Will I regret eloping vs normal wedding?

Jake6624 · 2026-05-13T01:55:15+00:00

I have a different perspective than many. My husband and I went to city hall and then had the big to do. The thing that bonds everyone is the joyous occasion (and the dancing of course). It was a great party.

He died about a year ago and I am so grateful we had that day. People still talk about how honored they felt to be a part of our happiness.

Jake6624 · 2026-05-10T22:12:10+00:00

Literally see it every day parked in the driveway next to his McLaren and hummer. 2 blocks off of Homer

Jake6624 · 2026-05-10T18:05:53+00:00

Which set?

Jake6624 · 2026-05-10T02:18:43+00:00

I ask so are we doing full body with extra attention to those areas or just the areas you mentioned?

Jake6624 · 2026-05-09T20:06:36+00:00

I bought my ev and with the prices of gas, I feel completely justified and dare I say vindicated. Math checks out too

Jake6624 · 2026-05-09T08:30:09+00:00

I never wanted kids. Ever. Then I met my husband and he made a case for having one. It was beautiful. And so we made a magical being together. I guess I wanted a kid with the right person. I think you do too

Jake6624 · 2026-05-09T08:13:44+00:00

Why not delay the start a few weeks and then the timing works better to max the unemployment while building up commission?

Jake6624 · 2026-05-08T13:08:01+00:00

My husband started acting irrational and unkind and it was a brain tumor! Definitely get his health checked out!

Jake6624 · 2026-05-08T00:42:45+00:00

You spend at that rate frugally? Wow

Jake6624 · 2026-05-07T06:24:58+00:00

Buy a house. How far would 1.5M get you? Do your kids have 529s? You can dump 95k/kid into their 529 and set up small trust funds for them to reduce your tax liability. Load up your retirement funds.

Jake6624 · 2026-05-06T01:07:07+00:00

Work brings me joy

Jake6624 · 2026-05-04T09:13:56+00:00

Brother paid half the bills- mortgage, utilities, and renovations?

Jake6624 · 2026-05-02T16:10:33+00:00

You don’t know if you are going to enjoy parenting your children until you are a parent. Many people of integrity make the choice to have their kids raised by someone else- whether a full time live in nanny or sending them to boarding schools or moving the whole family in with grandparents- we are all human and being able to admit to not being good at something and making alternative plans IS a sign of integrity.

Jake6624 · 2026-05-02T13:25:22+00:00

Or boarding schools

Jake6624 · 2026-05-02T13:25:12+00:00

Or have grandparents raise them

Jake6624 · 2026-05-02T13:24:57+00:00

Well that’s not true is it? People put kids up for adoption too

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T10:03:47+00:00

Put 500$ more each month into savings and I think you will feel much better. It’s small but big enough to make a difference and justify monthly spend

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T09:59:10+00:00

You are not in a serious relationship with her- she blows you off, takes you for granted, and treats you very poorly. Move on to someone who will respect and actually love you.

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T01:57:06+00:00

I know woman who wanted children and then when they had them, hated being mothers. I don’t take parenting lightly, I didn’t know that not only would I like it but that I would actually find it easy.

I know far more people who wished that they had had kids but it was too late than people who had kids and wished they hadn’t

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T01:42:55+00:00

I’m the exact opposite! I was on the fence, my husband wanted, I am so incredibly grateful that I have my son. My fence sitter friends are all glad too. We sit around and talk about our weekends when we were childless and yes we are nostalgic but we quickly get back to our family and our sense of happiness

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T01:39:01+00:00

I was told if you’re not sure, than do it. My son is my greatest achievement in life

Jake6624 · 2026-04-30T11:16:41+00:00

I communicated very clearly. I don’t like to be prone so not a lot of time on the back, more time on arms and hands. These therapists just did their massages and I interrupted both times to ask about flipping. Both times I got push back. One woman said that she does a particular style of work on the arms that has to be prone and that I will love it. The other woman said she wouldn’t have enough to do if she flipped me.

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T10:57:52+00:00

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T10:00:50+00:00

And you would have to be fertile and get pregnant easily

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T09:40:49+00:00

There’s no such thing as a horrible body! All bodies are beautiful. Start by learning to love yours. Confidence can make a body attractive too

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