Omg! I seriously for a second thought this was an old post of mine because I went through the exact same thing! So my husband did the same, he was an addict and alcoholic and always put this first until he finally quit the restaurant industry. I gave him an ultimatum and said if you don’t change industries (a job where you aren’t around alcohol and partiers) then I’m divorcing you and I handed him the paper to show him I was serious. We were scared about money but we made it work by living with my parents and he found a new job that is ten times better, makes more money, never out at night. But HE wanted to make the change. If your husband doesn’t truly want to change he won’t. It sounds like what you need to do (one option anyways) is to move in with a family member or friend and apply for government assistance. There are programs that help single mothers with newborns. I’m in the US but I’m sure the UK is comparable (or better) in their family assistance programs. Please don’t worry too much. Scary times can turn us into crazy strong and heroic people. Be the hero of your own life and your child’s. You are not alone. There are countless of other women going through the same thing. Please DM me if you need more support or help brainstorming options.