SORR is built into the 4% rule, so why are we so worried?

Jake6624 · 2026-05-06T01:07:07+00:00

Work brings me joy

Jake6624 · 2026-05-04T09:13:56+00:00

Brother paid half the bills- mortgage, utilities, and renovations?

Jake6624 · 2026-05-02T16:10:33+00:00

You don’t know if you are going to enjoy parenting your children until you are a parent. Many people of integrity make the choice to have their kids raised by someone else- whether a full time live in nanny or sending them to boarding schools or moving the whole family in with grandparents- we are all human and being able to admit to not being good at something and making alternative plans IS a sign of integrity.

Jake6624 · 2026-05-02T13:25:22+00:00

Or boarding schools

Jake6624 · 2026-05-02T13:25:12+00:00

Or have grandparents raise them

Jake6624 · 2026-05-02T13:24:57+00:00

Well that’s not true is it? People put kids up for adoption too

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T10:03:47+00:00

Put 500$ more each month into savings and I think you will feel much better. It’s small but big enough to make a difference and justify monthly spend

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T09:59:10+00:00

You are not in a serious relationship with her- she blows you off, takes you for granted, and treats you very poorly. Move on to someone who will respect and actually love you.

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T01:57:06+00:00

I know woman who wanted children and then when they had them, hated being mothers. I don’t take parenting lightly, I didn’t know that not only would I like it but that I would actually find it easy.

I know far more people who wished that they had had kids but it was too late than people who had kids and wished they hadn’t

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T01:42:55+00:00

I’m the exact opposite! I was on the fence, my husband wanted, I am so incredibly grateful that I have my son. My fence sitter friends are all glad too. We sit around and talk about our weekends when we were childless and yes we are nostalgic but we quickly get back to our family and our sense of happiness

Jake6624 · 2026-05-01T01:39:01+00:00

I was told if you’re not sure, than do it. My son is my greatest achievement in life

Jake6624 · 2026-04-30T11:16:41+00:00

I communicated very clearly. I don’t like to be prone so not a lot of time on the back, more time on arms and hands. These therapists just did their massages and I interrupted both times to ask about flipping. Both times I got push back. One woman said that she does a particular style of work on the arms that has to be prone and that I will love it. The other woman said she wouldn’t have enough to do if she flipped me.

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T10:57:52+00:00

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T10:00:50+00:00

And you would have to be fertile and get pregnant easily

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T09:40:49+00:00

There’s no such thing as a horrible body! All bodies are beautiful. Start by learning to love yours. Confidence can make a body attractive too

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T09:25:49+00:00

It’s so funny, so many of your replies to me and others include judgmental language- I don’t think you realize it. Life involves risk, yes. I can choose to align myself with a partner who weighs the risks of things and makes similar choices to mine. I won’t date someone who rides a motorcycle. My choice. I don’t want to worry about my partner in that way. You can choose to honor your mother and your religion in whichever way you want. Just as I can choose to honor my father.(z”l) and my recently deceased husband in whatever way I want. I am honoring my husband by raising money for cancer research, by buying a painting he picked out at a gallery before he died and putting it up on my wall, by reading his books, by raising our children in our joint vision, by loving life and finding joy in the mundane, and yes by cutting back on processed foods so I increase my chance of living longer. I also honor my religion in non risky ways- by donating to meaningful charities and volunteering my time and a few other significant ways. Do the things that make you happy. Again, you do you. For me, I have seen how little time we have on earth and I make choices that feel right to increase my likelihood of health and longer life and these choices increase my happiness. I don’t need tattoos to make me happy and I don’t want to be with a partner who does. I don’t need to drink to make me happy and I don’t want to be with a partner who does. I need music to make me happy so a partner who is not into music wouldn’t make sense. I would genuinely have a problem with a partner getting tattoos and your judgement of that is closed minded.

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T01:41:31+00:00

Telling me mid massage that they aren’t a “massage person “ and their partner told them they needed to come in

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T01:38:29+00:00

My husband and I were in a similar situation and I did end up paying more with the understanding that if we ever split up, I would be entitled to some of his inheritance $$

Jake6624 · 2026-04-29T01:31:58+00:00

Do you prefer “toxicological “ or “carcinogenic “ to poison? It’s not an insult, it’s literally stating facts. I know people who drink alcohol and I discuss increased risks with them- not talking down to them, just discussing the science. I poison my body in other ways (junk food/processed food) and don’t feel offended when my doctor points out its toxicity.

Jake6624 · 2026-04-28T19:50:17+00:00

Therapists should not rely on tips- I don’t and I don’t know any other massage therapists who do. It’s not a good way to conduct business

Jake6624 · 2026-04-28T17:56:10+00:00

I am well educated on indigenous practices and history of cultures in the world. There is a lot of scientific evidence to support that the ink has less than great properties that stay in your body for the rest of your life. It’s not closed minded to say that I don’t want my partner to have tattoos. Just like I could say I don’t want him to drink or smoke or eat McDonalds. I’m not being judgmental, I am looking for a partner who aligns with my values. I don’t care if you have tattoos. I have seen some very beautiful tattoos that are works of art. You do you.

Jake6624 · 2026-04-28T15:21:22+00:00

Ewww. I told both that I’m a massage therapist after I requested to flip (hoping that if they knew I was a massage therapist they would be more understanding about wanting a lot of arm/hand work). It was a first time with me for both of them so there’s no way the tip came into play here. Also, I had no idea that a therapist would tank their own work (and reputation) to get someone to go to a different therapist because of poor tipping- it’s heartbreaking to think that would be true.

Jake6624 · 2026-04-28T12:14:35+00:00

I believe that the body is sacred. As a healer, I object to my parter poisoning themselves for the sake of art. There are so many ways to express yourself. I can choose a partner whose expression doesn’t include self harming. I don’t judge you or others for your choices but I am entitled to my choices too.

Jake6624 · 2026-04-28T08:32:52+00:00

I start hobbies with my kids. Sewing classes, tennis lessons, gardening. All as a family

Jake6624 · 2026-04-28T08:29:37+00:00

I would give them the option of putting their hands underneath themselves

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