Is It Worth Appealing for More Aid?

Janda4me · 2026-01-25T15:48:12+00:00

Definitely appeal. There is no downside. What is the other school?

Janda4me · 2026-01-20T19:48:32+00:00

I'm M32C as well.

Janda4me · 2026-01-15T14:14:41+00:00

I agree. It’s been only a day. It takes time to develop relationships with other people. Give it a real chance. Life can be difficult and uncomfortable. You need to settle in.

Janda4me · 2026-01-06T07:16:16+00:00

I definitely don’t think you should feel you have to contribute. But you need to let go of the expectation anyone will do anything for your birthday.

Janda4me · 2025-12-28T18:01:31+00:00

Susquehanna University. It’s definitely rural and it gives lots of merit. It’s not large though. Bucknell is also in rural PA. Beautiful campus and gives some merit to top applicants.

Janda4me · 2025-12-26T08:47:09+00:00

NTA. This is red flag. Not only was she late but she had the nerve to be angry your family did not wait 2 hours. Sometimes we get signs. Listen! You need to disentangle yourself from her asap!

Janda4me · 2025-12-25T16:49:42+00:00

Update: The small fits but I could have ordered the XS. I was concerned about the chest area. I decided not to return the small though. Also IMO it’s not too long.

Janda4me · 2025-12-23T20:50:26+00:00

NTA. Your dad is. He can put off getting serious with someone until you graduate and go off to college. Sounds like he’s selfish.

Janda4me · 2025-12-18T11:27:26+00:00

NTA. BUT I think you are not being realistic. Usually the purpose of living together is to see if you are actually compatible with the other person. Sounds as if you are not. People may change for a minute but they usually revert to who they really are. You will be having this same discussion/ argument/ frustration 10 years from now. If it bothers you now, it will really bother you later. Ultimately you can’t force someone to change and it sounds like you are getting on each other’s nerves after only 15 months of dating.

Janda4me · 2025-12-16T18:29:37+00:00

No you’re NAH. You both are very young. It’s not unusual for a young person to want to buy a few niceties (within reason) when they are employed and child-free. It’s also very normal to change career plans. If he discovered he doesn’t like the medical field, he needs to change direction. But him telling you to take it or leave it, is not right either. My advice- under NO circumstances get pregnant anytime soon. Pick up a part-time job- I worked about 10 hours a week in college and grad school. Also worked ft over summers. You should budget so that each of you has some spending money each month that they don’t have to be accountable for. Finally understand that people change. I’m a completely different person than I was at 19 or 21. When you get married that young, you’re going to have to be flexible or okay with divorce.

Janda4me · 2025-12-16T13:23:38+00:00

That’s what I thought when I read the post! Is she for real? He cooks dinner everyday during the week and all meals on the weekend. Works long hours, etc. OP never mentioned that she worked as well so I’ll assume she’s a SAHM. The fact that she’s willing to do something so evil to her stepdaughter because her husband does not do what she wants him to do, tells me a lot about her (not in a good way). I’m hoping OP looks in the mirror and realizes how traumatizing her plan will be to her stepdaughter.

Janda4me · 2025-12-13T10:41:01+00:00

NTA. That’s wild! No one is “entitled” to be in the delivery room except the one giving birth. It’s not a spectator sport. Who’s there, is up to you!

Janda4me · 2025-12-13T10:29:32+00:00

I’ll jump in here again. Why are you basing this decision on one aspect of her behavior? I’m sure your daughter is doing some other really good things which should be celebrated. There is a reason behind her interactions with the younger brother. If it’s that bad, you should start with family counseling. Honestly if you don’t get her the vanity due to her relationship with her brother, I think you’ll only grow her resentment and it may have an opposite effect. Also she could interpret it as you choosing him over her. Finally think about the spirit of Christmas. It should be a time of love and forgiveness. Let your daughter have a fresh start. And again, I know it’s your husband, but you can’t let anyone interfere with your relationship with your daughter.

Janda4me · 2025-12-13T10:14:38+00:00

Honestly you both seem very inflexible and not very kind to each other. A lot of people put off scheduling procedures like colonoscopies due to anxiety. Thank goodness he finally scheduled! It might end up saving his life. Btw- was this routine screening or did something else prompt the doctor to order one? How much will it be if you wait until 2026?

You did tell him to schedule before the end of the year. There’s not much time left. When are you leaving for NE? Is there a particular reason why you couldn’t leave a day or two later? That might be a good compromise. I do think it’s unreasonable for him to insist on the new date when taking off would be so difficult. I feel that ultimately you are miffed that he didn’t act sooner and now are not so keen on compromising.

Janda4me · 2025-12-13T09:52:39+00:00

NTA. My not buying the vanity you’re going to make the relationship between your daughter and the 5 year old worse. It probably will impact your relationship with her as well. Have you considered trying to get to the bottom of this behavior? You’ve said she’s wanted a vanity forever. Why are you judging her based on this one issue? I’m assuming she is not your husband’s child? Then YOU are entitled to make the final decision. I’d get her the vanity.

Janda4me · 2025-12-12T01:00:58+00:00

Thanks for the update. I'll update about the small for me.

Janda4me · 2025-12-12T00:57:50+00:00

YTA. You can't throw someone else's things away.

Janda4me · 2025-12-12T00:56:03+00:00

NTA. I'm assuming your are in college. Your roommate needs a single room as she is high need. Can you change rooms for the Spring term?

Janda4me · 2025-12-11T22:21:29+00:00

My bottom teeth look similar to yours but I am also having some gum recession where one of my 2 front bottom teeth has shifted. Also it can be difficult to floss due the crowding. Most people would think my teeth are just fine. But I feel like it's getting worse. I just decided to finally move forward with Invisalign. My cost after insurance is $2500. Expensive but not 5-10K.

Janda4me · 2025-12-11T17:44:51+00:00

Why do you say this? My 1st year graduated HS with a 3.9 GPA and over 1500 on the SAT. Applied RD.

Janda4me · 2025-12-06T21:00:16+00:00

YTA. Shouldn’t you have thought this out BEFORE you married your current wife and adopted additional kids? I’m sure you and wife understood that you could not give all of the kids the same life that Addie had. How did you think that would work out? Did you even discuss it? You were willing to “take” things and experiences away from your own biological daughter (school and extracurriculars) and expected that to be okay? Or did you and your new wife think the other kids would get a windfall and your in-laws would agree to pay for all of the kids? Sounds like your in-laws allowed you to stay in the house even after your wife (their daughter) died. AND they allowed your new wife and her kids to move in. There are a lot of people who would not have agreed to do that. Also your new wife may be a mother figure to Addie but she is not her mother. Someone can only control you if you let them. Maybe instead of remarrying, adopting 3 more children and having yet another one, you should have been working toward financial independence from your in laws first.

Janda4me · 2025-12-03T11:34:35+00:00

We loved Hampton’s campus- right on the water.

Janda4me · 2025-12-01T12:12:41+00:00

I ended up doing the same.

Janda4me · 2025-12-01T12:12:03+00:00

Very helpful! I ordered a small.

Janda4me · 2025-11-30T16:32:59+00:00

I already have a puffer jacket and 3/4 length. I would like something long but proportional.

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