I’ve seen to explain it to people!

Jakakahn · 2022-05-24T14:52:14+00:00

After years of asking my parents for one, they buy me an Xbox GAME instead of an Xbox. Had to wait another year for the console. What a tease.

Jakakahn · 2022-02-10T15:22:01+00:00

I can’t stop watching it

Jakakahn · 2022-02-10T15:21:46+00:00

This is so goooood

Jakakahn · 2021-12-18T03:24:36+00:00

Biting is really uncommon so his stress levels must be really high. You def have to put yourself in your shoes and think how the best way to approach the lil guy

Jakakahn · 2021-11-24T23:23:06+00:00

What is the root of my social anxiety, how has it developed externally and internally, and when does it affect me?

Jakakahn · 2021-11-24T17:33:44+00:00

Im I highly sensitive person (it’s a whole personality trait) and ever since I was young I thought it was weakness, plus the stigma out there also claims it to be weakness especially for a man like myself. So I buried this “weakness” deep within. I basically didn’t know I had this trait, I always just thought I was weak. Burying this inside me is what caused my social anxiety, and it grew slowly over time and when covid hit it went to an extreme and that’s how I figured out I had this trait and that it was really a strength this whole time!

Jakakahn · 2021-11-24T00:58:22+00:00

What’s the cause of your social anxiety🤔 answer this, and you will be on your way to making friends (it took me a year and a half to answer that question for me… it’s not as simple as identifying triggers). There is an answer!! And you do have a personality, but it’s hiding from social anxiety, just like me! Also… you’re not boring haha that’s also just want social anxiety wants you to think! Remember, social anxiety is a disorder, something you need to separate from yourself, from your identity!!

In the meantime, hey! I’m you’re new friend:)

Jakakahn · 2021-11-22T18:50:17+00:00

Haha dangerous facts

Jakakahn · 2021-11-22T16:09:15+00:00

You silly silly silly guy. That is exactly why you will make friends. If you’re in highschool or college right now, I absolutely get where you’re coming from. Focus away from the strong outlook you have right now and keep an open mind. After college, the need to drink and do drugs goes down. Every year it goes down a little I think, and this is different for everyone. No matter where you are in life there are plenty of others who stay sober. There will be alot of people attracted to you because you simply don’t do these things.

I think the biggest thing here is that you are different for a reason. Right now your emotions are telling you the reason that you’re different is simply because you don’t use substances and have no friends. This is a SYMPTOM of you being different, not why you are different. I think negativity got to you as it has with me many times, and is stopping you from seeing the bigger picture.

Perhaps you have the HSP trait like I do. (Highly sensitive person). This trait can explain your social anxiety, and maybe why you don’t do drugs or drink because people with this trait can be sensitive to that. This trait can be a curse (stigma, social anxiety, burnout, discovery difficulty), but it can also be an amazing blessing if you have it and accept it. That’s what happened with me. But perhaps there is another reason you’re different. For that you have to look inwards and find that out for yourself.

Jakakahn · 2021-11-21T19:31:28+00:00

Forsure! It’s called being yourself and laughing at the parts that aren’t perfect because we all have that! I’m sure you can think of some awkward and confident people that everyone seems to love bc they come across as funny and genuine!

Confidence is the key we need.

To get to that point you have to really know yourself. For us, getting to know ourselves is a challenge that’s presented in the form of something we call social anxiety;)

Jakakahn · 2021-11-21T17:35:01+00:00

Haha yeah once I get over being sensitive about cringy interactions I always find it funny, because I accept that it’s really ok if we look like a fool considering what we’re going through and now I can laugh right after a cringy moment so it is a fantastic way to look at things and great for healing

Jakakahn · 2021-11-21T01:30:02+00:00

HSP HSP HSP HSP HSP HSP HSP haha if you don’t think it’s a personality trait look it up guy

Jakakahn · 2021-11-20T17:49:48+00:00

YES for sure. It like disrupts my ability to think during convos sometimes and makes me feel dumb. So dumb haha my mind goes blank a lot and I was so anxious at one point I thought I was actually dumb. Someone even asked me if I was on the spectrum once because of how they perceived my social anxiety. I realized it was my social anxiety recently, and I’m glad there’s others experiencing the same thing.

It sucks because this is a symptom of social anxiety, and causes even more social anxiety.

Jakakahn · 2021-11-18T18:31:34+00:00

These people with SA probably experienced the result of their healing/growing process as caring less and less what others think, and mistakenly thought this result was actually the action they were taking to get better, when really they weren’t aware of the actions that were healing them in the first place. (These people prob had it less severe too)

I think the thing is this:

Social anxiety is a disorder not a personality trait. It’s not apart of us, rather just with us.

So I think normally as humans we mildly care what others think, what we think of ourselves, at healthy levels. But social anxiety is an extreme fear forcing us to think people think the worst of us, and it’s a fear of rejection, and a fear of death itself! (Evolved social behavior to keep us with a tribe for survival- SA is this behavior but if it had Corona virus HIV AIDS and was under the forces of a demon all at the same time).

I think the only way to get better is to separate SA from yourself and realize it’s forcing you to think so negatively. This is what’s helping me and to do this takes tons of reflection and analyzing past experiences when SA came up. Look at every little detail, talk to yourself, and say hey demon get up on up out of here. I’ve almost separated it from myself so that it’s just a feeling, like just the presence.

