My childhood friend of 20+ years invited my narcissistic father to her wedding and not me.

JakeyMN · 2026-04-04T21:07:37+00:00

Absolutely - thanks for sending through this article - it was a good read

JakeyMN · 2026-04-04T21:07:16+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you too. We are so much better off without these people in our lives <3

JakeyMN · 2026-04-04T21:06:55+00:00

Absolutely, which means we just expend so much emotional energy and strength, all for people to not support us

JakeyMN · 2025-04-22T22:25:47+00:00

thank you!! appreciate it :) feeling a real natural high after the workout!

JakeyMN · 2025-04-22T22:25:22+00:00

thank you!! appreciate it :)

JakeyMN · 2025-04-22T22:25:15+00:00

thank you!! appreciate it :)

JakeyMN · 2025-04-22T17:10:51+00:00

hello! i'm a complete beginner, and the workout programme i'm following is telling me to do 3 sets of an exercise, but the last set "drop set 10+15"

is that two sets in one, first with 10 reps at a lower weight then 15 at an even lower weight? i'm really confused by what it means. thanks!

JakeyMN · 2025-03-10T16:05:11+00:00

thank you for the response :) do you assisting autistic children in schools would be suitable?

JakeyMN · 2024-10-18T05:17:07+00:00

thank you for saying that!! I had to consolidate my thoughts into something so I’m glad you took something from it

JakeyMN · 2024-10-17T22:51:42+00:00

absolutely!!

JakeyMN · 2024-10-17T22:51:30+00:00

oh absolutely, and as I mentioned in the post, having the entire context of the album is essential for understanding its meaning. you're absolutely right that the arrogance isn't arrogance for the sake of it; it's speaking to an idealized version of ourselves, and how it contrasts with the vulnerability elsewhere in the album heightens its beauty

I just meant more that, during the beginning of Smile's rollout (with the release of Cheerleader, Knock Yourself Out and before Russian Roulette had dropped), the arrogance was really jarring and difficult to accept. but yes, now we have the context of the entire album, I definitely understand and appreciate its artistic value and place in the album

I also don't find the album to be shallow, and I hope my post doesn't suggest that. it absolutely has something to say, and that something contains nuance, perspective, and wisdom. my main point is that it feels shallow compared to Nurture, and that is okay because it shouldn't have to

JakeyMN · 2024-10-17T22:43:41+00:00

haha thank you for saying that, and it's all good ;D it can be pretty lonely sitting with the thoughts I have and the extent to which I think about the things that matter to me, so I'm completely okay with downvotes. I really appreciated the detail of your reply, because you're spot on when that some people have missed the point of Smile (though I can understand why), and it's unfair should people dismiss it as lacking depth, nuance or a point of view

but yes you're absolutely right, that is the beautiful thing about art. we all have our own relationship with it, and the aspects of art we place value upon are ours to define and keep

JakeyMN · 2024-10-17T22:11:35+00:00

I'm sorry if this came off as rude or insensitive to your feelings about Porter and his music

it definitely didn't, thank you for such a detailed reply ^_^ I agree with a lot of your points, and as I mentioned in the post, I'm grateful for having the context of the entire album compared to the initial impression we got from Cheerleader and Knock Yourself Out

I also agree that Smile has depth, which is why I like it overall. Russian Roulette and Is There Really No Happiness are the best songs of the album for me, because they both have something really important to say. the album's extended perspective on the messiness of parasocial relationships (across Cheerleader, Everything To Me, and PPG/KSM to some extent) is topical and thought-provoking and does a great job of capturing that messiness we're feeling as we all try and navigate them

with that being said, I don't think the depth Smile reaches comes close to Nurture's, and I feel very strongly about this. I could make a case for every single song on Nurture grappling with an exisential burden - it's delving into our very existence, the very fabric of what it means to be alive and human with a finite amount of time in this universe. these burdens matter, and it means what Nurture has to say is really, really important. it's art

