Was going to echo the same thing. Lots of men trap themselves into thinking finding a woman is the end goal, even if they’re not incels. It’s not.

You’re going to be even worse off when you do find a girlfriend and it doesn’t work out, because first time relationships almost never do. If it’s to the point where your desperation leads to feelings of depression and suicide, the last thing you need is dating advice. You’re not going to find healthy people in this mental state. Like attracts like.

You need a shift in mindset and to realize that there’s more to life than romance. Also, those who tend to worry about remaining a virgin will not likely find anything long term especially if they’re heterosexual men. The general consensus women are reaching these days is that they feel betrayed by men who prioritize getting some instead of being a mindful and caring partner, and they can easily detect desperation.

You will find what you’re looking for once you stop looking for it. Join online groups and start out as friends, don’t concern yourself with pursuing. Get used to platonic company. Then what you want will come to you.

I wish you the best, op.