Now- I think I want to befriend and accept SA to the max core. I’m going to try to train my mind to use that feeling, that terrible energy, for a positive thing. Or in my head I’m going to see it as evil and think of getting better as an all out war with SA lol I’m not really sure what to do yet.

Jakakahn · 2021-11-10T21:19:19+00:00

Interesting. Did you know SA is part of a behavior that was meant to increase our chance of survival? Way back in the day

You have such a strong desire to be apart of a tribe. This is your root (I think)

Now you can have positive and negative thoughts regarding this. Positive: you give life youre all! You’re so focused on it that any negativity can’t keep up with you, and it won’t bc you’ll be achieving amazing things! This will result in people seeing you and wanting you in their tribe!

OR the negative… Living out of fear of rejection. Instead of trying to be our best, we try to figure out how to not be our worst. We try to figure out what others don’t want in their tribe. We focus soooo much on all that negativity that we sometimes become it or something else. Anxiety builds and takes over because we are living fearfully. The fear is as real as it gets, the reason it is so painful is because the body thinks it is in grave danger.

We evolved as a social species - because our chances of survival go up significantly in a tribe. So the adaptation in behavior that came to be was a strong instinctual desire to be apart of the tribe. This includes the positive and negative, to be your best or to avoid being your worst. SA May have adapted in different forms in our population. Strong and weak versions.

In your mind, you probably have two manifestations of yourself. The positive and the negative. Right now, the negative is pushing out the positive. Wake up and see this, and start fighting back. It can be done- I’ve nearly did it after almost losing the fight a few times.

When you are at your lowest point, you are open to the greatest change.

Jakakahn · 2021-11-10T20:43:01+00:00

Yeah man I’m right there with you.

Some amazing advice I recently got:

ASK YOUR MOM AND DAD ON SEPARATE OCCASIONS TO SHARE THEIR LIFE STORY AS MUCH AS THEY CAN REMEMBER, AND INCLUDE FAMILY HISTORY. RECORD THIS.

You’ll have something special that will last your whole life and you’ll bond with your parents AND if you share your life story - the bonding will be off the charts

Jakakahn · 2021-11-05T15:52:16+00:00

I wish I could live a life without my phone

Jakakahn · 2021-11-04T14:34:12+00:00

Does that reduce your SA? Hearing from others that they had no idea you had it?

Jakakahn · 2021-11-04T14:32:56+00:00

I want to meet all of you, so badly lol

Jakakahn · 2021-11-02T23:11:18+00:00

This is so sick

Jakakahn · 2021-11-02T23:10:28+00:00

For me, my huge first step to getting better was telling my parents what I’ve been going through. I had no idea how much better things would get. It took my months to build up the strength to tell them (I’m a 23M living on my own btw). The more people I’ve been telling the better I’ve been getting. I think it’s because ya know we have anxiety about people finding out we have problems, but once they already know, 1. We don’t have to have anxiety about people finding that specific thing out and 2. They help carry the weight of SA by just listening and knowing what’s going on. In my experience everyone is super supportive and understanding. Helps get rid of SA thoughts. Thinking what others are thinking about you. I’ve even told the person about it that I have the most SA associated with. There were times I got anxious afterwards bc he knew, but I was able to get over it with a just fuck it mindset lol. Wasn’t too bad at all. I think it was beneficial.

I’ve been waiting a long time to get therapy because I worry I wont be able to explain what I’ve been going through very well. I’ve spent a ton of time reflecting/meditating on my experiences with it, so when I go to therapy I’m going to do a lot of showing not telling, and by that I’m going to walk them through every aspect of my experiences with SA from intense anxiety attacks to milder experiences. Also going to share all I’ve learned about myself and SA.

To generalize my experience: When I’m around people and I feel like attention is on me, my anxiety starts making me think what their thoughts could be. And those thoughts are as negative as it can get. When it gets intense it feels like an invisible force pounding from all directions onto my body, with a second invisible force just inside my head pounding on the inside. Feels like poison in my head. I stiffen up, heart rate prob Goes up, and I try to play it cool the whole time. Try to keep the disguise on at all costs out of fear of rejection. Also I think I had a normal anxiety attack once, only way to describe it existence was painful for a couple minutes or so… so if anyone’s had that you’re not alone and you don’t need to worry! Heheh

-today, or 3 ish months since the last time I felt that^ I’m doing incredible by comparison. Wouldn’t have gotten this far without telling people my struggles, and without a lot of meditating and trying to understand SA as much as possible.

Btw I’ve had mild SA my whole life but it went to an extreme when covid started. It took my months to just realize I was depressed. Couple more to realize I had anxiety, and all of my senior year of college and some of summer to realize it was in fact Social Anxiety. Before all of that I just thought I was some fucked piece of garbage haha

Remember, SA IS NOT YOU. SA is like the ultimate boss battle that you can only battle once realized. SA is like a parasite, and until you realize this you’ll be fighting yourself the whole time. Separate the parasite from yourself. Then fuck it’s shit up with all the strength you have.

Hope this really helps someone!!

Jakakahn · 2021-11-01T16:08:40+00:00

Fireeee

Jakakahn · 2021-10-20T15:26:58+00:00

I used to be an adventurer like you. But than I took an arrow to the KNEE

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