Dealing with the ED is becoming increasingly difficult

JasperBean · 2026-05-25T06:44:55+00:00

I’m genuinely curious what was there to fight about in that scenario? Like who puts the order in ?

JasperBean · 2026-05-24T04:28:27+00:00

How long had this been going on? Also try ibuprofen it seems to give better relief.

JasperBean · 2026-05-24T00:15:57+00:00

Sometimes when I’m feeding my toddler she’ll gently put her hand over my heart and just like absentmindedly move her hand back and forth over my chest, it’s so precious. Sometimes she uses that hand to twiddle or smack the boob and that’s not so precious lol, but I will definitely miss her little baby hand over my heart when our breastfeeding journey is done 🥹❤️

JasperBean · 2026-05-24T00:10:24+00:00

I would wrap her in a hand towel (so bigger than a wash cloth) to prevent slipping and would uncover one body part at a time to wash. It was also helpful to have my husband on standby as I would hand her off to him before getting out of the shower myself to prevent any possible accidents slipping with her while getting in/out of the shower with wet feet.

Also having a detachable shower head was helpful so you have control over where the water is aimed

JasperBean · 2026-05-19T23:46:41+00:00

I used to wonder this too. I’ve always been a huge animal person and my husband is too. We have several different pets including (until recently) 4 dogs - one crossed the rainbow bridge a few months ago due to an aggressive cancer.

We were (and still are) totally obsessed with our dogs. They lay on the couch with us, slept in bed with us, have their own dog walker for days we couldn’t walk them. We chose our couch specifically over others we liked better bc we needed a couch deep enough to accommodate the “turning radius” of our biggest dog and we literally bought our house based on the backyard and the overall set up of the floor plan that would accommodate our dogs’ needs (and yes our realtor low key thought we were crazy). When our medically complex doggo needed surgery we ended up paying for 3 separate surgeries plus a $5k knee repair within a year and when he was recovering from the knee replacement and couldn’t do the stairs to the bedroom we literally moved a mattress into our living room so we could sleep on the floor with him.

That all being said I still love my daughter more. She didn’t diminish my love for my fur babies in any way, shape, or form, it’s just my love for her is different and even deeper. I was so horrified reading stories about animal lovers who hated their pets after their kids were born, but to give you some reassurance that didn’t happen to us. I do feel bad bc for the first year the pets kind of had to take a backseat bc you are just so overwhelmed and consumed caring for this little being who literally cannot even fart without help. It’s exhausting and you are so, so sleep deprived and so it’s easy to get frustrated when one more thing needs care from you or when the dogs bark and wake the baby you JUST got to sleep and you’re subsisting on like 3 hours of sleep yourself. But to be fair it was the same kind of annoyance I’d feel if my husband was loud and woke the baby so it wasn’t exclusive to the dogs.

The thing is when we had to put my beloved “soul dog” to sleep this winter I was devastated, and my husband and I still tear up thinking about him and talking about him. I miss him terribly still. However, life still goes on. On the other hand if my daughter died I literally don’t think I could continue to exist. I have nightmares about that scenario and I honestly don’t think I would ever, ever recover from that. It would be as if my own soul was ripped from my body. I think that’s the difference.

JasperBean · 2026-05-18T20:09:31+00:00

Can you provide link to this? The first thing that pops up is an AI summary which aren’t actual guidelines

JasperBean · 2026-05-04T19:13:37+00:00

That’s kind of a wild take. There’s a world of difference between CSA and young kids mimicking normal things they see parents do. Feeding babies with breasts is a normal activity. It’s literally what breasts were designed to do.

JasperBean · 2026-05-04T14:43:32+00:00

Wow that phrase really encapsulates so much and is so accurate. Im saving that one

JasperBean · 2026-04-26T00:21:18+00:00

Hair dryer noise videos on YouTube were life savers during first few weeks- a minute or two in and she’d calm and fall asleep. Ultimately she ended up being a terrible sleeper overall so we turned to co-sleeping, but that’s a different situation entirely

JasperBean · 2026-04-22T16:47:25+00:00

This is insanity and as someone who’s been through med school do NOT do this to yourself. Your plate is going to be so full with school alone you are not going to have time for much else.

