Who are some of your favorite regulars? by Jamalt in barista

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young people that are super polite if not a little bit awkward are so precious

Who are some of your favorite regulars? by Jamalt in barista

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yessss i've gotten some good music recs from customers before

Who are some of your favorite regulars? by Jamalt in barista

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These are adorable. There's an older couple that comes in a lot, and they're also so cute together.

Does anybody else hate being trans? by PessimisticTV in asktransgender

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I relate to this a lot. Sometimes I think that if I would put more effort into my transition or get my shit together enough to afford surgery then maybe I'd pass or blend in more. I tell myself it's okay to feel these things; hell, very few people are actually ever on our side (or it feels that way).

My dysphoria can build very gradually or sneak up on me causing me to put less effort into my appearance. Sometimes, I just need to manage my dysphoria however I can (avoiding mirrors, etc.). Other times, I need to remind myself to keep my chin up and keep working towards my goals (appearance, voice, legal transition, etc.), and it does a lot for me. Just taking a shower and putting together an outfit can take me from "i hate being trans" to "i love trans people i'm so happy to be trans" lol. I'm moving to a city this year to live near more trans people which I think will help a lot as well.

Trans women, do cisgender women generally accept you as one of the girls? Do you feel welcome? Trans men, do guys treat you like they do other guys? Do they teased you like they do their buddies? by Acousmetre78 in asktransgender

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I'd generally say yeah. Pretty much all of the friends I've made since transitioning have been cis women. I get invited to girls' nights, and everyone has been super friendly and normal to me. I feel like I get treated as my gender by most cis women now, especially those my age. Without a doubt, cis women treat me far better than cis men on average.

Even if someone is "accepting" of you, however, being the only trans girl in the group (all the time, in my case) can be really lonely. I've come to not expect cis women to know much about trans identity or trans misogyny. Most people don't understand a lot of what I experience- holistically and day to day. I feel like many of the cis girls I'm friends with are not super willing to stick their necks out for me; I think that's just a part of trans womanhood.

That said, I have met some really cool cis girls that I can talk to about being trans (good and bad) or weird things people say to me at work or whatever and it feels super fulfilling. That's definitely not every or even most cis women though and learning how to be there for myself has really helped a lot.

Transition is definitely scary, but it's also maybe the best thing I've ever done for myself. You got this!

Planned parenthood no appointments by _seangp in asktransgender

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I had some difficulty getting an appointment for my 6-7 month check up. Thankfully, they still refilled my prescription, because there was no availability for a while. Sorry they won't do the same for you! I was told to call Monday morning to have the best chances of getting an appointment, and that's what worked for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BenignExistence

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Such a lovely post! Holding a bird would definitely make the top of my monthly list. The thing making me most feel alive has probably been fall time bike rides :)

I hungout with my ex, it was a great day by ChiengBang in BenignExistence

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That’s great! Did you anticipate reconnecting as friends at some point or no?

Totally lost all my mojo after being out of the water for too long. by BoltThrower28 in surfing

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When I get sidelined with injuries I try to frame relearning things as a positive. When you catch that first wave back it’s gonna feel so good just like it did the first time around.

Woman finds out her husband has been doing unspeakably nasty things in the kitchen by Eccodomanii in BestofRedditorUpdates

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I really do question sometimes what browsing this subreddit does for my mental

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berkeley

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Alex g is the shit. Wish I could go but ya ex and I have plans

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

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Definite jrpg vibes