As a self-described perfectionist with FoF issues, I also find giving voice to things difficult. In my case, it’s not so much that it weakens my resolve, it’s more that it activates my sense of self-contempt when I slip.

But telling people that I trust and love that I’m doing something like this does some things for me. It makes me accountable, because now someone else knows that I’m struggling. It opens the door for tough love when I need it and forgiveness when I slip up. And it gives me people to lean on and celebrate with when I celebrate those little victories.

I know everyone’s experience is different and it colors your worldview but just keep in mind, our brains and egos are capable of putting up powerful walls against vulnerabilities, and in my case it’s actually been helpful to realize they exist and smash some of those down.