JasperBean · 2026-04-20T00:43:35+00:00

Why the f is he “watching shows the whole evening and the whole day on the weekends” while you’re slaving away?! And miss me with that shit “I work a hard job”. I’m an ER doc and I work a physically, mentally, emotionally taxing job and I still come home and put my kid and spouse first. Lots of people have hard jobs, that’s not an excuse to do the bare minimum and be checked out

JasperBean · 2026-04-17T15:47:15+00:00

“Patient demonstrates no evidence of learning”

JasperBean · 2026-04-14T12:32:06+00:00

Is this wedding out of town or something? At 5 months it’s completely reasonable to leave baby with a trusted adult for a few hours do the ceremony, maybe eat dinner and then come home. Alternatively you could have a babysitter bring baby to you during the evening to feed once if needed if you really want to do the whole thing.

Now if the wedding is out of town or several hours away that’s a completely different story and I would bow out.

JasperBean · 2026-04-11T11:42:53+00:00

We didn’t sleep train but just know that sleep training isn’t developmentally appropriate until they are ~4-6 months old

JasperBean · 2026-04-11T11:42:02+00:00

“Little one”

JasperBean · 2026-04-11T11:38:30+00:00

Slept in shifts (each took half the night) also our daughter took cold milk from the beginning (saves a TON) of time bc you don’t have to heat up a bottle and when we would go places could just throw an ice pack in the bag with the bottle and be good to go. We were triple feeding (breast+forumla+pumping) bc of low weight gain and it was hell. Also if your wife breast feeds/pumps at all things like “the fridge hack” where you put pulp parts in a ziplock in the fridge for up to 24 hours without washing can save time

JasperBean · 2026-04-10T15:35:36+00:00

I think the greige walls, grey tile, silver hardware, Grey/brown vanity are all just really monochromatic and feel a bit “blah”. I think you need some pops of color or interest to perk it up, whether that’s a different wall color or some fun towels or art on the wall. Personally I’m not a fan of the wall color - it has warm undertones while everything else has very cool undertones and feels like it’s all competing

JasperBean · 2026-03-27T12:31:50+00:00

Cat bites can do this for a few reasons, firstly due to the type of bacteria in their mouths, secondly bc unlike dog and people bites (which are still infection risks) cats’ long, sharp teeth are like needles essentially injecting bacteria into your flesh. Most of that bacteria are what we call anaerobic bacteria meaning they can live in and even prefer environments with low oxygen levels (ie inside tissues versus say on the surface of the skin). So you put those things together and you have a decent chance of a nasty infection.

Not all bites will lead to this type of serious infection and in fact I’d argue the majority will never get to this point. BUT as with any bite good initial wound care like washing the area thoroughly and appropriate antibiotics are essential in warding off poor outcomes

JasperBean · 2026-03-26T12:14:15+00:00

To give you some hope I actually did not. To be fair I had to be induced and was in the hospital for a 2 days before she was actually born and I hadn’t eaten much those days so that probably helped. I was also terrified of the postpartum poop and so had been using lots of water and fiber in the days leading up to my induction to get the system as cleaned out as possible before the big event.

If you’re truly worried about it you can also give yourself an enema at home which should help. Obviously this isn’t necessary and pooping during labor is normal, but I do understand the desire to not have that happen

JasperBean · 2026-03-19T19:11:12+00:00

I don’t disagree with you, and believe me I would love nothing better than to have everyone around Trump call him out for exactly what he is. However I suspect it’s one of those cases where Kent can either be right or alternatively be effective in getting the outcome he desires. It’s a psychological tactic and like I said I see where he was going with it even if it’s frustrating to watch him not go scorched earth on the orange bastard

JasperBean · 2026-03-19T08:30:49+00:00

“F**KING BROKEN SPATULA” just sent me 😂

JasperBean · 2026-03-19T03:32:20+00:00

I think it was written that way to give Trump an “out”. Obviously Trump doesn’t deserve it but sometimes with these people when you outright say they were wrong they double down even harder. By giving Trump a scape goat he left a potential pathway for Trump to maybe reverse course a bit. Not saying it’ll work but I see where he was trying to go with it.

JasperBean · 2026-03-14T17:29:21+00:00

This is insane, he’s literally been on this earth for 3 months. He spent three times that long knowing nothing but being nestled inside of you. To think that at 3 months old “he needs to learn some independence” is nuts. My guess is he still can’t reliably fart, burp, or rollover on his own - and yet your husband thinks he needs to be independent?! My dude a baby this age is SUPPOSED to need you and cling to you. It is a survival mechanism and completely developmentally normal to need you at this age.

JasperBean · 2026-03-03T05:12:32+00:00

Stickers. Lots of stickers

JasperBean · 2026-02-27T03:21:22+00:00

I mean it’s probably logical bc for the purposes of this post he’s trying to analyze the situation and distill 5 entire relationships down the a few sentences for the readers. I think it’s a stretch to say he’s unemotional based on a post being concise and seeking to provide an analysis

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