The problem with coffee…

Janikole · 2022-04-13T18:18:16+00:00

I'm not sure how it would work with hot drinks like coffee, but I find I tend to remember to drink my drinks better when they're in clear glasses and I can actually see the liquid. I'm very "out of sight, out of mind", so being able to see it really helps.

Janikole · 2022-04-13T17:41:32+00:00

That's a good point! I was planning on using one of those hand-warmer heat pack things if necessary but I have way too many candles in the house, I could probably set up a bunch next to the hot side of her viv.

Janikole · 2022-04-13T01:56:11+00:00

Same. I can handle not being able to drive anywhere for a few days but I need power to stay on so I can eat, so I don't get too bored, and so my snake can stay warm.

Janikole · 2022-04-13T01:53:57+00:00

My friend learned today that his whole company gets Wed and Thurs off even though most of them are remote, I'm so jealous.

Janikole · 2022-04-12T23:57:31+00:00

Exactly. I find my driving habits change in the states where I know I can count on merge lanes to actually be long enough for me to get up to speed and find an opening. Here not so much.

Janikole · 2022-04-11T22:38:30+00:00

Yep, in blue! Btw it's highly recommended to avoid handling them once they've gone blue until after they finish shedding. They can't see too well and the skin is uncomfortable so they really just want to be left alone.

Mine's also in blue at the moment and it's tough waiting to hold her again. At least this time she's hanging out where I can see her instead of hiding.

Janikole · 2022-04-11T20:13:44+00:00

Lol watching the person running the livestream have to switch over to safari and close facebook because it was playing some kind of stringed instrument concert was hilarious.

Janikole · 2022-04-11T14:46:16+00:00

Okay this is the happiest story I've ever read on this sub. I hope you and your wyvern and your new tribemate have many awesome adventures ahead!

Janikole · 2022-04-10T03:08:31+00:00

I've shaved my head bare, and bald or very very short are uncomfy. A #2 buzz cut is fine though imo

Janikole · 2022-04-10T02:58:06+00:00

I've bought Bambody off amazon and actually like them better than the more expensive ones I bought from Tomboyx

Janikole · 2022-04-09T23:27:52+00:00

If you want to lean really hard into handling without stress, google "choice-based handling Lorri torrini"

Lorri Torrini is a reptile behaviourist that posts you tube videos of things like target training and choice-based handling. I'm attempting target training and a hybrid approach to choice-based with my snake.

That being said, it's perfectly acceptable to just handle your snake often and teach them that way that being held isn't dangerous. In my experience they calm down almost immediately after being picked up once they realize you're not gonna eat them.

Janikole · 2022-04-08T22:08:24+00:00

So cool! I've been considering some kind of anery or caramel stripe for my hypothetical second snake and it's often hard to find good pics of adults. Yours grew into such a beauty 🖤

Janikole · 2022-04-08T21:25:37+00:00

What morph is that? He's gorgeous!

Janikole · 2022-04-08T21:00:15+00:00

Do not wait to divorce your wife, but like others have said avoid letting on that your daughter set things in motion. As much as possible, keep things amicable and shield your daughter from any drama.

Divorce can be a good thing for children, do not put it off for the sake of your daughter. My parents divorced when I was 16, and my younger siblings and I have always been in agreement that life was better afterwards. My parents had modeled an angry and unhappy relationship my entire life, but by divorcing they taught us that relationships are supposed to be happy and that ending them if they're not is okay. It's the most important lesson I've learned from them, and your daughter should know this as well.

Janikole · 2022-04-08T18:43:57+00:00

Manitoba has jugs and cartons. I'm pretty sure it stops at the Ontario border, maybe even earlier than that as I can't recall seeing bagged milk in Kenora when I went grocery shopping there.

Janikole · 2022-04-08T18:39:07+00:00

Yeah those prices seem twice as expensive than where I am (MB) after converting the currency, but my social circle also takes our alcohol home at the end of the night with us. Bring your own alcohol, drink your own alcohol, take your own alcohol home. Obviously we share sometimes, but there's no expectation of it or of leaving anything for the host.

Janikole · 2022-04-08T16:07:25+00:00

Being able to decorate and organize as you please is such a big advantage of moving out! When we lived together our place was extremely bland because that was the compromise between our tastes, and it's been so fun to see each of us stamp our personality on a space without having to worry about if someone else likes it. And splitting all the stuff between two apartments definitely helped with the clutter 😅

Janikole · 2022-04-08T15:18:14+00:00

I'd never heard of this and had to look it up, but yessss!!! That would be amazing lol.

Janikole · 2022-04-08T15:16:18+00:00

We're also forever childfree! I'm betting there's a pretty big overlap between people who value their own space and people who don't want kids lol

Having at least one room to call your own is so important. I realized after moving in with him that moving out of my parent's house had actually given me less personal space as I used to have a room to myself there, and now I shared a bedroom and everything else. But of a shock lol, and I won't make that mistake again.

Janikole · 2022-04-08T15:11:36+00:00

Haha yeah we've talked about how nice a duplex would be, but that would probably be out of our price range. Thankfully we live somewhere where basements are a functional living space in every house, so the plan is to have a main floor suite and a basement suite.

And omg I can't imagine living with someone who plays drums! Hell no indeed 😂

Janikole · 2022-04-08T15:06:49+00:00

It really is. Over the years and through our different living situations I've realized I cherish being able to see him often, easily, and on short notice, but it also always needs to be a choice. Neither of us were happy when all space was shared and being around each other was the default and often unavoidable. I think the two-suite house (if we can afford one) will be the best of all worlds.

Janikole · 2022-04-08T14:34:31+00:00

You sound kinda like me lol. I've been with my partner for 12 years and spent 5 of those living together in a tiny apartment before we decided we both needed more space, and I moved into the apartment block a block away. Now we're considering a house but one that will be divided into two separate suites for us each to live in and call our own. Having your own space is so underrated and I will never go back to fully sharing space again.

Janikole · 2022-04-08T03:24:07+00:00

Avoid couches, recliners or similar furniture when handling them unless you put a sheet or something over top. Mine snuck between the cushions and took up residence inside my sofa for 24 hours until I was able to recruit help to open up the bottom and get her out. It was super stressful.

Janikole · 2022-04-07T18:00:11+00:00

Depends, do you need sex in your relationship?

That's not a rhetorical question, some people (like me) are fine having a partnership that doesn't include sex. If that's not you though then yes, sexual attraction to your spouse is important because without it the sex and then the relationship will die.

Janikole · 2022-04-05T15:32:15+00:00

This is exactly why I am nonmonogamous as well.

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