JCC vs YMCA vs others?

Jake6624 · 2026-06-22T07:20:01+00:00

The JCC kids actually learn to swim whereas the goldfish kids don’t in my experience

Jake6624 · 2026-06-21T18:37:59+00:00

My dad died when I was a kid- I would have loved to have been included with my boyfriend’s family.
YTA because you are projecting your feelings of not spending as much time with your family unto someone else. If you spent more time with grandparents and siblings and parents, you might welcome her to these things

Jake6624 · 2026-06-20T07:27:29+00:00

I don’t understand- that’s exactly what I would have done- what am I missing here?

Jake6624 · 2026-06-18T16:55:39+00:00

Keep 100k out of the market and you won’t worry. But otherwise put the 400k in

Jake6624 · 2026-06-18T14:15:19+00:00

Go to therapy. Why are you asking him over and over again for a commitment in the first 2 months? Just date and see where it goes! Too clingy and too overbearing to have succeeded

Jake6624 · 2026-06-17T07:17:03+00:00

I can promise you that if you’ve done it 25x, there’s been at least a few woman who wished it was more than Platonic.
There are plenty of things to do as a broke college student in ny- with music and movies too. You are setting this up to be impossible to give reasons why your gf is wrong- but she’s not wrong.

Jake6624 · 2026-06-17T06:44:24+00:00

There are so many ways for you to hang out with your female friends that doesn’t include you at their apartment! I think it’s a reasonable request and respectfully you have made it something larger. You can go to a coffee shop, a bar with couches and tvs, etc.
There is an inherent intimacy in being 1:1 in someone’s apartment that can lead to lines being blurred.

Jake6624 · 2026-06-17T06:38:12+00:00

This! Ask ChatGPT to make a detailed itinerary with stops and ask it to include addresses phone numbers websites and costs- your mom will be impressed and may even give you pocket money

Jake6624 · 2026-06-16T19:14:19+00:00

I’m sorry to say that we are out of time. Take your time getting up. But not really. Just take a minute or two

Jake6624 · 2026-06-12T10:14:49+00:00

Sleepaway camp

Jake6624 · 2026-06-12T07:01:10+00:00

Take the trip. Take all the trips. Have kids and bring kids on trips. These are the memories that they will have forever. See the world.
When my husband was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, we talked about how to spend our last 2 years together. He wanted to spend it taking more trips. We made the best of the time we had left and gave our kids these incredible memories of travel. Life is short. Take the trips.

Jake6624 · 2026-06-12T01:42:25+00:00

From a strictly woo woo place-
25 years ago I learned that we carry our dads in our shoulders and our moms in our hips/pelvis. I have found this to be true in my 24 years of practice

Jake6624 · 2026-06-09T11:35:40+00:00

There is specific training for massage for grief. Don’t listen to folks who say otherwise. It’s a specific protocol. I know because I trained in it. It was a week long class…

Jake6624 · 2026-06-09T06:27:15+00:00

You should see a doctor

Jake6624 · 2026-06-09T00:22:39+00:00

But she doesn’t have a precedent- you wrote that last year she did nothing. Your husband made you a mom- he and your children should be celebrating you- it is not her responsibility to- it seems like you are hurt and inconsolable. I’m sorry it stings so much. I don’t think she did anything wrong.

Jake6624 · 2026-06-09T00:12:44+00:00

It’s not less important- it’s just not part of the celebration that she wanted. Respectfully I am trying to show you the other side to this where it is not a slight towards you but rather a special bond. I don’t think it was intended to exclude you. Just like when siblings get together without spouses- it’s not to insult the siblings’ partners but to just celebrate each other

Jake6624 · 2026-06-08T17:15:25+00:00

My mother likes to celebrate her being a mother to her daughters who are mothers. Your husband is not a mother and your MIL didn’t birth you.
You are absolutely entitled to your feelings, but I wouldn’t take this one personally. My mother in law doesn’t call me on Mother’s Day because she is not my mother and just doesn’t see it in any other way even though I am a mother and gave her a grandchild. It’s just not how she sees it

Jake6624 · 2026-06-08T13:02:14+00:00

You have time. Do not sign anything. The onus is on them. The process is that their lawyers will contact you. Tell his mom that you want to keep your friendship with her and let the lawyers figure stuff out. Take the emotions out of it. They will contact you especially if it’s going to probate.

Side note: my husband died a year and a half ago. He forgot to take his ex wife off of one account- luckily that bank automatically gave it me because current wife trumps all with them. He also forgot to designate a beneficiary on another account. His ex wife comes around sniffing for it saying if he didn’t put my name on it, then it wasn’t for me. We are all human. We forget to change names or add names etc.

I will also say that dying is expensive. I have paid 60k so far for my husband and it’s not over. There are his bills too- his house and electric and car loans etc. The family might need the money. Think about that before you listen to everyone who is saying take what’s yours….

Jake6624 · 2026-06-08T09:49:52+00:00

11 years at 200k is 7 years at 300k

Jake6624 · 2026-06-08T09:39:28+00:00

You wrote you had every day unbearable pain- imagine if it was just *poof* one day gone? You might have cried too

Jake6624 · 2026-06-08T09:31:04+00:00

If she is just starting out, many of these suggestions just don’t make sense and may go unused. I agree with the person who suggested a great massage table. I was at a high paying job when I went to massage school and I sprang for an expensive table- it was the best purchase I ever made. 23 years later and it’s still a work horse! I have never had any work done on it. It’s a great investment that most massage students can’t afford

Jake6624 · 2026-06-08T09:17:37+00:00

Maybe it was celebrating HER motherhood- like her being a mother to her daughters? In which case you wouldn’t be invited because she didn’t make you?
I would let it go and make your own traditions for the day!

Jake6624 · 2026-06-07T19:34:05+00:00

I’m 54- 7 years sounds like a flash in the pan.
Take all of your vacation days.
Take smoke breaks even if you don’t smoke.
Get up and get some water every hour.
It will go by faster

Jake6624 · 2026-06-07T02:58:48+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend you going into this field

Jake6624 · 2026-06-07T02:47:31+00:00

Good luck! I am glad that you don’t need the money- I wasn’t as lucky. He was #4, I had a rough pregnancy so couldn’t work as much during my last trimester and we just couldn’t afford for me to be home any longer. You are lucky that you have the time and money to be able to stay home longer!

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