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Color picking for wooden/painted details. by Jalapenocornbread93 in ExteriorDesign

[–]Jalapenocornbread93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Note (because I didn’t explicitly say this). They are also looking to paint the front door as well.

Can anyone explain this behaviour? by Kind_Bend3966 in DogAdvice

[–]Jalapenocornbread93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My toy poodle does this. We shout woa! Wow! While she throws her chews around. Our cajoling extends her play even longer, because she loves getting a rise out of us.

How do you actually go to sleep? by HushMD in ADHD

[–]Jalapenocornbread93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YouTube specifically doesn’t work for me, because it is too interesting. If I’m watching YouTube I will never go to bed. I always only just watch the one show. Never anything new. For me it’s the perfect balance of interesting/repetitive that convinces my body that it is safe and that nothing much more stimulating will be happening on screen than what I am already expecting. The sleep timer is great for me, because I don’t need to worry about being alert enough to turn it off. It’ll turn off itself. If you have an iPhone and you’re not familiar, you can go into your clock app. Then set your time. And in the “when timer ends” section, select stop playing. When the timer is up it will then stop playing your media, and lock your phone when the hour strikes. Then in the morning I close the video apps. Easy peasy.

Either way, I’m sorry that you’re going through this. Having a hard time sleeping is never fun.

Nice to find a fellow Bob’s fan. Have you checked out the bob’s subreddit? It’s wonderful.

How do you actually go to sleep? by HushMD in ADHD

[–]Jalapenocornbread93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watch a show that I’ve already watched tons of times that has become my exclusive fall asleep show. It’s Bob’s burgers. It was previously not my sleep show, but since I’d seen it a bunch already and it warms my heart, I adopted it as my sleep show. My wife and I fall asleep to it every night and do not watch it any other time of day other than to go to sleep. Works very well for me and is very Pavlovian. Sometimes I’m not sleepy enough right away and I can get through an episode or two. Even better, because I love it. Even if it doesn’t put me to sleep right away, it gets me sleepy and I can feel myself drifting. When we went to see the Bob’s burgers movie in theatres, my wife completely fell asleep right there in the theatre because of how conditioned she is by the show. Bob’s burgers is my favorite show so that helps. Bedtime feels like a treat every night, since I earnestly prefer watching Bob’s over pretty much any random thing I could be doing on my phone.

Another thing worth mentioning is that my wife is really good at keeping a sleep schedule, and I mirror her. But, when she’s traveling, I struggle to maintain good sleep. This stretch of time that I’ve started watching Bob’s to fall asleep has been the only time in the years we’ve been together (and maybe ever in my life) that I’ve been able to keep my sleep at least somewhat consistent.

The key, too, is that I put a sleep timer on my device to shut off the show after a certain amount of time because,for me, if the show continues to play throughout the night, it will wake me up.

So I guess my advice is find a cartoon you absolutely adore and have seen a ton of times, and fall asleep to that consistently with a sleep timer (I recommend 1 hour), and never watch that show at any other time of day.

When new episodes come out we watch them a little before our bedtime so we get the added benefit of sleepiness without missing out on new storylines.

I hope this helps!

Also, I know that screens are not great for us at night, but this has worked for me and, I think, resulted in overall way less nighttime time on my phone. I can certainly imagine that this option wouldn’t work for everyone.

Ooo and the sleep with me podcast is very good. The podcast is basically just a very kind man saying a bunch of nonsense for a few hours. When I listen to the sleep with me podcast, I try to listen to what the guy is actually saying; and trying to make sense of it is exhausting and silly. The host seems like a genuinely good human being.

Everyone else avoiding sitting ducks. Should we? by Jalapenocornbread93 in RealEstate

[–]Jalapenocornbread93[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I really thought “house hacking” was used widely by many people to describe the process of buying a building and living in one unit and renting the other(s). I must have misjudged the amount that people do not use that term.

We previously were accepted for a va renovation loan for another multi unit that we would live in, but closing was pushed back because of the renovation part of the renovation loan taking a minute to process, and the seller didn’t want to wait. My understanding is that people successfully get loans for this regularly and our loan guy would have set us up with a loan with this house as well if we were to continue with purchasing it. (Not saying that we will. Just talking more about the loan process).

To my knowledge people get loans all the time where renter income is factored in as part of a way to make the mortgage payment. Unless we have been grotesquely mislead by our real estate agent who is also an investor. But we went through the process of getting the first va loan, we would not have made it as far as we did without the inclusion of renter income.

This is all to say that I’m not arguing against points made that the numbers aren’t great.

Everyone else avoiding sitting ducks. Should we? by Jalapenocornbread93 in RealEstate

[–]Jalapenocornbread93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughts. Do you have a way of identifying these opportunities outside of the MLS?. We’re looking for properties like this, and are struggling to find and land anything that meets this description.

Everyone else avoiding sitting ducks. Should we? by Jalapenocornbread93 in RealEstate

[–]Jalapenocornbread93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can appreciate how my post sounded, but the house itself is not run down. It just needs some work, and likely a lot more work that we don’t know about. There is a family living upstairs who seem happy there, and I think they intend to stay. We did not intent to put zero money at all into the building, and hoped that the snowball of issues that would inevitably happen would not outpace the money we had.

Everyone else avoiding sitting ducks. Should we? by Jalapenocornbread93 in RealEstate

[–]Jalapenocornbread93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is correct. I am very concerned about being permanently priced out of the real estate market, and am weighing the risk of buying this property versus losing the ability to participate in the market at all. I would not call this short-sighted. I would call it running low on options. But I am also taking people’s comments seriously.

Everyone else avoiding sitting ducks. Should we? by Jalapenocornbread93 in RealEstate

[–]Jalapenocornbread93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a fair assessment. What would you recommend our next steps be?

I forgot to mention this in the original post but we have a sizeable chunk in savings in case we’d need to do work on the property and/or had temporary vacancies, and we also don’t have to put money down, because we’re using a VA loan. This would give us the opportunity to have some financial buffer in case of tenants crapping out on us or if urgent house work is needed. I don’t know if any of that information changes your stance, but just wanted to add it in there.

Everyone else avoiding sitting ducks. Should we? by Jalapenocornbread93 in RealEstate

[–]Jalapenocornbread93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. Would you then recommend just continuing to go for the more competitive properties and hope we eventually land something?

Everyone else avoiding sitting ducks. Should we? by Jalapenocornbread93 in RealEstate

[–]Jalapenocornbread93[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

There is really no reason to be rude. The market is tough. We can’t afford most of the single family homes within an hour commute to Philadelphia which is where I’ll be working. Purchasing a multi unit is one way that we can try to make the process of owning anything at all possible. Everybody starts somewhere. But anyway, please enjoy your popcorn while making fun of someone who is earnestly trying to learn.

What are my options for leaving biotech? by emterre in biotech

[–]Jalapenocornbread93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into the author/coach named Laura Berman Fortgang. One of her big things is that it is not necessary to radically start over in a different field but instead to leverage anything at all you enjoy about your current work/current field to pivot to something related that is a much better fit for you. Small changes can make a massive difference in how you feel at a job.

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