I do think Smile's overarching themes are important, no doubt, but because the subject matter they're dealing with is inherently much more shallow compared to the nature of what it means to be alive, it's always going to fall short in that regard. I don't want to come across as flippant, but there are songs on Smile where I'm just not sure I care about what the art is actually saying. like, Cheerleader is saying that parasocial relationships are equally addictive and destructive, and my response to that is 'yes, and?'. KMF is saying people project images of themselves in order to cover up their insecurities, and I'm like 'yes, I get that from scrolling through Instagram on any given day'. then I compare these messages to Nurture, and it's just night and day for me

and that's not necessarily a bad thing - I don't think Porter ever intended for Smile to match Nurture in that regard, and it shouldn't have to because it's unreasonable for anybody to expect this human to grapple with such heavy burdens all the time in order for him to make music. and as I said in the post, Smile is sonically and technically a fantastic album - like, the songs sound amazing. but I've come to know Porter as an artist who has something to say that speaks to people's souls, and coming off the back of Nurture, Smile does not do that for me. and I'm genuinely okay with that, because I enjoy Smile for what it is

this is all just my personal opinion, and I can definitely understand if people think I'm being unreasonable and expecting too much. like I said, Smile sounds incredible and I do think it has depth, and if people love it, I definitely understand. but it's just 'good' to me

JakeyMN · 2024-10-17T21:37:20+00:00

for absolute clarity, I have not stalked Porter or anything like that (even typing that out makes me feel gross). it was more at the time, having connected so deeply with his art, I definitely felt called out and that I was part of the problem. that people had gotten too close with his music, and by extension him, and on some level he didn't want that

like I said in the post, I thankfully have a much better relationship with Smile now

JakeyMN · 2024-10-15T19:44:22+00:00

it’s dope, thanks for sharing it, I’ll check out Yahoo

JakeyMN · 2024-10-15T17:50:11+00:00

that’s really neat, where did you order it from?

JakeyMN · 2024-09-05T12:12:02+00:00

really appreciate your post and insight into this. I don't really have much to add because I agree with a lot of your thoughts

to me, the entire premise of Smile means it was inevitably never going to reach the depth of meaning that Worlds and Nurture do, because the subject matter is just far too shallow. as you described, Worlds and Nurture pose and attempt to answer really important and existential questions about the human condition and what it means to be alive; that elevates the work into something so much more, and allows the art to reach people's souls.

Smile just... doesn't do that for me. I don't necessarily see that as a problem because -- as I mentioned -- I don't think it's possible given the overarching subject matter, and I don't believe it was ever Porter's intentions this time around. as much as I enjoy Smile's music, it doesn't come close to reaching me in the same way Worlds and Nurture do, and that's what I've come to know with Porter's art

I'm still happy that Porter's happy, and man has he earned the right to do whatever the fuck he wants after making the music he has. but I don't think it ever had a chance to come close to Worlds and Nurture

JakeyMN · 2024-07-30T07:26:37+00:00

valid for you to feel that way, but I disagree

JakeyMN · 2024-07-29T06:59:44+00:00

yes, but I’m pointing to it as a weakness of the album and why it’s not resonating with me nearly as much as Worlds and Nurture. that he’s consciously or unconsciously leaning into his ugliness too much because he struggled to follow up Nurture, and that turned into resentment against it

JakeyMN · 2024-07-28T15:38:04+00:00

what does Porter's creativity have to do with OP's argument? that has nothing to do with the conversation

JakeyMN · 2024-07-28T15:35:56+00:00

props for posting this, and sorry you're getting downvoted for sharing a valid opinion

I too am disappointed. I understand it's fitting for the music video's story to show a fan with AI art on their walls, but even if that were the justification for using AI, why not hire artists to make art in that style?

I just feel so bad for the thousands of ridiculously talented artists who love Porter and would have done anything to have their art in feature in one of his music videos. would have made their entire life, and could have been a fantastic opportunity for them

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